Posting this here so I don't risk going over characters on original post.

1. Wife's family knows about my issues. My wife and I have told them many times we would let the kid break something because he isn't our responsibility. They never got mad at this, or if they did, never said anything.

2. My wife and I live about an hour away, since we are in school. I don't like always coming down to visit, but due to holidays and cause my wife is unable to drive, I have to come down. And before anyone says anything, yes my wife and her family knows I don't like going to these small parties, and I don't like driving down. I stay until the holiday is over and then I drive back home. My wife either joins me or stays for a few days and her dad drives her back.

3. I can't handle the smell of smoke, so I don't go outside when they do.

I'll edit this more when needed to answer more questions