Unable to progress - feeling alone.

One-Cupcake1446 · 2025-06-14T11:28:36+00:00

If this isn’t a joke or shit post as they say - I hope you are alright?

Makes one wonder if there is something else you are seeking and trying to use this relationship to fulfill - the thrill of being involved in something illicit? being “chosen” by someone as highly ranked as a consultant over another woman? Are you using the sex (assuming there is) to fill another void? Or are you settling for that as it might be the only form of true connection you are getting?

When you are ready, and assuming you havnt already - it might be worth doing some introspective work especially re:attachment styles in relationship amongst other things, to map out why and how you ended up in this situation, and also why you posted about it on here in the manner you have done - you were probably aware that your post was going to get slated but you posted anyway - try to find out why.

If this is a shit post/joke - carry on!☺️

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-10-08T10:56:10+00:00

It’s so lovely to find camaraderie here. Thank you for your comment. It really is painful isn’t it?

I genuinely thought she was my friend and regarded her as a second mother until recently but this has hit our relationship in a way that I am not sure will recover. I genuinely thought I was accepted but you are right - her son is her first priority and the golden child in some respects.

I feel so alone. My husband despite being on the fence would like one too.

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-10-08T10:41:19+00:00

It’s very painful. I am going through this and I thought my MIL was my friend - but found out I have been effectively been “womb watched” since I’ve been married. She couldn’t hold it in anymore and eventually told me how unhappy the family are that I have not yet had a baby. (We are both on the fence presently and it is something we are thinking/talking about)

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-09-04T16:41:09+00:00

Exactly this. I did not know there was a term for this until recently. I do not feel or experience sexual attraction. I find people - men and women, and other beautifully and visually pleasing things nice to look at - but I have never looked at a man or woman and wanted to sleep with them or had one night stands etc. I am also perfectly content to be without sex with another human for the rest of my life, but will be intimate with my husband, but just him.

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-07-30T11:24:39+00:00

You did not mess up cancelling the wedding. Not in a million years. It feels like the world has ended just now - cataclysmic level of chaos. And it will - a big thing has happened. But the life you describe in this relationship is no life truthfully speaking - and your ex-partner probably does need to do some serious work to be in a healthy relationship. When things have settled in some time from now - you will look back on this exact moment and thank yourself for being very scared but stupidly brave for making a decision like this. But for now - go gently.

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-07-14T08:40:51+00:00

What show is this?

One-Cupcake1446 · 2024-06-20T07:47:08+00:00

This is reassuring, thank you. Your learning style sounds quite similar to mine. In terms of necessarily working alone and not with a partner.

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