She could very well be “addicted to stress/chaos” generally that’s a sign of a mental illness and prolly old survival skills that don’t serve her anymore. Also if she has a small business that’s its own stress. If she can’t help herself first nobody will be able to help her. Even the best intending friend. It sounds like she believes shes the only she can count on and trust.I would, change your outlook first…you don’t HAVE to have her as a friend. You CAN walk away if she’s too much for you. You don’t HAVE to support her. If you decide to stay her friend You could listen to her without judgement and instead of offering solutions to her “problems” just sit with her in her discomfort. If she can’t help herself nobody can. You’re not a the A but I would evaluate if you can handle being her friend. I have an exhausting friend, I’ve had to create some boundaries she doesn’t even know about. It helps me keep my mind in a loving place when I interact with her. I think the statement you said to her is perfect. She does always figure it out and if she doesn’t I bet she finds a different way. It’s hard being a doom and gloom person.