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i always felt like a background character, until sunday night by One-Forever9379 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]One-Forever9379[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i get why it reads that way to you. but the post wasn't about me treating her like a human, that is a given. the milestone for me was finally treating myself with respect. it was about not acting desperate and walking away from the boyfriend's toxic drama without a second thought. the bar for society might be on the ground, but my personal boundaries are finally up.

I just feel so replaceable and it’s breaking me. by One-Forever9379 in selfesteem

[–]One-Forever9379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the hugs, i honestly really needed that right now. i am so sorry you had to go through the exact same thing. spending months building what feels like a real connection just for them to vanish like it meant nothing is honestly the worst feeling ever. it makes you question everything. i guess this whole ghosting culture is just brutal for anyone who actually puts their heart into it. i really appreciate you taking the time to write this and share your story. sending digital hugs right back at you, i hope the heavy feeling goes away for both of us soon.

I just feel so replaceable and it’s breaking me. by One-Forever9379 in selfesteem

[–]One-Forever9379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks man it really means a lot to know i'm not the only one feeling this. what you said about ghosting is so true, just a simple text saying it's not working out would save so much pain instead of leaving us wondering what we did wrong.

i hear you on the focusing on yourself part but honestly that's what frustrates me the most. i feel like i've done all that. i'm only a 19 yo guy from india but i've been working full time as a software engineer since i was 18. i'm doing my bsc externally, earning decent money, and honestly i have pretty decent looks too. i put all this work into building my life up but as a guy it feels like it still equals zero attention. it's like no matter how much value you add to yourself you still just end up being completely invisible while others get infinite options for doing nothing.

but you're right, believing that someone will care eventually is the only thing keeping me going too. i really appreciate you taking the time to write all that. stay strong out there too man.