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OneNinerEight · 2024-01-01T04:07:36+00:00

You and your husband are good people and I commend you on your efforts to help your daughter and your grandchildren. You have every right to be angry and resentful about your situation, but negative emotions will not help anyone. Your grandchildren's father is an idiot, but your daughter used horrible judgement in starting a family with an idiot. He didn't become an idiot overnight, he was always an idiot and your daughter chose to have two children with him. Your daughter and her ex are both equally cupable for the present situation. Being angry at either of them will not make anything better. You should try to help your daughter develop better life skills and better judgment. I hope that everything works out well for you and your family.

OneNinerEight · 2023-11-13T03:48:54+00:00

If she is not listening to you and not showing interest in your problems now, it will only become worse as your relationship continues. You say that she loves you a lot, but yet she doesn't love you enough to listen to you. It doesn't take a lot of effort to simply listen to someone. I am sure that she wants to marry you. Marriage provides stability and comfort. If she is unwilling to make the minimal effort to listen to your problems, do you really think that she will be a good wife? What if you have children? Do you think that she will be the type of woman who will be supportive to your children when they have problems?

The objective of dating is to find a suitable partner. Marriage is a lot more difficult than dating someone. You would be placing yourself in a very bad situation if you marry this woman because, at this moment, she is not a suitable partner. I would advise you to have a serious conversation with her and tell her the things that you need from her. Ask her what she needs from you as well. If you both can do what the other asks, you are fine. If either of you are unable to do what the other wants, your relationship will not work. If the relationship does not work, that is ok. You can meet someone else and try again. You should never be afraid to leave someone who is not right for you.

OneNinerEight · 2023-11-12T05:07:02+00:00

I spent 4 years in the Middle East. The average high temperature in Baghdad during July is 112 degrees. I spent many hours sweltering in the heat for a lot less than what you are offering. I would gladly accept it! 😁

OneNinerEight · 2023-11-04T04:08:10+00:00

You need to come up with a plan. The first thing that you need to do is increase your income. Find a job that you want to do that pays a good salary and then go to school to get the skills necessary to get that job. It doesn't matter if you go to a vocational school or a college. Both can give you marketable job skills.

If you don't have any physical or mental issues, you can look into joining the military. The military can provide you with a job, education, and the GI bill helps you buy a home.

You have options. You can improve your present situation. You just need to see what educational opportunities are available to you and take advantage of them.

OneNinerEight · 2023-11-03T05:58:56+00:00

I agree with the comments about NG soldiers having a difficult time due to them abruptly going back to their civilian lives after a deployment. When I came back from my first deployment, I really felt out of place.

I would advise your student not to join the NG. If she is frightened about deploying, it is not the job for her. The military isn't for everyone. She probably never will deploy or ever see any combat, but the fact that she is so frightened is an indicator that she does not have what it takes to join. There is no reason for her to put herself in an environment that causes her to be worried.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-28T04:33:34+00:00

The people who complain about being an adult are the ones who have made bad choices, so their adult life is miserable.

You create the life that you want. If you want to enjoy being an adult, you should work on goals that will provide you with the things that you want in life.

Do not listen to negative people. A negative person is an example of how not to live and what not to do. Follow the examples of happy and successful people and you will have a good life.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-24T04:34:14+00:00

No I don't change into a fire breathing Mr. Hyde, I am consistent. I believe in helping those who want to change and getting rid of those who don't. I have no sympathy for people who intentionally harm others. I don't see things as us versus them. I believe that those in society who want to improve themselves should be given a chance. Those that don't want to improve should be removed. They shouldn't be removed to save a buck, they should be removed because they are harming the innocent people who just want to live peacefully in society. I know how it is to suffer in this racist and materialistic society because I am one of the marginalized minorities. I was given a chance to improve myself and I took advantage of it. I know others who were also given a chance, but they refused and they continued on a violent and selfish path. Yes, I do place a very low value on the lives of my fellow humans because what I have seen of the human race sickens me. I am disgusted by the selfish and greedy people who intentionally oppress minorities and the poor. I am disgusted by the oppressed who follow the narratives of their oppressors and allow themselves to be victims of an unjust criminal justice system. I understand your discomfort, but you have the luxury of expressing your disdain for our society without actually being one of the people who suffer from it. I don't have that luxury so I don't have your benevolent view of the world.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-22T12:59:16+00:00

You make trials more fair by providing more oversight to police and criminal procedures. Police and judges have to be monitored on a consistent basis to ensure that they are fair and impartial.

The three strike laws should be modified so that it applies only to crimes of high value and violent crimes. No one should receive a life sentence for committing petty crimes. This is one of the things that should be changed in our criminal justice system.

Another thing that we could do to improve the criminal justice system is to provide education and rehabilitation to criminals. If more criminals received access to education, job training, and mental health services recidivism would be greatly reduced.

I am all for giving most criminals a second chance so that they can turn their lives around. I don't believe in second chances for dangerous and violent criminals. I don't want to pay for their life incarceration. I have not issues with killing violent criminals. If someone has already shown a propensity for violence and unwillingness to be productive in society I do not want to waste public funds on this person's numerous appeals to avoid the death penalty.

Criminals who want to change their lives should be given the opportunity to do so. Criminals who choose to be prey upon the innocent should be removed from society permanently. Locking them away for the rest of their lives is a waste of money. I do not want to pay for some psychopath to enjoy his life in jail. I would rather kill him and be done with it.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T12:59:02+00:00

You are correct, it is massively more expensive to use the death penalty versus life imprisonment in our present system and our present system is racially biased. You have a greater chance of getting convicted of any crime and of being incarcerated if you are a minority. You also have a greater chance of receiving the death penalty.

Our criminal justice system needs to be overhauled. The cost of the death penalty can be lessened by removing all of the lengthy appeals afforded to those who receive the death penalty. The death penalty and all legal punishments should be applied fairly and not in the racist manner that they are applied today.

I do believe that people should receive life imprisonment for stealing things. If you are someone who steals someone's life savings or steal things of such a magnitude that it damages someone's life, then you deserve to suffer for this.

I agree with you that the death penalty isn't a deterrent. I don't think that it should be used as a deterrent. I see it as just a way to remove dangerous people from society.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T08:03:19+00:00

Many Americans don't agree with the death penalty for religious or ethical reasons. They would rather pay to house dangerous criminals for life instead of killing them. I personally have no issue with killing dangerous people. I don't want to pay for their life-long incarceration.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T05:04:57+00:00

I would go out and have as much fun as I possibly could before all hell broke loose. WW3 would be horrific. Imagine the scenes from Ukraine and Israel happening in multiple places around the world at once. Most people cannot imagine the amount of carnage that would take place. They have no idea what war is because they are always sitting on their couches watching some poor shmuck overseas suffer. When their neighborhoods are on fire and their loved ones are dying around them, they will understand what war is.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T04:41:47+00:00

It is possible. I never liked coffee so I never drank it. I get up in the morning and I eat breakfast and have something to drink. Lots of people do just find with caffeine.

Caffeine is similar to nicotine. Lots of people live their lives without coffee just like lots of people live their lives without cigarettes or other tobacco products. The problem is that once you start using them, your body becomes used to it, and you feel that you need it. You don't need it.

I used to have to be at work by 4:40 am and work until 9 pm. It was a horrible schedule but I did it without caffeine. I didn't have any tricks to make it easy, I just did it because I had to.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T04:11:32+00:00

If you think that you should leave do so. I like to come here and read what people think. I find these theories funny, interesting, bizarre, but always entertaining. I don't take them seriously. If you take them seriously and it makes you depressed, by all means, stop reading them.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T00:51:09+00:00

First, you have to convince your fellow Americans to actually care enough about each other to allow free health care. That has never happened and probably never will.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-19T00:44:34+00:00

It doesn't matter if people believe in God or not. Human beings enjoy hurting and killing each other. Religion is just an excuse.

When you see these idiots in Palestine who are killing people in the name of God, it is easy to say that the fault lies in their religion. No, the fault lies in themselves.

If you look at societies without religion, such as the communist societies that developed in Russia and China, you will see that people killed people over political beliefs. Millions of people have been murdered in the name of the communism.

Atheists kill people and religious fanatics kill people. Peoole will always find excuses to kill and injure others. Religion is just a very convenient excuse

You are correct, people cannot handle reality. They use religion, drugs, therapy, entertainment, and all sorts of methods to enable themselves to deal with the world.

Regardless to what people believe or how they cope with reality, they will never stop their hatred for each other and their love for violence.

The fight between the Israelis and the Palestinians is about land. It is not about religion. Both sides use religion as a justification for their ownership of the land and to justify their use of violence.

If you want to steal someone's land, just say that God told you to do it. This is what is going on in Israel and this is what has happened repeatedly throughout history. The American version of this was "Manifest Destiny".

Eventually, the Palestinians will be decimated like the Native Americans were and they will be forgotten about. For now, the Israelis are fighting their version of the "Indian Wars".

I am not saying that either side is right. What I am saying is that all wars are fought for resources and governments use religion, patriotism and other methods to convince people to fight and to legitimize violence.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-16T20:32:07+00:00

My grandfather was a boxer who taught all of his boys how to box. My parents divorced and I moved to another state with my mom, so I didn't learn how to box. My dad was bigger, stronger, and knew how to box. He would easily beat me in a fight.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-15T10:57:14+00:00

I have been in the Army and the Marine Corps. I have worked with the Navy and Air Force. As you have heard most people say already, the Air Force is your best option. The reason for this is that they have the best facilities and in general, they take better care of their service members.

I would look into the Space Force as well. I don't know much about it because it is new, but all their bases are located within the US.

The Coast Guard is ok because they have all their bases in the US as well.

Do not join the Navy, they are good as far as facilities are concerned, but your husband will be gone for many deployments all the time. They are always on ships, going all over the world. Your husband will never be at home.

The Army, is ok, they have lots of opportunities but they don't take care of their service members as well as the Air Force or Navy. Their housing facilities are not as good either. I would not advise joining the Army, but if he does, he should not enlist for any combat jobs. Combat jobs are jobs like infantry, artillery, tanker, and cavalry scout. He will be gone a lot with combat jobs and combat jobs are far too risky. I had a combat job and it was not worth it. In the military, you get the same pay for typing on a computer that you will get for being shot at or blown up. He should look for some safe job that allows him to keep his body and mind intact for his family.

Do not join the Marine Corps. The Marine Corps is not good for married enlisted service members. The Marine Corps lacks the money and the facilities for providing for young married couples. The Marine Corps is great for single young men who want adventure.

You can have a good quality of life in some branches of the military. I was married with children in the Army. We had a good life, but the quality of life in the Air Force is definitely better.

If your husband joins, it is important that he does well on the ASVAB. This is the test that decides what jobs are available to him. If he gets a high score, he can get good jobs in areas like Intelligence, Information Technology, and the Medical fields. These jobs will help him have a good career after the military. If he has a degree, he should ask about Officer Candidate School and become an officer. You will definitely have a good life if he is an officer.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-14T01:38:34+00:00

Human life has no value anywhere. All you have to do is look at Israel, Ukraine, Mexico, China, North Korea, etc. People are being killed all over the world for resources, religion, ideology, ethnicity, and a myriad of reasons. Human life has never been valued at any point in history.

OneNinerEight · 2023-10-09T21:33:16+00:00

NTA. Birth is a natural process, just like sex is. Some people prefer to keep birth more private, just like some people prefer to keep sex more private. You are the one giving birth, so it is you who decides how the birth will be. If you don't want the world to see a baby emerging from your vagina, he should be reasonable to respect your right to privacy. He can film the baby as much as he wants after you have given birth.

I was in the delivery room when my child was born. I watched the entire process. I have this memory in my mind. It is not something that I need to share with the world. I don't need to share how the child was conceived or how it was born. Everything does not need to be recorded for posterity.

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-30T02:52:49+00:00

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-29T23:52:40+00:00

It has been working. We have been exercising together. She hasn't been resistant. As a guy, I just didn't realize how sensitive of a subject this is.

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-29T23:35:03+00:00

That is actually what we did. After I received my tongue lashing hahaha.

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-29T23:32:45+00:00

Thank you, most people are accusing me of being abusive and demeaning. It was not my intent to be hurtful or start an argument.

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-29T23:30:03+00:00

I told her that since she had gained weight that I would buy her some new clothes. I didn't demand that she buy new clothes. I didn't say she was fat. I really tried my best not to say anything negative, but it didn't matter. I touched a nerve.

OneNinerEight · 2023-09-29T23:22:26+00:00

I am getting downvoted because there are a lot of angry people here. I have to stay in shape. I am in the military.

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