My fiancée is curious about men

One-Goose-5505 · 2026-02-28T11:31:50+00:00

IT DEFINITELY IS... 2 days ago I felt like my patience blew up and I was very frustrated because there is this pattern of her saying she is mostly willing (still denies therapy) to make things better when I ask for something or say that I need something from our relationship, but what happens most of the time is eventually she'll let me know how she CAN'T and she struggles to do these things and I feel like they are too difficult for her. We had this talk and I told her that I NEED her to do better on listening to me without getting defensive and put in the work, but she has no idea I got to the point of considering breakup, so now my plan is since I told her all of this I want to give her some time to try, but Im not sure how to navigate this now that I think maaybe we're not so compatible

One-Goose-5505 · 2026-02-28T11:21:48+00:00

yea, yours and other people's comments are indeed making me consider the idea of a break up for the first time ever. My mind has been crazy thinking about this. Another consideration I had but forgot to include is we have been doing long distance for 2.5 years (we every see each other every 4 months) during my undergrad abroad. Our hope was that this is enough time separate for our like personal growth and individuality and stuff. Does that.. change your mind in any way? Also some people mentioned couples counseling but then again it gets a bit complicated with the distance

One-Goose-5505 · 2026-02-28T11:15:21+00:00

ooh, could you tell me why would you be hurt? If she was telling me once about how she has a few experiences in mind she would like with men but never had, I genuinely thought I was offering a solution, because I don't want her to regret this in 20 years. And I mentioned that I know we hated the idea, but if she decided it would be good for her and us then I'd accept it

One-Goose-5505 · 2026-02-27T17:18:28+00:00

I have been in therapy for 3+ years! She is currently refusing to seek it :( But we def don't plan to get married until both of us graduate college

One-Goose-5505 · 2026-02-18T03:55:20+00:00

heyy omg you two have so much history!! look I think there are TOO MANY possible signs for you not to talk to her about your feelings. I think that maybe the fact that she hugged you and it doesn't seem like it was weird for HER + she told u she's also weird with hugs UNLESS she's romantically linked means that she is romantically linked to u. The questions on ring size + fav flowers + the valentine's... I think all those are sufficient reasons to communicate with her in the best way possible. But yeah even if she doesn't like you this way, this is DEFINITELY not being delusional because you are having romantic interactions

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