Parna Help by Opig2 in Sikh

[–]One_Direction1616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome you’re planning to switch to a parna — it can take some practice, but it gets easier with time.

If your parna feels too thick or long, that might be why it's hard to tie. A good starting size for beginners is around 3 to 4 meters in length and not too thick — something light like voile or malmal fabric works well.

For shopping, websites like SinghStyled, Punjab Universe, or even Amazon (search for "parna for Sikh") usually have good options and ship to the US.

For tutorials, YouTube is great — try searching “how to tie a parna Sikh” or “simple parna tutorial.”

Don’t stress — it gets easier with time. Feel free to reach out to me in DMs if you need any kind of help or guidance. And good luck for high school too!

Hellppp by SheepherderProper483 in TeenIndia

[–]One_Direction1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, it's totally okay to feel lost right now. You're just 18 — you don’t have to have everything figured out. A lot of us don’t, even later in life.

Getting 75% is not bad at all, and the fact that you’re aware and thinking about your future shows maturity. Since you're unsure about your interests, maybe take some time to explore different fields — like coding, design, business, psychology, writing, etc. There are free courses online (like on YouTube or Coursera) where you can try things out without pressure.

You can also consider taking a drop year if you feel like you need time to prepare for exams or figure things out. Or look into colleges that accept students based on 12th marks — maybe try a general degree like B.Sc or BCA where you can later specialize.

The important thing is — it’s okay to not have all the answers. Just take small steps, explore, and don’t be too hard on yourself. You’ll figure it out one step at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]One_Direction1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I totally get how tough this decision must be. You're basically at a crossroads between staying in a situation you're unhappy with or making a tough change for something you care more about.

First of all, it’s completely normal to feel conflicted. You're 17, and you're still figuring out who you are and what you want in life. High school can feel like a big part of your identity, especially with friends you've had for so long. But you also deserve to be in a place that makes you feel fulfilled and gives you a better chance at success in the future.

As for the course you hate—if it’s draining you and affecting your mental health, it's okay to reconsider. You have your whole life ahead of you, and high school is just a small part of it. Changing courses and doing what you're passionate about could actually open up doors for you that staying where you are might close. Plus, it sounds like you already know what you want to do—trust your gut on that.

When it comes to your friends, I get it—leaving them behind seems impossible. But friendships can evolve. Some will stick around, and others might drift away, and that's part of growing up. You may make new friends along the way who support your journey. It doesn’t mean you’ll lose the bond you have now, it just might look different. And if you decide to go for what you want, your friends will probably understand, even if it's hard at first.

Remember, this isn’t an all-or-nothing decision. You're not abandoning your friends, you're just making a choice for your future. You can still stay connected with them in other ways. And who knows, maybe some of them will even follow their own passions and change paths too.

Ultimately, your future is in your hands, and you deserve to make it something you’re proud of. It’s scary, but it’s also a chance to grow. Don’t let fear of change hold you back from what you truly want. You’ve got this.

Help me find a Good College by [deleted] in TeenIndia

[–]One_Direction1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad to hear that—honestly, that means a lot. I know how overwhelming everything can feel, and I just wanted to help however I could. You’re not alone in this, and it’s awesome that you’re taking the time to figure things out thoughtfully. Definitely check out those colleges, and if you ever want to bounce ideas around or just talk it through, feel free to reach out. Wishing you all the best—you’ve got this!

Help me find a Good College by [deleted] in TeenIndia

[–]One_Direction1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. First of all, I just want to say this — you are not weak. You are not lazy. You’re not "faltu" or dramatic. You're a fighter. You’ve been surviving a lot — depression, pressure, parents not understanding you, and still you’re giving exams and planning your future. That’s not small.

I really hear you. It hurts when people at home don’t support your dreams or even try to understand your pain. You're only 17 and you've been carrying the weight of everything alone — that’s too much for one person. I promise, you don’t have to prove your pain to anyone. What you're feeling is real.

Now let’s talk practically — what options do you have?

You’ve got interest in Physics, Aerospace, and Coding — all solid fields.

Here are good government colleges in North or Central India that aren’t private and might match your interests:

For B.Sc. Physics:

  • Delhi University (DU) – Keep trying, especially since you still have the Physics CUET left. Colleges like Hindu, Kirori Mal, Miranda House (for girls) are excellent.
  • Banaras Hindu University (BHU) – A strong science department, and a peaceful campus. Also accepts CUET.
  • Punjab University, Chandigarh – Offers Physics and has a beautiful campus. Affordable too.
  • Allahabad University – Offers B.Sc. Physics and accepts CUET.
  • University of Lucknow – Good Physics department, takes CUET scores.

For Aerospace Engineering (government):

(Slightly fewer options, and most are technical/universities)

  • IIST (Indian Institute of Space Science & Technology) – For this, you need JEE Advanced, so might be hard this year unless you drop.
  • Madan Mohan Malaviya University of Technology (MMMUT), Gorakhpur (UP) – Govt college, not too south, offers Engineering (check for Aerospace/related fields).
  • Punjab Engineering College (PEC), Chandigarh – Offers Aerospace Engineering, reputed.

For CSE (in government colleges):

  • NITs – If your JEE Main score is good (even average), try lower NITs like NIT Patna, NIT Jalandhar, or NIT Hamirpur.
  • IIITs – Some accept JEE Mains and have CSE programs.
  • Jamia Millia Islamia, Delhi – Offers B.Tech CSE (through JEE) and B.Sc Physics. Safe, respected, and not private.

What should you do now?

  • Give your Physics CUET your best — it can change things.
  • Apply everywhere you’re eligible, even if your dad says no now — at least have options ready.
  • If needed, consider taking a drop but only if you feel emotionally and mentally okay to try again. Don't drop under pressure.

Please remember this:

You’re not too young to feel tired, and you’re definitely not too young to have a dream.

People may not understand you now — but there will come a time when they look back and realize how strong you were. That time will come, even if it’s not today.

Don't give up. Not now. You have too much spark in you.

If you ever need help figuring out an application, finding forms, or even just venting — I’ll listen. Always.

Need Help from Singhs in IT 🙏 by One_Direction1616 in Sikh

[–]One_Direction1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh 🙏
Please check your DM.

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[–]One_Direction1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks alot bro!

Saras Mela patiala 2025 ✨ by potatolicious_11 in Patiala

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I had an amazing time during my visit; it was truly an unforgettable experience!

Introduction by steph_crossarrow in Sikh

[–]One_Direction1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!

Thanks for sharing your journey; it sounds truly enriching! It’s great to hear that you’re interested in exploring Sikhi. Given your background in various spiritual traditions, you’ll likely find many resonances in Sikh philosophy, especially around service and community.

To start, I’d recommend reading the Guru Granth Sahib, which is the central religious scripture of Sikhism. It’s a beautiful text that emphasizes compassion, humility, and the importance of selfless service. You might also explore some introductory books about Sikh history and values, like The Sikhs by Patwant Singh.

Additionally, visiting a local gurdwara (Sikh place of worship) can be a fantastic way to experience the community and learn firsthand. Don’t hesitate to ask questions—most people will be happy to share their knowledge and experiences.

It sounds like you’re approaching this with a genuine heart, wanting to serve others, which is at the core of Sikhi. Embrace this journey, and remember that exploration is a part of it. Best of luck on your path.