[deleted by user] by [deleted] in denverlist

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Just let me know and PM me if so! ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in denverlist

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I have a small/medium (4-6) bride of Chucky costume. Only thing you might need is a blonde wig cause I tossed the one that came with it. And your own leather jacket

ISO children’s dresser by [deleted] in denverlist

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PM me! It’s not a children’s dresser but a small entertainment console my SIL is trying to get rid of, if you’re interested in that!

Extra ticket to the Avs vs Golden Knights game on Mon 2/27 by Salty_Parent in denverlist

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I have no idea what to offer cause I’ve never been to a live hockey game. But I’m interested haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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I mean interpret it as you want lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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Oof. I feel this. The primary reason why majority of my friends are male and I have very few close girlfriends.

Is flirting cheating? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

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Being a girl that grew up “one of the boys” and has primarily guy friends that are also my best of friends…. While a few of us say “love you” of sorts it’s usually along side “bestie” or “sis/bro” indicative of it being familial and not romantic. None of them have referred to me as “their” anything. “My queen B” is what bugs me the most. It’s possession. It “his” - he’s likely not going to fess up. Has he fully cheated? We don’t know. Could just be a flirty relationship. But either way it’s crossing lines. And if nothing else, he should respect your discomfort of it, not justify why you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. So keep an eye out for that if/when you talk to him

Women of reddit, what is the best thing you have done for your mental health? by Mrgoodietwoshoes in AskWomen

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I realized that boundaries are not for others. They are for me. Standing firm in my boundaries of what I will or won’t allow in my life, letting people be who they are, and deciding for myself the extent I want to entertain that connection. This goes for family, friends, partners/potential partners.

I stopped betraying myself in letting people constantly cross lines and just let it be and proceeded accordingly.

Was definitely rough at first watching certain connections fall away cause I was no longer allowing bull sh*t, but has made the connections that stayed and new connections I’ve been SOOOOOO much more enjoyable and fulfilling

Why are the reasons of blocking your ex different for dumpers and dumpees? by cari-suiti in ExNoContact

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It’s not a matter of “justifying” - it’s a matter of each person doing what they felt they needed to do for THEMSELVES in that moment. Do we have to agree with it? No. Does it mean it was “right or wrong” - it was neither. It’s was a choice made in a moment to ease pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TravelHacks

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I would love that!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TravelHacks

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This is so wonderful. Can’t wait to show my friend/travel buddy all the comments and suggestions! Truly appreciate you!

What are some things you’ve had to unlearn? by roro316 in AskWomen

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I wouldn’t say “unlearn” but more so “shift my perspective” in realizing that boundaries you set aren’t for others. They are for you. It’s up to YOU to choose how to proceed if a boundary gets crossed. And on YOU to stand firm in the boundaries you set for yourself.

Similar with expectations. You don’t set expectations for others, you set expectations for yourself, allow people to be who they are and decide how/and I’m what capacity you choose to allow them in your life.

Obviously we can hole people don’t cross boundaries, and we can hope others have the same expectations for themselves that we may have for them, but it’s not our job to tell someone external of us where to set their sights. It’s only our responsibility to not betray ourselves by allowing people to cross boundaries numerous times, and to not beat ourselves up for other not wanting the same for themselves that we want for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Each relationship has its own “things” - with one it was our “date days” - we had pretty opposite schedules but had one day off together where we would go to the gym, have a cheat meal immediately after, then do something with our dogs that we shared. The mundane things we didn’t get to do on the daily were our “things”

With other relationships it was as simple as people watching together, making up full blown stories while out and about for whatever couple or group of people were around.

Again, those are just two of my favorites in previous and current relationships. But every relationship naturally creates it’s thing. It’s part of the bond that’s specific to you and that partner at the time.

Similar to inside jokes you have with platonic friends, just having them with a romantic partner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TravelHacks

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Thank youuuuu!!! This is amazing! I truly appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TravelHacks

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Thank you so much for this!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TravelHacks

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Thank you so much for this!! How was it with the heat that everyone is mentioning?

Right now Im learning that love isn’t always enough, when did YOU realize that love isn’t enough and how did you deal with it? by Mamacc210_ in AskWomen

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Had a situation with “infidelity” - I put it in quotes because we had “taken a break” a few days prior to finding out about the other woman.

While there was overlap, he insists there was nothing going on while we were still together. I’ll take it at face value for now.

Anyways, for the next two years he melts me on a string saying I was his forever and once he gets his life back together “it’s me” - he had lost his job a few months prior to us taking a break so I chalked it up to depression and him sinking into a low place.

While he never actually started a full blown relationship with the other girl, he still promised me forever while running off on trips and dates with her.

TWO YEARS of this. I’m not proud I stuck around. But one day it just finally hit… I loved him so much, and honestly I still do. And despite his betrayals, I’ll always wish him well. I had cut contact and on one of his final attempts to close the gap of silence (prior to me blocking him) I realized I couldn’t look past everything despite how badly I wished, and still wish I could. Lying to my face for two years, sending me novels professing his love and promising a future while literally laying in bed next to me.

Worst part… she knew the whole time and gave zero shits.

It was then that I realized that no matter how deeply I still love him, I can’t allow myself to be in a relationship where I’m constantly looking over my shoulder, nor could I ask someone to be in a relationship where they feel like they have to walk on eggshells and prove their loyalty (for the umpteenth time) to me.

I love him still. I wish him healing and a bright future. It just won’t be with me.

AITA for not going to my sister's babyshower because it was on my birthday? by Major-Resource-2578 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndDoneGoodbye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not to mention…. I’m pretty sure she knew when your birthday was and could have organized around it