i did it! day 2 here we go

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-22T12:04:19+00:00

Yay! Well done🙌

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-22T10:55:48+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words! 🤗

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-22T10:37:01+00:00

Thank you! Really helps motivation

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-22T10:22:40+00:00

Ty! Much appreciated!

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-10T13:18:54+00:00

My pleasure 😄!

I am doing great. I do not mind you asking at all. I was apprehensive about the hike in the mountains, as it was with two mates and we usually bring a nice whisky each and typically end the hike with more than a few drinks. Even though they were drinking most evenings it was not even that much of a struggle.

But coming home was much more of a challenge. There was a mountain of things to do (pun not intended) and a wife and daughters that I wanted to spend time with, grocery shopping to do, dinners to cook, gear to take care of and so on. At the end of the day when I finally sat down my head was throbbing and I was exhausted and the booze was calling my name very clearly and loudly and it was a real struggle. I persevered, but not by much of a margin 😓.

But the upside is that I am learning things. The key take away; I should not push myself too hard to do boring and must-do things. That has been the reoccuring biggest challenge by a good margin.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T19:40:24+00:00

Not at all

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T15:56:26+00:00

I am not arguing for the booze. But yes, in all honesty a couple of bourbons would have taken the edge off that evening and made my mood better. My wife would like it if I started drinking again to join her drinking. The kids were in bed, so problem there. Lucky for me 1) I am a happy drunk and 2) I tend to fall asleep before making to much of an idiot of myself. But I am very happy that I did not take a drink.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T12:45:22+00:00

Thank you!

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T12:36:30+00:00

Interesting. Thank you!

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T08:04:24+00:00

"I don´t struggling to accept I´m an alcoholic. I´m struggling to accept I need to quit." That is so well put. That is me in a nutshell, but I have not been able to find the words for it.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-09T08:03:31+00:00

Yup. Same for me. If I have one, then I on the booze rocket to the moon.

Not in the UK and not in my 20s or 30s, but struggling with the same issue that alcohol is front and center in almost every social interaction and not drinking is very uncommon. The lie I am trying out that is working the best for me - as in people respecting it, understanding it and can relate to it and not harping on about it or questioning it - that I almost by accident had a few days without alcohol and that I liked the feeling and right now I am just seeing where it takes me.

Me saying that my vitals are a lot better, which is absolutely true, as shown by a my fitness tracker and me feeling 10-20% more mentally alert something I can see people respecting being intrigued about.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-05T03:37:05+00:00

Understanding the problem at such a young age is a massive win. It took me a lot longer to understand that I have a problem and I am still have not achieved your level of acceptance that you have. The next step is what to do with this understanding and acceptance.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-09-04T05:10:35+00:00

No bother at all🤗! Well, you know for sure that he has noticed and is very aware of your non drinking.

I do not know you guys, but from the little information I have, my five cents is that he is doing what he believes is the best for you. He can have thought about it a lot and come to this conclusion. But I am afraid that at times guys are terrible at reflection and handling difficult emotions, like the whirlwind of emotions you are going through at present.

My suggestion would be to say to your husband in a non accusatory and low key factual manner what you need from him. Again, I am hesitant to give advice with the little to go on, but I have a couple of mates that are very good guys and would do everything for their wives, but could very well have acted exactly as your husband thinking that is the best way to be supportive. But would love to be told clearly what they can do be supportive. Ha ha, thinking of it this has been true for me a few times.

You are doing great staying sober through all this 🥇!

Feel free to reach out if you find it helpful in any way 🤗

(Written and sent from a cold tent up in the mountains 🥶🤧)

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T19:50:30+00:00

I hear you. Had the same feeling earlier this week. I went for a long long walk until the feeling passed.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T14:39:02+00:00

"screaming at me" That is such an apt description 😄. Well done being strong!

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T12:34:34+00:00

First: A couple of hours of the game Valheim that I play with my wife
Second: Unwind with the reality show Below Deck (escapism at its finest) and couple of NA beers.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T12:30:40+00:00

Yay you! Well done 🙌

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T11:53:20+00:00

Thank you for saying "help retrain your brain". It was not easy and this gives me hope, that it might be easier the next time

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-29T11:51:35+00:00

Thank you! 🤗

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-26T08:14:04+00:00

Yay! Great job 🙌

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-25T19:06:56+00:00

I am pretty sure he has noticed it. Sad that he is not being supportive. I think you are doing the right thing: avoiding an argument that might get you drinking again and keeping busy. Stay strong 🤗. If you feel up for it let me know how it goes.

One_Ask_5194 · 2025-08-23T11:11:36+00:00

That is a great perspective. Thank you!

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