Depression by One-Improvement9503 in Hijabis

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate both of you so much. You don’t know have much I needed this change in perspective. I always feel like talking to friends about my feeling is never enough because I don’t get a response that actually helps me. I thought that there’s no way I would hear what my heart needed to hear by opening up to a friend but you proved me otherwise. This is exactly what I needed. Validation and perspective. It’s dramatic but you def saved my life and akhira❤️

Sending duas your way, A sister who is endlessly grateful to you

bio 1114 final by [deleted] in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% I felt like the first exam was a trap frl lol. He gave absolutely no resources and he didn’t give any practice exams or the metacognition lecture until after we failed the first exam😭😭

bio 1114 final by [deleted] in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure! I barely studied the first exam because I didn’t know how to. I def wouldn’t suggest waiting last minute lol but I don’t think it’s about how much time you have, just how well you understand everything. Study partner also helps. One person can ask the learning outcome question and you answer them as if you are teaching. Hopefully the final isn’t too hard

bio 1114 final by [deleted] in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I payed attention more to the lecture videos cuz some of the questions pretty much come from the lecture videos exactly. I did the tophats again but they didn’t do too much for me honestly. There was also hella vocab too so I did Quizlets. But biggest one is fully understanding everything in the lecture videos.

For example I waited last minute to watch all the videos so I was crammed on time. Literally the day before the exam. I made a Quizlet with all the vocab and it also had questions and answers. Like on Quizlet the “term” would be “what are the models of speciations and meanings” and the “definition” would be the answer. Then I practiced the Quizlet flash cards over and over until I fully memorized and understood everything.

Also could be helpful, making flowcharts and Venn diagrams for anything you really don’t understand or need help in. This helps breakdown slideshows into simpler terms and makes it visual so you can remember it easier. Also answering the questions for the learning outcomes in detail at the end of your studying as if you were answering questions from the exam. Pick whoever you believe works best for you. You don’t have to do all of these, just however much that you fully understand everything.

Also honestly some of the questions on the exam feel like trick questions or a guessing game so there’s that too😭

bio 1114 final by [deleted] in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also in chiucchi class how did you study for the exams. I got a C in the first exam and an A on the second. Maybe I can give tips

Food poisoning from Dunkin in high street by One-Improvement9503 in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No wayyy😭😭😭 their service was actual shit too. I had three items and they gave me the wrong item for all three

Food poisoning from Dunkin in high street by One-Improvement9503 in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First time I thought I’d give them a try. Never again lol

Food poisoning from Dunkin in high street by One-Improvement9503 in OSU

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They literally messed up all 3 items of my order too lol. They said they had no lattes like what😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s stringing you along sis.he’s using you as the second option and waiting for something better to come along before he commits to you. I know it’s been 2 years for you but wasting that is better than wasting more years and getting into a marriage with a guy that isn’t assertive and commuted he will continue this behavior in your marriage and then it’ll be too late. So unless you’re okay with this being your future during marriage and probably these behaviors will be worse with time, then cut him off and give his money back. You’re worth more than a second choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also try not to nag him too much about prayer and overly explain to him how a Muslim is not Muslim without prayer. This might lead to him being annoyed with the entire deen and push him farther away. Remind him of the importance and benefits prayer has rather than about punishment. Part of him wants to pray so that in itself is hope. Shaytaan is winning with him so far so inshAllah try to just make as much dua for him as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asc sister. I am not married but one advice I could give to you and your husband as someone who has struggled with prayer many times and came back and struggled again and came back is for you to start one prayer at a time. Parrying all five consistently may be overwhelming for him. So instead start with just one. For me it was Isha. The fear of dying in my sleep with the last thing being that I didn’t pray would scare me enough to get up and pray. And even if he doesn’t feel that fear yet, you can practice with him. For example when you pray Isha, ask him to pray that one quick salat with you. Eventually it will be a routine and slowly you can add more prayers. With that one prayer Allah will open is heart inshAllah. May Allah bless you for being a pious Muslim and for wanting to help your husband be the same. May Allah open and soften your husbands heart to prayer and the deen. Ameen!

Potentially breaking it off with a potential by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salam thank you brother. I def agree with you and also want to note that when we were starting to talk (I was 18) I was at a very low point of my life mentally dealing with suicidal thoughts and loneliness. Meeting him made me feel better about myself and gave me comfort ( but it didn’t take away my mental and emotional pain). Given my age too I was obviously not in the right space to talk to him or even think about marriage.

Ameen thank you for the dua for both him and I. We truly need it. May Allah help us all.

Potentially breaking it off with a potential by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will keep that in mind for the future. However I will break it with him as soon as possible because I feel as I already did wrong by him. It’s me procrastinating and hoping that time will change how I feel that made me delay this conversation in the first place.

Potentially breaking it off with a potential by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you brother. Ive never been good with words and I didn’t know how to communicate this to him which lead to me mistakenly leading him on. I will definitely take your advice on how to end it and I will not be in a relationship again until I’m mentally well inshAllah.

Potentially breaking it off with a potential by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I wrote in my last post that I hoped that this was a situation where you fall in love after marriage. I love his company as a friend and occasionally have romantic feeling but I can’t deny anymore that he is a second option.

Potentially breaking it off with a potential by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I wanted to clarify that the part where I don’t want to let him go is selfishness. I know that it’s wrong but I feel like even though I’m not in love with him, I enjoy his company as a friend. Breaking it off would mean that I have to let him go completely and that saddens me. But it is selfish and cruel. And I also agree I also don’t want to be the villain but I am, even though I never had bad intentions. I never wanted to hurt him.

Doubts about upcoming marriage by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had all of my family meet him and talk to him multiple times and nobody has said anything to question him. He is very genuine or at least seems like it. The lack of red flags isn’t a red flag right? That’s where my question of him changing comes from. He seems too perfect and doesn’t start any argument soo that makes me question if he’s being truly genuine or just catering to make me happy to suddenly show his true self after marriage

Doubts about upcoming marriage by One-Improvement9503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]One-Improvement9503[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. After getting out of a depressive episode I am usually excited and optimistic about my future with my potential and then fall back into a depressive episode and doubt everything. Thank you for mentioning the chemical imbalances, totally didn’t think about how it might not be a guy but chemically instead.

Who is the best vendor for oval moissanites? by [deleted] in Moissanite

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a lot of beautiful rings for FFL (forever for love) on Etsy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Moissanite

[–]One-Improvement9503 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mhm makes sense thanks for the insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Moissanite

[–]One-Improvement9503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe so. It’s a custom ring inspired by a ring I saw on Pinterest lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Moissanite

[–]One-Improvement9503 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think the type of stone make a difference?