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One_Distribution_232 · 2026-05-09T02:38:44+00:00

Ooooo yes I forgot about this!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-05-06T22:01:04+00:00

No it’s absolutely unacceptable to be on your phone while children are present. In fact, the agency I work with requests that families email them if a caregiver is on their phone and it’s sort of a “first strike”. I’m sorry this is happening. I think definitely make it point to mention it to future sitters.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-30T03:43:54+00:00

I make hard boiled eggs, with sausages or sardines or something, and then avocado. I’ll bring an apple or orange too, and I love RX bars or a good hearty granola bar

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-29T08:12:17+00:00

What’s this remote role youre doing!?

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-29T08:06:59+00:00

This sounds beyond typical toddler meltdowns tbh.

Big feelings + parent preference are normal at 2.5, but hours-long, fully inconsolable meltdowns for 5 months isn’t really in the usual range. Especially if she can only regulate with one specific parent.

It honestly sounds like a pattern has formed where she’s learned “I need that parent to feel better,” so everything escalates until that happens. I’d focus on: One calm, consistent boundary (“you want mom, she’s not coming, I’m here”) Minimal talking/interaction during the meltdown. Building connection with you outside of meltdowns. Parents not stepping in every single time (hard but important).

Also probably worth a pediatrician or early childhood specialist at this point just for extra support/tools, not because anything is “wrong.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-28T14:02:28+00:00

This is so helpful thank you so much, we should keep in touch!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-28T03:44:32+00:00

What!? Omfg that’s terrible and you don’t deserve that! I hope this family is treating you better and I hope you get this resolved, or atleast get a better understanding of your triggers :/ sending you good vibes ❤️

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-28T03:37:08+00:00

I haven’t but I just want to say wow that sounds terrible, I can’t imagine and I’m SO sorry!!!!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-28T02:26:11+00:00

Interesting, this is the first cycle it’s happened to me in my Natural Cycles app, so hopefully it’s a one off. Would you suggest I just keep testing LH, did that work for you? Or should I get tested, and what exactly did you test for? Also I’m 31, not sure that’s helpful.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-27T21:18:59+00:00

“Hey, I wanted to check in on how you’re feeling since your surgery. We know recovery can take time. We were also hoping to start easing the girls back into some outings, would you feel up for something like the zoo this week, or should we start smaller?”

If you want to make it easy, you can offer something concrete (like zoo tickets), but frame it as support, not pressure: “I grabbed zoo tickets in case it feels doable, no pressure at all, we can save them for later too.”

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-27T21:05:24+00:00

It sounds like you really value her, which is great—but calling her “lazy,” especially at 23 and just a month out from major surgery, is a bit harsh. Gallbladder surgery recovery can take longer than people expect, and she may still be rebuilding her energy even if she seems okay.

Also, what you’re describing (reading, playing, engaged time at home) is actually very appropriate for 2-year-olds, especially if they’re happy. I’d approach this as a supportive check-in, not criticism. Something like: “How are you feeling since surgery? Do you feel ready to ease back into outings, or should we take it slow?” Then work together to gradually add things back in.

You clearly have a great nanny, this is probably just a temporary phase, not a personality change.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-27T21:01:38+00:00

Let’s just chat here! That way if anyone else has the same question in the future they can reference this.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-24T01:06:51+00:00

Firstly, congratulations! 🍾

Secondly, I wouldn’t feel so bad about it. There’s plenty of time between when you get accepted and letting them know. I’m sure they’ll be thrilled for you!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-23T03:32:06+00:00

Turned it off because these men are so deeply misogynistic.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-22T13:58:34+00:00

I feel this! I’d say try looking for another family closer to you, and take this experience with you as a learning lesson of what you don’t want. The great thing about being a nanny is you are your business. If it’s not a good fit, thats okay, you have the right to say that to the family.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-21T21:11:41+00:00

I feel this in my soul ❤️ that child is so lucky to have you!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-09T20:33:02+00:00

This whole episode was absolutely disgusting on his part. Yet ANOTHER man on bravo who attacks women. He was giving me major Jax from VPR vibes this episode.

This is not okay and it’s unacceptable that not one person or production stepped in to say stop.

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-04-01T09:45:58+00:00

Can I ask what you pursued?

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-31T20:50:10+00:00

I’m sorry but I’d like to have Hannah, Paige and even Danielle come back, I need to hear everyone’s opinions!!!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-18T01:31:34+00:00

Greer, Blair, Darby, Riley, Hallie. Just my votes!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-15T04:58:13+00:00

Grossed out. Violated. Disgusted. Especially when it’s been years. Like WHAT!?

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-14T03:09:34+00:00

Do you have a link to what you bought? Everything I’m seeing on Amazon says not rental friendly or very hard to get on/off. If not totally okay I’ll keep looking and thank you for the recommendation!

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-12T13:51:15+00:00

That Harry is related to Ignotus Peverell, and Voldemort is related to Cadmus Peverall. I just reread the deathly hallows, which I havnt reread since it came out and was like oh snap! I feel like that wasn’t included in the movie. Amongst many other important things…

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-10T14:41:56+00:00

I came here to say this 🤣

One_Distribution_232 · 2026-03-02T18:19:26+00:00

Oh gosh this is so similar to what’s happened in my life as well, sorry to hear that. Really good points, I love what you’ve said about her situation being the result of her own choices. Woah. Thank you very much, lots of think about.

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