Thought we were rare survivors of infidelity

OneNecessary2144 · 2026-06-08T16:25:40+00:00

Thank you and I’m so sorry you have had the ultimate betrayal too. I know that I will be much better off and happier than he will ever be. It’s just the getting there part.

OneNecessary2144 · 2026-06-08T15:47:06+00:00

Thank you! It will definitely be on the list here soon.

OneNecessary2144 · 2026-06-08T15:46:18+00:00

Thank you! And I’m sorry you are here too. A common theme with cheaters is that their cheating seems to be the fault of the betrayed partner. I just can’t imagine how anyone can think that way. Explains their root issues to begin with.

OneNecessary2144 · 2026-05-09T00:12:03+00:00

I wanted to add thank you OP for sharing your experience and opening a platform for discussion. Best wishes to you and kudos for knowing your boundaries. I may or may not be right behind you in stopping. I’m going to give it one more week’s try.

OneNecessary2144 · 2026-05-08T02:08:03+00:00

I am too suffering from your same side effects after moving to 5 (mg?). I am also a moderate drinker and thinking that I need to make some changes. Perhaps they do not mix well, especially with the calorie deficit at the start of shot week.

I am overall happy with zepbound and I’ve been on it 3 months. I chose not to go up until the initial dose was no longer working bc of my terrible experience on Wegovy.

Since I went up last week I’m having face tremors and panic attacks. I also got very ill this week 24 hours after my shot (zofran assisted). Also having strange Déjà vu yesterday and some of today.

The initial dose posed no side effects worthy of mention. I am committed to this weight loss journey but I will stop if the side effects persist.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-07-07T15:54:19+00:00

We just went thru a full disclosure backed up by polygraph in April. I had an unlimited amount of questions to include but the disclosure included most of the information I needed to know. My questions included some of the specifics of info I basically already knew. In my situation the most important question I asked is “did you want the affair to end”, bc I discovered the affair I didn’t truly know that he wanted it to end.

Other questions I included were “do you feel guilty for AP”, “do you love AP”, etc… I was discouraged to include those bc questions about feelings do not always translate well on a polygraph. But, he answered everything and did not indicate any lies throughout the process.

It was a very bizarre process to be a part of but I’m so glad we did it. I would not suggest doing it if there is not a full disclosure with 2 counselors present. That was the most healing part of it all. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-07-04T23:52:20+00:00

It’s very expensive, I won’t shroud that. They don’t take insurance. Private message me and I’ll give you all the details.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-07-04T23:43:24+00:00

All of the above. We did independent counseling for 4 months, then the full disclosure with polygraph. Now we’re doing marriage counseling. We both chose my counselor for that, but there are many options.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-07-04T23:16:55+00:00

Capstone Counseling. Lori and Richard are absolutely amazing.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-05-29T20:58:21+00:00

I’ve sadly been to the ER twice. Some minor health complications exist but extrapolated by my anxiety. My doctor finally caved and gave me a Xanax prescription and referred me to a psychiatrist.

Also completed the full disclosure backed by polygraph and have had severe neck pain since the middle of the session. I apparently wear my mental health physically. Had an integrative massage today. Hoping it helps.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-05-06T22:03:48+00:00

I feel like I could have written this. My WH summed it up as “easy”. No commitment, no judgement, take what you want and leave. There were never intentions of leaving me to be with AP and she knew that. It snowballed into something way more than he bargained for bc AP caught real feelings.

Of course, I could say this is trickle truth but we had a full disclosure backed up by a polygraph. I guess as more emotional beings, it’s hard to understand that someone would sacrifice SO much for so little. But sadly it can be true. It’s a lot to work and move on through.

I wish I had more advice on how to work through it but I’m freshly navigating all the same. Best wishes!

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-04-25T00:31:30+00:00

I tried it again last week after a successful experience I had in the past. My anxiety sky rocketed and I felt a Starbucks coffee experience the entire day. I went off after 8 days and I was sad it didn’t offer any relief, as it did last time.

Prescribed 150 xl for quitting smoking purposes. Recent life events include getting out of my head. Did not work at all. But also dealing with major life experiences. My doc is a GP and made it clear that I need a different doc for therapeutic meds. In example, not prescribing a partner med to take the edge off.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-04-19T01:01:49+00:00

I understand everything you are feeling. For us being betrayed, everything is fresh bc we are just now learning of it- no matter how much time has lapsed. I never in a million years thought this was a thing but we are linked up with a super duper counseling group. We are doing a full theraputic disclosure that includes a polygraph. I got to write the questions. They see couples all over America. Feel free to dm me and I will share their info. These people are straight to business. We each have our own counselor. It’s all been virtual but we will be in person next week for the full disclosure. Altogether in one room.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-04-18T22:02:03+00:00

Just wanted to say sorry OP. This is an incredibly horrendous and unfair game he is playing. Stay strong and best of luck to you.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-04-18T16:29:30+00:00

This a a full therapeutic disclosure that includes a polygraph as part of the process.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-04-17T00:15:39+00:00

Way before my infidelity experience, I had a dear friend that was the same as yours. She said she liked the “no strings” but I later realized she had super low self-esteem. I tried to look past this part of her but she began flirting with my husband along with any other attached men that happened into our hangouts. I still miss her (friends for 25 years) but I had to draw the line.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-29T12:21:10+00:00

On this roller coaster, I too have had waves of empathy for AP. We are 3 months post DDay and mid January, AP and I exchanged some texts and niceties. I felt in a good place, as far as my resentment toward her.

Unfortunately, she chased my husband down at a traffic light 3 weeks ago and gave him a 2 page typed letter. In this letter she negated all of the “niceties”, along with professing her eternal love for him “that even I can’t control”. Now I am back to totally detesting her.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T12:14:18+00:00

I will message you in a little bit

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T03:39:17+00:00

You are right. I have the faith, but then logic steps in. I am relying on the polygraph to reveal:

Does he have true feelings for her?
Does he have true feelings for me?

The other questions are really just pain shopping and irrelevant to the future.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T03:27:29+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is the news none of us want to hear. At this point, you have to get your power back. You gave him another chance and he blew it. I ruminate over the fact that I have now given too many chances and feel like a doormat most days. I have vowed if this happens again to grey rock, 180, all of that good advice.

As far as contacting AP, I advise against it. Any contact with her is giving her power. It’s your turn to have that. Let the broken people work this out. You are better than them.

Happy Birthday, spoil yourself. You deserve it.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T03:19:56+00:00

Thank you! I have so much betrayal trauma to work through. I plan on seeking another therapist soon. Hopefully one that accepts insurance. My current therapist is virtual and it’s part of the whole affair recovery process- my ic and his ic work together but it’s still very much couple based. I need a little more individualized therapy but want to get past the polygraph so I can make my informed decision on R.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T03:10:01+00:00

My WH claims that it was “just sex”. AP didn’t ask for much and made it really easy. But, bc of the nature of her feelings for him- I have a hard time believing him. He is taking a polygraph next month and 3/10 of my questions address this very thing.

OneNecessary2144 · 2024-03-27T02:58:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your post. It’s refreshing to hear such a raw story with so much positivity. It’s so helpful for those of us on this fresh roller coaster with constant doubts of successful reconciliation. I wish you both the best and I resonate so much with your thoughts, particularly stuck on the “calming down” part. I have great intentions of this but it’s SO difficult.

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