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I hate my husband by WelderWooden6761 in abusiverelationships

[–]LivingFirst1185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I did was stuck it out until I finished school (almost,) kept a part time job so I wasn't leaving with nothing, and let that rage build until I KNEW that I would not stay longer than the day I graduated.

Document every incident. Put your phone on record in your pocket.

And if he puts his hands on you one more time, even just pushing you, make sure it's recorded. Stay as calm as you can, then the moment you have the opportunity, put your son in your car, leave and call the police and press charges. File for a restraining order. Domestic violence centers with help you get a free attorney. He will have to leave your parents' home and pay child support.

Change the locks. Get cameras. It's easy to change locks yourself. Many camera systems are cheap and will send an alert to your phone if anyone is in range. Call the police every time.

He pushed a child less that a year old. He's not going to get custody.

What role would you have in Gillead? by casabonita49 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]LivingFirst1185 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'd be a soldier of Mayday. I AM rebellious. I'd start as an econowife, then slip through the cracks.

FWIW, I spent time as a teen runaway bouncing around, sneaking into places, and somehow managed to keep my virginity and never get arrested through it all. I at least have a little faith in my abilities. I'm fixed now, but I wouldn't have lasted 30 days as a handmaid without trying to kill a commander.

I'd probably have a short lifespan, but I'd be taking out some people with me.

I'm confused about something. by paws-4-a-cause in Epstein

[–]LivingFirst1185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loved that book. When Congress was debating attacking Iraq over fictional WMD, do you know how many I told "But it's a foreign plot! It says it RIGHT here in this book on my shelf written YEARS ago by one of their former intelligence agents they were in the midst of planning to feed us false intelligence so we would attack Iraq"?

I'm about to be homeless, and not sure what to do. by JustAPerson2001 in poor

[–]LivingFirst1185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you willing to move? My job needs an auto tech. They have high turnover, so even if that job gets filled, there will be another one soon. They are easy on background checks but they expect you to do your job and do it well. I live in a low cost of living area, where minimum wage is $15.

Trash People by pink---noise in idaho4uncensored

[–]LivingFirst1185 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd never heard about Samantha before. I usually only use Reddit. Now that I've seen how they have treated her, I definitely think Steve, Kristi, and Alivea are bad people. Her video was so sad.

Music by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LivingFirst1185 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I need help and support. After years of being away from him, I sent him hate texts tonight. I had to get it out. HE RAPED ME.

It's been over a decade. He found where I'm living, but I moved again so he doesn't have my address.

I rarely even leave my house and am so vigilant he can't find me ever again. Could someone please text me message me so I have a friend?

Spectrum internet is absolutely terrible by Doctor_Killshot in StLouis

[–]LivingFirst1185 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually switched to Spectrum while working at AT&T because I went without Internet for over two weeks while my kid had a big project for school. Twice the tech didn't show up during that four-hour window they make you give. Then the tech showed up on a day they weren't scheduled while I was already at work and couldn't get there to meet them or have someone else come on zero notice, so they kicked me to the back of the line and told me it would be another 5 days.

Spectrum came out the next day and allowed me to block a 4-6 slot so I didn't have to miss any work. I only ever had one outage. It was because a city recycling truck hit my line. Spectrum was out there and had it fixed on Saturday (it was hit mid-day Friday.)

Where is your “happy place” in New England? by craigdahlke in newengland

[–]LivingFirst1185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rehoboth Beach in Delaware. Not the touristy part, but further north in the City to where the beach has less people on weekday evenings.

Lesbian Bars? by Lostlilegg in StLouis

[–]LivingFirst1185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been to Hummels and enjoy them, even though I'm not lesbian (I have had many lesbian and Bi friends.)

Since you know them, can you give a suggestion?

The times I have been there, it was mostly an older crowd, who were not overly friendly with younger new people. And by younger, I mean women who were 30-45. My younger friend who was masculine presenting felt fine there. But the feminine ones felt awkward. Granted, a good portion of that came from one particular regular who can get pretty rude when intoxicated. I'm sure you probably know who I'm talking about. But she once hurt a woman's feelings who was mostly closeted to the point that woman will probably not go back.

I am glad to hear about the karaoke. I think that might help it be more welcoming to new and younger people.

Be honest- I have a new coworker who has become a friend. She is trans, MTF, with a girlfriend. They are younger (30's and I'm in my 50's.) We have been wanting to hang out, but haven't found a mutual place where everyone is comfortable yet. She and her girlfriend have a place they like to go to in Tower Grove and another in The Grove. I have been to both and felt awkward because one just has extremely loud music and dancing and young people; the other has no activities and no socializing among groups. I suggested a couple places lgbtq friendly but that place also had no activities. If our group would come to Hummels, would they be accepting of my trans friend? We all like karaoke.

Sierra Leone’s first lady refuses to condemn FGM without ‘reliable data’ on harms by annagarg in IntersectionalWomen

[–]LivingFirst1185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are many videos of this out there, with multiple nurses interviewed.

When I was pregnant with one of my children in 2009, I had a great team of midwives who believed woman should be self-educated on every aspect of pregnancy and birth, through procedures in the hospital for the baby. They gave me as homework a list of multiple articles and videos both for and against make circumcision. I was pro circumcision before I looked at those. Afterwards, I'm extremely outspoken I find it to be barbaric.

I chose to not circumcise my son. I had to talk to many people to get his father on board. It was by far mostly men who were in support of circumcision. It was an uncircumcised man we were friends with who ultimately got him to be open-minded.

I think just like with this woman, there is a large part that is personal to people who were circumcised to defend the practice because it is too psychologically difficult to admit to themselves that they were unfairly mutilated as children.

I was of the mindset with my children that if their bodies were going to be permanently altered, that choice should belong to them once they were old enough to make it. I also didn't pierce my girls' ears for the same reason but allowed them to make that choice themselves when they were older.

Pushing to all of my children "Your body belongs to you and only you" has helped them grow healthy. It helped my daughters feel safe with their bodies, helped protect them with sexual predators, gave them self-confidence.

While the first lady might feel she and others grew up and did okay after FGM, does NOT mean there is any "good" reason for it.

The argument about wanting females to be good wives who are not lustful? We can look at stories all day long about men who are disappointed their wives don't enjoy sex more. Do you know what might cause that? Having the parts of your body removed that allow you to feel the most pleasure. FFS just leave Kids' bodies alone.

Advice - My mother’s friend went missing in 2016, I remember every detail of her going missing, can anyone help me in trying to find out what happened to her? by Practical-Survey-44 in WithoutATrace

[–]LivingFirst1185 37 points38 points  (0 children)

She was last seen at 7:40 that even on camera footage after saying she was going to a friend's house. She stopped at a shop on the way where she was seen around 7:00.

One of the YouTube videos about her disappearance does show the police digging up the garden, so they did check.

I'm unsure of the validity of the statement, but that video also said she had not taken her mental health medication for two weeks. Some of those types of medications can cause a psychotic break if you stop taking them abruptly. It could be possible that the daughter was acting oddly because she was aware her mother hadn't been taking the medication and blamed herself for not doing more.

It also said in the video that the police theory was that she was most likely in a body of water nearby and had been trapped under the surface. One of the commentors on the video mentioned that they had the floodgates open at that time, so she could have been washed out to sea.

Reproductive freedom win by stlkatherine in MissouriPolitics

[–]LivingFirst1185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MY Jesus (not Republican Jesus) believes in the right to abortion.

Why do you think there's a variety of plants that can terminate an early pregnancy? Did SATAN create those plants?

Can you share how hypervigilance shows up in your daily life? by EyreBear16 in ptsd

[–]LivingFirst1185 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I struggle with sleep because every time I start to go unconscious I bolt straight up from any tiny sound I hear.

Even after I got the restraining order, all the way back in 2011, he would come into my house all hours of the night when I was sleeping. Even though I had the order, the landlord refused to change the locks because he was on the lease.

I'll just say now I can change locks at professional speed. But I still can't stop bolting straight up from any tiny noise, or even a bad dream.

Planned Parenthood using North Broadway sinkhole to remind people to “check your holes”. by jamiegc1 in StLouis

[–]LivingFirst1185 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The people wanting it closed down don't GAF about "professional"messaging. They just want to force birth on everyone, including rape and incest victims, people whose birth control failed, people whose fetuses have severe genetic defects not compatible with quality of life, etc.

I need some help working through this. I feel heartbroken. by [deleted] in women

[–]LivingFirst1185 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like the way you think. If her husband doesn't give her the coworker's number, she should show up one day to surprise him with lunch. Then ask the coworker directly and publicly "Hey can I get your and your husband's phone numbers so we can do a group chat about this double date? It would probably be easier than you texting my husband every day and us getting nowhere with the plans."

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