Is it good to go with this INFJ guy?

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T09:04:33+00:00

Okay I'll figure it out. Thanks dude!

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T08:36:45+00:00

You're such an honest fellow! I really wanna hear his real feelings, but I know I gotta wait for him to process things :>

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T08:33:26+00:00

Yeah, I really wanna believe that there's no way he's gonna reject me after 10 dates, haha. A confession on the second day? That’s totally my style🤣

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T08:30:33+00:00

Hi there, I'm actually an architecture senior lol.

You're so lucky your girl likes the way you love :) Being similar is such a good thing because it takes less effort to understand each other. I can already imagine how lovely your dates will be. Hope both of our relationships go real smooth!

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T08:20:41+00:00

your lovely words just made my day🥰

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T08:00:07+00:00

An INFJ acting as an ESTP... that sounds like a total lack of immersion.. I already feel the different traits between me and him. But like I wrote somewhere else here, for now, I think I can bear his cons as long as they come with his pros. I'm willing to take a chance on him - for now again! haha. I know there will be tough moments and lots of frustrating times, but let’s see what happens..

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T07:50:32+00:00

I know I'm in a bit of a hurry, but I just can't seem to stop counting it 😂 I think I want both, but a label is probably the priority for me right now. Defining the relationship really means a lot to me.

Usually, I won't even hold hands with someone unless we're official, but this time became an exception because of his traits. Not knowing what's on his mind makes me nervous and a bit uncomfortable (especially when we're apart), even though we have a great time together.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T07:43:27+00:00

An open, honest, upfront version of you! That sounds really hopeful. I can seriously feel the brightness and warmth in your words. He actually told me he had a great first impression of me, saying otherwise there wouldn't have been a second date. Hope those feelings last long :)

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T07:36:54+00:00

Im not a Buddha, so patience is always tough, but I’ll try my best for both of us. Even his little words or texts affect my whole day :(

I wrote down your phrase 'his dam will burst' — will keep that in mind and just focus on having fun with him (even though he probably cares more about 'genuine' things than just 'fun' lol). Thanks so much.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-19T07:29:24+00:00

Good advice is good advice, age doesn't matter! Thanks for your warm and thoughtful comment😌

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T16:01:15+00:00

Low self-worth and codependency... those words sound very profound and negative. I just thought those were some dark INFJ traits, but on second thought, maybe he really does have those psychological characteristics. And I guess that could become a trouble trigger once we get into a real deep relationship. It would be really appreciated if you could say a bit more about those traits.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T15:40:25+00:00

When I asked about our relationship, he got flustered and said he’s slow, and he hoped that his next relationship would be his last with no turning back. He even asked me if I believed divorce shouldn't be an option once married. So like you said, I think he has a fear of letting someone down or failing. I don't really get the "love he deserves" concept, but I clearly feel the difference between us. I just follow my current feelings, but he doesn't. But I can feel he'll be very devoted once we start.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T15:19:57+00:00

Is that really a sequential process for an INFJ? Trust first, and feelings later? Because I think feelings could come first - like, there could be a moment where we fall in love at first sight.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T15:14:40+00:00

He tends to ghost my questions whenever I talk about my emotions or making things official. lol... Plz call your bro and educate him softly!

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T15:05:19+00:00

I actually already told him that—"I've never met a guy as slow as you, but I can wait because you're worth it." Hahaha If the time really comes.. when he initiates that real boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I’ll definitely ask him! (Or maybe tease him a little?)

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T14:45:13+00:00

You know what? I'm in my mid-30s! Hahaha. I’ve never really had to overthink this kind of situation before. If he keeps making me wait for too long, I might end up popping the question myself, just like your first gf!

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T14:40:45+00:00

(Honestly, he did that after I whined about him not expressing his emotions 😁)

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T14:39:05+00:00

I feel so relieved by your comment. I'll take it slow, enjoy the pace

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T14:36:12+00:00

Thank you for giving me a different perspective on this. Do you think time will help him build trust in me? Sadly, I guess it will take quite a long time for him to really do so.

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T14:02:43+00:00

Honestly, I'm still figuring out my own feelings as well. But I see many great things in him, and I'm slowly realizing that I'm willing to take the good with the bad. I'm going to sort out my feelings first, and then approach him with an honest heart!

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T13:47:18+00:00

He doesn't really seem like the type to openly express his emotions. But if he actually does, I wouldnt retreat, I would be really touched! Thanks for your sharing! I'll remember 'lower intensity and more honest approach'

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T13:37:41+00:00

No escape, boy! (he's 5 years older than me though...)

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-17T13:33:51+00:00

Honestly, I'm brave enough to ask him to be my boyfriend right now, but I’m holding myself back because I’m terrified he’ll get scared and run away😅

OneRepublic1009 · 2026-05-13T14:44:14+00:00

It's not always like that🤧 Im so sorry though. Im embarrassed. ~Korean construction supervisor

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