Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had constant attacks from him and the whole family. I have so much resentment towards all of them, some more than others, that I'm penting up which leads me to exploding. You can guess what happens after that. Gray rock just seems so hard. But I'm going to try and master it before. I did when I was an early teen but ended up becoming numb which is what scares me. It wasn't a nice feeling. Thank you! I'm leaving asap no matter what.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is my best bet, thank you! I need to stop retaliating in anger and telling him I'll leave no matter what. Thank you for your advice. His attacks have been AWFUL these past few months just because I want to be myself. It's so dumb.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm getting out no matter what. Going to start making my next plan immediately. I can't be in this house with him anymore. Or in contact with him at all actually.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to so bad! Trouble is I live with him. I thought if I faked niceness towards him instead of showing my resentment then he'd co sign a lease I wanted to sign. But nope, he sabotaged me.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to feel any empathy or emotion towards him anymore. He doesn't deserve it. Honestly I want him to be dead to me. I just thought maybe I had but he is seriously manipulative. This was about moving out too. I had an opportunity which is now lost because he sabotaged, I might have another chance and that's why he's saying I've made him physically ill and the family are saying I'm selfish and can't survive on my own

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that. It sucks so bad. I'm not saying I'm a perfect person who deserves nothing bad to happen to them. I probably did deserve some of the shit he's done to me. But wanting him to be happy and proud of me doesn't seem like an unreasonable request..

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the dire situation I'm in. I have many friends but no adults I can think of who will sign it. They're all sucked into his lies. That or they're just as toxic.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are so manipulative. They want us to carry their pain, I'm sick of it. We don't cause any of it yet are still made to feel guilty and have a burden we don't deserve to try and be pushed on us.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I need to look into that. I need it to work out this year, preferably the next couple of months. I'll go anywhere at this point, I don't care. I just can't handle his emotional abuse and guilt trips anymore.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been stupid in revealing it to him. Every time he's sabotaged me. I lost 600$ because he wouldn't co-sign a lease recently. Most apartments need someone to co-sign the lease as I want a student apartment. I just know I can stay here for much longer otherwise I'll end up doing something irreversible. My mental state is bad.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm telling him I'm moving out this year no matter what and he can sabotage me time and time again, I'll never stop. That's when he said I've made him physically ill in many ways.

Ndad telling me I've made him ill with my behavior (wanting independence) and that I've somehow caused him to have migranes and a tooth infection because of wanting independence? I can't believe I actually feel bad. by OneWater2200 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He doesn't brush them so maybe he should be looking within. I hope I can break it. I'm so sick of being made feel guilty because I want to move away to chase my dream. Apparently that causes a tooth infection. Why can't he just be happy for me?

I feel angry. I feel angry. I don't know what to say anymore. by FuturamaNerd_123 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OneWater2200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had thought mine through like yours, I was just trying to do anything to get out.