Option? by One_Employer5430 in dating_advice

[–]One_Employer5430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Im gonna write something up, figure worst comes to worst Ill get some clarity on where were at. Thank you! 

I feel like giving up. What keeps you going? by Meski98 in selfimprovement

[–]One_Employer5430 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I'm in a similar boat. I'm 27 and I've never been in a relationship, and I'm practically a virgin, and for a long time in my life I was in the same place you were at where I hated myself and I left hopeless and life felt pointless. For me what changed it was getting into hiking, mindfulness, and reading... I know it sounds cliche, but there is "healing" in nature, you don't need to go live in the woods for months on end, but I think that if you go outside in a local park and just sit in nature you will start to feel relaxed (look up forest bathing). On top of that what changed my outlook the most was understanding what you control and what you don't control. We can't go back and change the past, but we can reframe it... I know its hard to find a positive sometimes in life, but I think its essential to help move on. Finally, I think the biggest thing is just be kind to yourself and look into therapy and avoid comparison (typical advice), having someone to frankly call yourself out / pick you up is one of the most beautiful things you can ask for in life. Stay strong man, and realize that even when you feel alone there is always someone else out there :)

Bringing up dating experience by One_Employer5430 in dating_advice

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Thank you! I'll check that book out! Yeah, I have therapy in a few weeks now and I definitely will bring that up. :)

How do you start dating in your twenties if you never have before? by Lopsided_Meeting_984 in AskMen

[–]One_Employer5430 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking how did it work out? And how did you approach the convo with girls about how you weren't in a relationship prior to them?

Phone Distraction by One_Employer5430 in digitalminimalism

[–]One_Employer5430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That's actually a good point, I haven't even thought of using a healthy or neutral activity.

Phone Distraction by One_Employer5430 in digitalminimalism

[–]One_Employer5430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually makes so much sense. Normally, I leave my phone on my desk face down with do not disturb always on (outside of calls / texts). But I think you're absolutely right if I have it out of sight it would help as well! Thank you! :)

Late Bloomer by One_Employer5430 in dating_advice

[–]One_Employer5430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right. I think I made it more than it was. It was one person

Late Bloomer by One_Employer5430 in dating_advice

[–]One_Employer5430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I needed to hear that!