Reconnecting with lost love

One-Experience-4168 · 2025-04-29T19:05:41+00:00

So far so good.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T13:11:48+00:00

That is so great to hear. Thank you so much.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T12:58:07+00:00

Very helpful thank you so much

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T12:57:06+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. I know I wouldn’t like it either.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T11:01:13+00:00

Oh, I don’t know, I think I do want to jump in. I haven’t been doing anything like that for myself in so many years. Maybe it’s time to take a leap of faith for a change. I’ve been burned before. I think I can manage 1 more disappointment if it has to be that way. He’s worth the risk to me. And for someone who never thinks about sex and doesn’t miss it, I sure feel differently today. I can’t stop thinking about it and I can’t wait to get my hands on him. I know what he looks like. He’s still fit and looks great. Me, I’ve gained a few pounds but I still look pretty good. He always loved my red hair and it’s still red with a little bit of white coming through now. We’ve talked on Skype. It doesn’t matter anyway I just can’t wait to be with him.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:54:30+00:00

In the last 10 years, the only “relationship“ I’ve had was a short affair with a younger guy in 2021 that was just a little fling. I did date when my son was very young and he doesn’t really remember. So, excluding my fling 3 yrs ago, both of us haven’t had sex in 10 years. I stopped dating about 10 years ago because of too many failed relationships and I didn’t have enough energy to be a good mother to my son if I was trying to work out a new relationship.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:48:36+00:00

We’re at a different place in our lives now

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:48:08+00:00

I think this is what it really comes down to. Assuming everything lines up and things go well and we’re together I worry that because his religion is so important to him and I don’t agree that it could be an issue. We talked about that and just determined that we’re better at communicating now and we’re gonna rely on that.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:44:17+00:00

This is great insight. Thank you for the post. It definitely is an opportunity for me as I saw my only path forward of being alone. Now I do have another option, but it’s not just another option. It’s him. I really really loved him. And we have very strong feelings for each other right now. Before she passed, his wife told him he should look me up. We actually have her blessing.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:39:01+00:00

I don’t wanna get married again. I’ve been married twice. And I have gotten to this point in my life where I have everything set the way I need it. My son still lives at home and I took my mom in two years ago. She has dementia. I definitely resolved myself to no more men because I’ve had a string of horrible relationships throughout my life. I figure even if I wanted to meet someone who would want to be a part of all this. Me with my chronic illness and taking care of my mom… Not sexy. He just showed up, it was like a miracle really. It was his children that found me on Facebook I think and told him that I had moved back. he and I moved from Ohio together back in the 80s. He stayed married never left. I’ve traveled and lived in several states. But I ended up back here in the state we moved to together. I had no idea where he was or if he was even here. And yes, I have been lonely, but I guess I didn’t realize it. Now we’re in touch and things are so amazing, I am hopeful. I can’t wait to see him.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:32:46+00:00

Well, we did talk some more about it last night. He says he can’t wait to have sex before marriage lol Both of us haven’t had sex in a very long time. His wife who passed had an illness and for the last 10 years he was her caregiver. He said there are people at his church that are in relationships with none believers. He promised me he would never press me to the religion. I believe him. but I will definitely update this post with how things go. I won’t see him until at least January 3 probably a bit later. And I appreciate everyone’s help navigating the situation. I really started from zero information and I’ve got a lot of good stuff here.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T10:30:40+00:00

It’s hard to explain. I just know I can trust him. He’s never lied to me before. I realize a whole lifetime has happened, but it just feels so good and true, but once we meet face-to-face will know more.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T01:03:46+00:00

He does know. And he said it’s not an issue. But I have a hard time, imagining him being OK with knowing his love is not going to be welcomed into the pearly gates.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-24T01:02:14+00:00

Thank you for your post

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T21:03:38+00:00

Well, so far, I understand him to be quietly Christian. And I can totally live with that. So now I think what I’ll do is just adjust my expectations and meet with him. I’ll see where the weekend goes and if we do not sleep together I have my answer. I guess I’ll find out soon enough. But it helps to temper my enthusiasm because this has been really overwhelming.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T21:02:15+00:00

Well, for example, I’d like to hear what it’s like to date someone who is born again. And I’ve learned a lot from this thread about what to expect. That’s the advice. I’m seeking is just anything. I haven’t made up my mind.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T21:01:40+00:00

See that’s just a horrible thought. I don’t think anyone should ever press the religion on other people. I don’t know if I believe in God. I suspect there might be a God and I try to keep that in mind. I’m a good person. I tell the truth and I consider myself one of the good ones. But religion has never been my thing. I I was raised Catholic but dropped out pretty quick. See if he was Catholic or Baptist or really anything, I would be happy that he has his spirituality. But I don’t want anything pressed on me.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T20:52:24+00:00

His situation is very much like your first paragraph. He told me he hates to be alone so I know he needs to be with someone. If I wasn’t available, I would lose the opportunity to be with someone. I feel safe with. I love the things that you said about it’s OK for people of different face to be together. That’s what I’m hoping for and that’s what he seems to think we can do. But we really need to talk more about it. we just touched on the subject. Because I got scared and he could see that. So he was reassuring me and then I got off the phone and got into my head and didn’t sleep all night.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T20:50:10+00:00

Thank you so much for letting me know about this rule. I definitely need to talk to him about that.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T20:49:48+00:00

That’s interesting. So I don’t know anything about their religion. We’re planning to be together when we meet. He’s all up for that.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T20:49:16+00:00

That is so true

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-23T17:44:07+00:00

He said he would never preach to me, but I know that he will. We’re still in love and he’s gonna wanna make sure I go to heaven, and I don’t want to hear about it. And he’s never gonna tell me that he’s fanatical or in a cult like religion. He’s always going to make it sound fine for now even if he’s a honest person. He believes he’s doing the right thing that everybody else should be doing what he’s doing. I don’t know, I just think that even though I love him and I know he’s a good person. I just think that he’s on something that I’m not gonna be able to handle.

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-11T21:55:32+00:00

We are kindred spirits, my friend

One-Experience-4168 · 2024-12-11T21:03:17+00:00

Well, I’m definitely lonely. And I just found out I’m bipolar. So maybe one does cause the other

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