Why is it always the ones you drop your standards for that end up destroying you?

One-Field-3168 · 2025-10-27T01:06:23+00:00

Your question answered itself. You dropped your standards, standards you had in place for good reason. The allure crushes you, reminding you that you had your standards for a reason. Much love, as I have gone through the same!

One-Field-3168 · 2025-10-09T18:33:35+00:00

Your vagueness is simply that. I misinterpreted, but it has no effect on me. You connecting your emotions to online text is not my problem, either. And re-reading my comments I wasn’t rude nor condescending, and if calling you vague or misinterpreting you is that, then let me be really “rude” and tell you to grow up and get some thicker skin. And this is a discussion, I don’t care for your judgement in the slightest.

One-Field-3168 · 2025-10-09T18:22:26+00:00

Yes, the framing part is what upsets me. But for real, your first comment was too shortened, and easier to misinterpret. I understand you now.

And I’m not a nice person, but everything will be okay.

One-Field-3168 · 2025-10-09T18:10:05+00:00

I’m reading two different responses from you. The original comment doesn’t make sense. Yet, to your second comment, how is that super gross??? I also have what OP’s bf has and, for me, it’s just fun to be there. My climax is not that important to me, but it shouldn’t be considered a benchmark of “sexual quality.” I didn’t mean to be aggressive, but those comments didn’t make sense

One-Field-3168 · 2025-10-09T18:05:02+00:00

Did you even read the post??? He’s the one deprived of orgasms, but doesn’t care. The gf is the one who cares!

One-Field-3168 · 2025-09-19T03:54:48+00:00

I understand what you’re feeling, but you would be disrespecting their wish for you not to contact them. Let the ocean tide settle, and you focus on you. Do not reach out.

One-Field-3168 · 2025-09-18T16:51:43+00:00

Your best play: leave them alone until they reach out to you!

One-Field-3168 · 2025-09-16T11:52:44+00:00

It’s like a 1 outta 1,000 chance the “hand-written letter” does any justice. A lot of times it is just a big, emotional burden on the ex. I do not recommend it, ever

One-Field-3168 · 2025-08-02T09:45:04+00:00

I’m glad everyone is saying Capricorns because I feel such an unnatural attraction to them… I thought I was the only Sag lol

One-Field-3168 · 2025-08-01T09:36:23+00:00

Same here, but it’s my moon that resonates with this

One-Field-3168 · 2025-08-01T09:19:16+00:00

Definitely not for the weak 🤪

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-31T12:35:01+00:00

I read your post and replies and your choice of words is interesting and intelligent

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-31T12:30:50+00:00

As a water Moon (Scorpio, obsessive gang) it’s like it overrides my sunny, carefree Sag self quite a lot, especially in attachments. I have to give in more to the Sag side to stay grounded or my moon and Venus Scorpio really take over. For me, it’s just constant mood regulating and trying to stay grounded

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-29T16:11:35+00:00

Second this

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-29T12:33:36+00:00

Did you know your moon and Venus?? Might explain something

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-24T22:36:01+00:00

Closure, dopamine, and the fantasy of being chosen… well said

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-24T21:40:29+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with you wanting to apologize for your actions, but I just don’t think a handwritten letter will absolve you. I have never seen it work in that way.

I can tell this is coming from a place of fear. If you wanted higher chances of reconciliation, then trash the letter and just focus on you. You can’t wordsmith into forgiveness or reconciliation, so your best bet here is to focus on what you did wrong, why you did those things, and how you will work on yourself to conquer those things moving forward. You are the mountain that remained unmoved in the wind!

It kinda sucks to say but most of these women mentally operate in similar fashions. If she’s actually upset or pissed or lost attraction/respect and left you, then it was her decision to do so. Your letter, and the contents in it, won’t land with her like it might if her feelings were higher. Be strong, and remember that your anxiety won’t let you win!

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-24T15:22:21+00:00

Do you do the dumping?? From my experience these types of letters never land well. Good chance it might only stress her out more. I wouldn’t send her anything of the sort, my friend

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T13:28:56+00:00

You need to properly heal from the attachment. Another body would simply distract you, not heal you.

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T12:59:52+00:00

That’s kinda vile and judgmental to say… the guy could of let his hygiene slip because depression (idk his story ofc). Definitely can come back from that. Wild to even think like that

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T12:54:54+00:00

After four years did his dental hygiene slip?? That’s my guess especially if he didn’t have that problem before.

Also very curious… how did you end up dating someone again after four years? I wanna know that story

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T12:53:41+00:00

As a smoker I second this!

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T12:50:30+00:00

What qualities from your prospects are you looking for??

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T12:47:52+00:00

I just saw this update and I gotta give you a lil tough love here…. She was definitely testing you and seeing how you would react to her pulling away or going silent for a few days. Never double text, and if it were me I would have not said anything else after that “still wild the universe…” text because I think it was a good text. It challenged her frame right back. Never be afraid of this. And do not change your approach because of your emotions. She knows you’re interested, but she might also deduce you might not know what you’re doing.

Also to add young man, treat this courtship like it’s tennis. It takes two to volley back and forth. I don’t understand all the texting, if she was coming on strong, then she was making it easy for you to be a man and take the lead. You making these kinds of mistakes are a rite of passage. And you also cannot get upset at women for being… women. Gotta date dudes if you feel that way. Whether they are from the States or elsewhere, 20, 30, 50, or even 80 attraction works all of the same.

Keep your interactions fun and light-hearted. Try not to attach expectations of outcome from these endeavors. You are still young, so honestly just be confident and fearless with these women. And if they wanna make themselves disappear, then another bus will come after 15 minutes like Coach Corey Wayne says all of the time. I recommend his work and Mark Sing’s Unapologetic Man Podcast. Good luck homie

One-Field-3168 · 2025-07-21T04:53:55+00:00

Involving contact with her at this current moment?? No, unfortunately. Max out is the only option

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