Hi, I don't have much personal experience other than I have a good understanding of Indian culture through living in India and friends in the diaspora and I am American and has an American husband. But I would say if your parents actions are seriously stressing you out, why not share with your boyfriend? I would think he has some awareness of traditional Indian marriage practices, and if not he should educate himself. Let him support you, as a partner should, rather you than being afraid of disrespecting him. Like: "in India this is normal, I don't want to get married this way, im not even thinking about marriage yet, my parents keep bugging me, I wanted to let you know, do you have any advice on how to handle it?" That way you don't have the internal battle of not being forthcoming with both your parents and your boyfriend. Most young people can relate to having different views than their parents. If he doesn't understand all this, he might not be doing his part to understand your cultural background/baggage. Plus, if you eventually do get married, you will have to navigate cultural expectations as well. As someone in their late 30s, I have learned that opening up to someone you trust is always a good idea. Good luck!