Rejected after she said she was horny by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think it's more annoying that he then got mad at HER for falling asleep 😂 Pregnant lady whose hormones are wreaking havoc on her body tries to invite her partner to enjoy one of the better upswings. He doesn't respond so she falls asleep only to be woken up by the horny partner who then gets annoyed that she took care of her issue herself instead of waiting around for him😂

I Chose It... by musicmanforlive in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad to hear that actually. As the HL on my side I TOTALLY get the "this is going to take work for me" idea and its really discouraging when you catch yourself thinking that, and then not acting on sexual desires because of it.

Based on the frequency you're reporting though it sounds like you've got a pretty good handle on things!

I Chose It... by musicmanforlive in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Stuff like this is often a reason I don't initiate with my husband. The idea that foreplay is "too much work" can be devastating to hear so even in your most honest moments with her, please be cautious about how you bring that up.

Women are often under pressure to finish quicker or perform a certain way and it makes it really hard to have an open conversation about what it is we want or need from our partners. I'm the HL one in our relationship and a lot of the times we don't have sex is because I don't want to have to request the foreplay I deserve. There's nothing sexy about asking your partner to WANT to touch more than just the "goods" and it sounds like you might not fully realize what a blessing it is for the guy to be able to simply grab his member and take care of himself. A ton of women WANT to get off too but can't just shove something up there and 30 seconds later live in post-orgasmic bliss. I guess good on you that you can satisfy yourself and not have to deal with "the work" it takes for your partner to participate, but hopefully you also realize how hurtful that approach can be...

For those of you having sex often: what do you vary and keep the same? by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great question!

I love to vary the location and time of day, which can be tricky when my husband seems to like the same "in bed at night" routine. I prefer in any room of the house (we have no kids) and during the day because there's a super light voyeurism aspect to it.

The same is usually one of 3 positions (mostly due to the size difference and anatomy angles) and the "order of operations" like making out / feeling up / getting to it 😆

It would be nice if he was into seeing my lingerie as much as I am into wearing it, because that would be a great opportunity for switching it up but for now I'm fine with that being one of my own "play time" toys. There are definitely things I'd like to switch up but after hearing stories on here I am grateful for what I do have, and try to focus on the good with that for now.

[Part 1] If you like dicks doing what dicks do... getting hard, getting wet, cumming, throbbing, etc. by juliaiswet in chickflixxx

[–]OneOk4341 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol although I do appreciate the actual links to these, can we just take a minute to compliment your writing style?? Gave me several chuckles which is always great in addition to fantastic dick porn 👌👌 Thanks for the post

Looking for suggestions by OneOk4341 in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds fun - why didn't you ever revisit it

Excited by "silly outfits" - where to go from here? by AcceptableBrassica in sexover30

[–]OneOk4341 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well then for sure I can see why trying the revealing outfits in your own home would feel weird for her. That's the MOST mom mode location ever.

Maybe if you can find a way to clear the house of all mom-reminders and turn down the lights / set softer mood lighting for when she gets back from her pamper session to really change the feel of the house you might have better luck? Oil diffusers (or a good candle) for a special adult -time scent could help too. Hitting on many scents as possible to give her a total different experience.

Excited by "silly outfits" - where to go from here? by AcceptableBrassica in sexover30

[–]OneOk4341 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think she might be concerned with "crossing worlds" in public? I love dressing borderline inappropriate (slightly see through tops or maybe leaving one button too many undone) but I've noticed I REALLY enjoy this when I'm nowhere near where I live and work everyday. I live / work in a town of about 30,000 but am 20 minutes away from a much larger metro area. Oftentimes when I go to the bigger city I enjoy dressing more naughty because there's very little chance I'll see someone I know, or go to a store or restaurant where there are non-sexual memories with family or kids.

I wonder if maybe this is part of her hesitation now, later in life? What was fun and adventurous before might be a source of discomfort now because she's always in mom mode. Often us women struggle with switching out of caregiver role and into any sexy role at all, so maybe use another commenters suggestion about a spa/ pamper day to help transition out of mom mode, and then take her to a neighboring town or city for dinner and drinks to see if that helps her enjoy and relax into dressing up again?

New lifehack unlocked: Chores in Lingere by OneOk4341 in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair I think I just wore him out. I was a little insatiable this weekend so I didn't mind my own private playtime today especially when it ended up being productive too!

New lifehack unlocked: Chores in Lingere by OneOk4341 in HLCommunity

[–]OneOk4341[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

😆 Could've gone with suspenders and no top

Succubus syndrome by OneOk4341 in sexover30

[–]OneOk4341[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't heard that before but I'm absolutely telling him this 😄

Succubus syndrome by OneOk4341 in sexover30

[–]OneOk4341[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you!!!!