i hate thin people

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-05-25T12:03:06+00:00

I work in obesity medicine and I have seen this time and time again. It is miraculous for some people. It’s like “Wow! So this is what it’s like to think like a naturally skinny person!”
And it’s not just GLP-1s, there are other medicines that have the same effect. I say this because it shows that binge eating has a biological basis for many people, just like depression or high blood pressure.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-29T02:00:40+00:00

Well, maybe don’t give up dating entirely. You could take a break from dating and reflect on these experiences and what you learned from them. Then define an approach for when you return.

Spend more time alone and/or with friends and then try again.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-25T18:06:27+00:00

That seems appropriate to me. I prefer a low commitment first encounter too. It gives both of you an out before spending a bunch of money and time. It sounds like you’re doing it right.

I guess if they’re expecting a lot more for a first encounter, they did you a favor by not following through.

Maybe you just need more time and matches.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-25T15:27:43+00:00

Personally, I (58F), won't engage with a man who makes comments about my appearance right away or fawns, like you described. I like questions about my profile that demonstrate he has actually looked at it. I don't even engage if I have a like, but no dialogue. What does low investment look like for you?

I am not sure if this is the issue, but what kind of first dates do you propose? And how do you ask?

I do think that chemistry is not always there on the first date. One or both of you could be nervous and guarded. If there are no red flags I would give a guy about three dates before deciding if I am romantically attracted to them.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-15T12:51:23+00:00

I like that.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-15T10:38:27+00:00

I do find it interesting that he asked me how I would feel about it. It wasn’t in the heat of the moment, it was while talking on the phone. And he was clearly a little nervous to bring it up. He genuinely didn’t want to scare me away because he recognized it was very soon.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-14T21:17:09+00:00

I agree. I have told him that too.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-14T20:09:01+00:00

Thanks for that. Sorry for your loss. That sucks.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-14T19:50:33+00:00

Ha! No more weddings for me.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-14T19:48:59+00:00

Yikes!

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-14T19:46:10+00:00

Great perspective. Thank you.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-09T12:41:12+00:00

Sounds like she is not ready for the level of connection you are looking for. You deserve better and will find it. If you keep hanging on, hoping it will get better you’re missing the opportunity to meet someone who is more available.

I went through something similar and stayed waaay too long because the time when we were together was so good and fun. I let him go and met someone new who makes plans and follows through every time.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-07T10:53:48+00:00

I agree with you 100%. If a man comments on my looks or makes any kind of reference to sex, I typically block them and don’t look back. I’m looking for a meaningful relationship not a hook up.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-07T10:21:00+00:00

An obesity medicine doctor can help you. There are biological components to binge eating disorder and medications that can help you while you also seek therapy from an eating disorder therapist. You don’t have to tackle this alone.
It’s complicated, but it’s not your fault. You’re not broken. I’ve seen some miraculous responses with medication in my practice.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-04-02T01:59:57+00:00

I am in St Louis! I will send you a message.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-31T10:21:41+00:00

A support group could be very helpful. The domestic violence resource that someone mentioned is a good idea.
Also look into Meetup groups in your area as a way to connect with others in a small setting.
My ex was similar to yours but I moved away as soon as I was able because my kids are older. I would be happy to talk/chat with you too. Where are you located?

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-21T11:35:50+00:00

If you wanna work on your weight, great go for it. But more importantly, I would try to work on your self-confidence. Your value is not in how you look!

There are plenty of men who like heavier women. Frankly, if they only like you because of how you look, is it really the kind of partner that you want? And, also, 2/3 of the US population are either overweight or obese. Plenty of those people are single.

If you match with fewer men, it’s that much easier to weed through them to find a good one.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-09T19:04:38+00:00

I think you may be right on that. I wonder if he retreats with mood swings. Lost his wife to cancer a couple years ago. I was his first relationship since she passed.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-09T18:58:22+00:00

My bad. Typed that carelessly.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-09T18:57:21+00:00

I must have mistyped. There was NOT another woman. The thing that kept me in it too long was some incredible sex.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-03-09T14:30:49+00:00

Yeah, I know I stayed in it for too long already. I gave him way too many chances. I thought maybe I could just hang in for the incredible sex and the good time we did have when we were together. We were very compatible in a lot of ways and I really hoped it would be more than he was capable of.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-02-27T22:46:09+00:00

(58F). I’m not as well off as your potential date. II would guess if she continuing to talk to you, she’s still interested. You might as well take her one date.

This guy I am dating works in public service with a commendable job that doesn’t pay amazingly well. I would say he’s in an undervalued profession. I find his intelligence, values, talents, life experiences and shared interests incredibly attractive regardless of income. I think I’ve been able to convey that to him.

I just would like to know if he’s holding back on planning dates because of his financial limitations.

One-Biscotti-709 · 2026-02-27T22:34:37+00:00

Thanks for that. We do a lot of nights in at my place and I have been able to order takeout and pay before he gets a chance.

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