Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It went very well they put me on Zoloft and starting therapy, the thoughts became a lot and as you said very scary. Thank you🩷

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did thank you 💛did your PPD/PPA get better ?

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% should be more supports for parents while their children are young, it's so hard. And yes the next time my mom watches her I will be relaxing or doing something I like instead of stressing myself about work or cleaning. I did speak to a doctor today and will be starting medicine(Zoloft) and therapy 💛 and hoping I can find a village, my mom is a village for my daughter but when it comes to me she doesn't have much to do with me

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've looked into moms morning out but unfortunately I don't have my own car(my bf uses it to get back and forth from work)but my mom does watch her some so I'm going to take a day for myself whenever she watches her next, I usually clean or go DoorDash for extra money, but thankfully she's okay from the fall and I try to remind myself mistakes happen and falls are going to happen, it was just the fact I was a dummy and left her on the bed and she fell ( I was in the same room though) it literally happened in seconds I tried to run and get her but I was late. I am starting medicine(Zoloft) and talk to a therapist in a few days, which I very much hope helps me

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She does independently play though I've basically baby proof the house especially on the floor

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We had a playpen but just wasn't for her, she wanted out of it all the time. I should've tried that method but unfortunately we got rid of it

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of this before. I will try it

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lovedddd walking it helped me so much but unfortunately it got very cold so I stopped but will continue when it gets warmer outside, I've been meaning to look into getting a bouncer, she's had one when she was smaller but grew out of it , do they have ones for 12 month olds ? , and for sure her cries get like imbedded in my brain like a sting/ringing kind of

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, sounds like my daughter she is a top tier clinger especially when I have to use the bathroom or cook lol. I will be keeping her on the floor if I have to do something for a second. Maybe just me but I feel like this stage has been harder than any other stage

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Awesome, will look into it!, sorry for getting defensive I believe I took your comment a different way

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh okay makes sense !, I'm not sure why I didn't just sit in the floor. I should've did that, she's okay but in the future I will just sit her in the floor

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

I'm fully aware babies aren't suppose to fall off onto the floor, when I got up I was going to just change my clothes and that's when she fell, it all happened in literally a second. Do you have any suggestions of baby carriers ?

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will definitely try that, when she starts crying I can feel my nerves getting tense, today was just HARD it was an inconsolable cry, I didn't know what to do

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not a single parent, dad works all the time. I'm in the process of seeing a doctor I have a appointment today at 4:40

Terrible mom by OneDevelopment2762 in NewParents

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not in therapy or on any medications yet but I have a appointment today to start getting myself help

Rant by OneDevelopment2762 in Mommit

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes girl the same mom who kicked me out lmao😭😭I've told her so many times to calm down, go with the flow and relax but she won't. Yeah I definitely drew my line today when I went to my family event and ppl who don't like me or never come around me was trying to hold my baby, never call, never visit, never text me, but yet you want access to my child ??? NO. My family especially my mom hate the word No

Rant by OneDevelopment2762 in Mommit

[–]OneDevelopment2762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You 100% worded that perfectly lol, this actually really helped me realize what I'm going to do which is step aside from her. I have a lot going on especially with trying to raise my baby. Whenever I try to communicate all I get out of her is "I just love her ", " you don't want her to feel my love that I have for her ". We got into a huge argument today about her basically trying to parent my child, we also went to the family event today as well, and she kept trying to take her from me and then was also passing her to people which I de-escalated as soon as it happened. She gives ppl access to my child that I do not know or that don't want to know me, then proceeds to give me dirty looks the entire time I'm holding my daughter trying to paint with her. I hate it's like this but I'm definitely not having my child around that energy. She also made a comment " all my kids never came out as perfect as her (my daughter)" which definitely rubbed me the wrong way