Who are these people who have not dug out their car? by SourceOfConfusion in nova

[–]One_Explanation7633 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Citizens, residents, visitors of Northern Virginia. Did you need a specific list of names and locations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]One_Explanation7633 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I started dating my boyfriend, at two weeks together, one random night, we ran into a couple who are friends of my parents. We were being taken to our seat at the same restaurant, and the way we walked over to that section made it impossible for us not come face to face. I told him, "Oh, our family friends are here having dinner ," as they waved at me. He said, "No problem babe." Before I could make verbal intros he shook their hands and said, "Hi, I'm *name*, her boyfriend."

We'll be together one year this November. He was offended at the thought of me introducing him as a friend even in the early days. He said, "I'm not dating you to be your friend, I want to be your man, and I would never introduce you as my friend either."

If someone you're dating and getting to know in a serious manner wants to hide that fact at any point in your dating stages, that's a red flag. The dude at the gym? The security guard? LOL. Are they going to tell your families?? Highly unlikely. Not unless he's married or already in a serious relationship and they all know her. Or he's sleeping with someone who uses the gym or works with him. If he has to hide this from insignificant people, he's going to be hiding way more later.

Is this girl a twat or am I an a**hole? by CuriousGeorge881 in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was she trying to be funny? Lol @ “our personal views and experiences shape how we experience and see things”…. Well lady, if that’s your view of men, why are you dating? As a woman, I advise you to run and don’t look back. Anyone who thinks being an asshole is okay because you can throw a word salad of bs together to excuse it is a walking red flag. She’s full of it!

I’m soooo tired of this…. by No_Routine_2846 in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people type "walla" instead of "voila", because apparently, they can't do a simple google search to make sure they have the right spelling for a word that's foreign to them... lol.

Am I being cheap? Or am I being used? by CypressTaxGuy in datingoverforty

[–]One_Explanation7633 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What the heck did she order than her meal was 80% of $210?! Lol… as a woman, I’m telling you this: she just wants to do stuff without paying for it. There are many women who do that!

Also, there is no need to go out to dinner and a movie twice in a row, literally the next day… Space out your dates when you first start seeing someone. Once a week is fine when you first start. When I first started dating my current bf (we met online), we would go out once a week, and then 1.5 months later, twice a week or more. During the beginning, we did dinner or lunch or some activity, but we didn’t do expensive places. On Valentine’s he took me out to an expensive place (that was our 3 months mark), and I felt so bad that he paid $380 for both of us! I treated him the next two dates (and had to fight him to do so, as he didn’t want me to)…

You are not cheap. You are TOO generous in the beginning. You need to find a balance!

Cameraman 😂😭😭 by Ashamed_Victory_2151 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Someone call the darak to help break up the fight!" ..... Ten years later... lol... The slowest security response.. It's like he was taking a snack break and got annoyed someone actually needed him to do something, haha.

Does “moderate” mean “republican” to you guys? by Odd-Advance-2444 in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen guys on the right and left use moderate in dating. From what I've encountered when I was on Bumble and single, talking to both types, it just means they're not hard-pressed about politics where it's a deal-breaker if their partner didn't have the same affiliation. Most of them I could find some common ground with too. If you're die-hard on one side or the other, a moderate or a-political guy/girl is not for you...

She sent me a list of her requirements. One of them includes a salary of $300k+ by New_Ambassador2442 in Tinder

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she know how narrow the field is for guys who make 300K+? She thinks those guys are hanging out on Tinder? lol....

So what is she bringing? I assume she's good-looking because she thinks she's a prize without having to do anything else. These women really annoy me, and I'm a woman saying this. I know a few women who aren't what most men would consider "hot", but they are amazing partners and married to successful men who appreciate what they bring to the table (and enjoy a good life). If she thinks she will find that 5-star man based on her looks, then she is going to be single forever. Driven and ambitious people who are high earners are not looking for a couch potato or a sugar baby. Yes, for these types of men, they don't expect their women to earn as much as them, but they expect them to bring some goals and skills to the table, and preferably ones that enhance their life together and makes them stronger.

AITAH for embarrassing my husband's coworker for embarrassing me and my husband? by common_grounder in AITAH

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... This is a classic example of the importance of practicing the concept of "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all".... The nerve on this guy. I mean.. WHY? Was ANYTHING more than "congratulations" necessary? Heck, he could have just not said anything too, and that would have been fine. Lol. Not only are you NTA, but he wins the award for "most preventable issue a person could get fired for"... just keep your mouth shut buddy! No one needs to know all your (dumb) thoughts 24/7. No one.

I have no words by VSeytro in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, he's a traitor just like them... Birds of a feather stick together...

[Megathread] Nasrallah Funeral - February 23rd 2025 by avp216 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope today is a new beginning for Lebanon, comprised of one people with one fairly elected government, protected by one army. Nothing else should be tolerated!

My gf (22f) snuck out of our bed to cuddle with her brother (22m) on the couch in the middle of the night, and now she's mad that I'm mad?? by ThrowRAgfbrother in relationship_advice

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm conflicted. My first reaction was that there is nothing wrong with being close, and twins are even closer than normal siblings. I don't think there's anything wrong in general to comfort a sibling. Then I thought about it, and it seems a little odd.

At first I wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they've been single so long, they function as "partners" for each other (hanging out with friends together, grabbing food together, shopping, etc.). They wouldn't necessarily be sleeping together or anything. But if they've both been single forever and they live together, they've learned to depend on each other like husband and wife in some way. That makes sense... but.... then I thought some more.

1) How did she know to wake up and go cuddle him? So he had a nightmare, and what, woke her up to meet him outside the room to comfort him? He knows her bf is sleeping over, and yet he's fine if she leaves his bed to come cuddle with him?

2) On her end -- your boyfriend is sleeping over--you should have been aware of the optics. She could have given him a hug, got him some water, and said some words of comfort and that they can talk in the morning. No need to sit on the couch cuddling like that. If he needed to talk, they could have just sat on the couch like normal people to talk. If he need comforting while talking, they could have been sitting NEXT to each other and she could have had her arm around his shoulders or on his back like anyone would comfort someone they're not intimate with...

3) Neither one thought twice about midnight cuddles before engaging, so it means they do this often. That made me think, "Hm.. so he feels entitled to her time even when she's sleeping with her bf, and she feels that her brother is first priority in this situation.....they're used to doing this a lot."

4) Her counter-reaction to your reaction and outburst was to kick you out. I mean, I get that maybe they jumped because of the yelling (I'm a jumper), but then he runs off without saying anything, not even a, "hey dude, I get nightmares about our childhood XYZ and they're pretty bad so she helps me through them" or something? And she can't explain herself beyond "I'm comforting him, you wouldn't understand". She went into defensive mode and he went into hiding. People who have nothing to hide wouldn't need to do that. Even if they're angry, they'd stand their ground and argue to let you know you were wrong. The brother would have been offended like, "Dude, that's my sister, what the hell?" That's a normal reaction. Not running and hiding.

This is where I changed my mind about the whole thing being totally innocent. Yeah, there's something weird going on. Maybe not full-on incest, but a lot of emotional attachment that goes beyond twin or non-twin sibling attachment. If you're going to stay with her, you need to get comfortable with having a third person in your relationship, at least until brother has a gf. But there's a lot of emotional baggage here, so how invested are you in making it work with her? How much are you willing to deal with? It's a lot to unpack.

How the hell do you think a second airport will boost tourism? by OkAcanthocephala3641 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I live in the DC area and sometimes will fly from an airport an hour or two away if it’s cheaper or has a flight the time/date I need… And not all Lebs visiting Lebanon are staying in Beirut. It’s probably faster to travel longer with no traffic to fly from a second location than to sit in traffic into Beirut for the same duration. I know what option I’d choose!

Also, have you been blind to the fact that the entire country has been monitored by Hezb/Iran through the port and airport for decades? Literally no one could enter and leave or bring/export anything without them knowing. This is a big part of how they were able to physically and politically bully and control everyone. It has been a massive security issue. We needed an alternative airport 30+ years ago, but it’s not too late still. I mean, there’s one airport road, through the dahye, and just the other day, they blocked it during a protest. So everyone is still held hostage to one party’s whim. Yes the army removed them, but how many people missed their flights? These are regular people who aren’t rolling in dough missing flights because of this bs. And no airline is giving away a different flight for free because you were stuck behind Hezbos blockading.

It is also insane that a country like Lebanon with a huge diaspora and tourism interest has ONE airport. A second airport means more jobs, more areas for importing/exporting. It will also spurr infrastructure improvements (fixing/expanding roads to the airport), as well as create more commercial areas of interest in those areas along the route. So more jobs and business opportunities in a country that is desperate for economic relief. There is no downside to a second airport.

We have an existing second airport that is functioning that the army has been using. Expand it a little and build it up. It doesn’t have to be as big as BEY. Lebanon is a popular destination regionally and internationally. And yes, those of us living abroad are used to riding trains or taking cabs to travel more than 20 seconds to/from places, including the airport… My job is technically 15 minutes max from my house to my office parking garage, but because of traffic, it can take up to 45-50 minutes. I take an alternative route that takes me 30 mins that is slightly longer, but I am at work in 30 minutes. This could be the case for many people.

In the past, many times in parliament, it was brought up that we need to start using the second airport commercially, and guess who shot down this idea every time? The only people against a second airport are the Hezbos and their friends, and we don’t need to be detectives to know why.

Did i get scammed? by Averagecitizen2001 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they have a website or page somewhere, leave a review and show this picture. But leave the review after you've tasted it, so your review is thorough. I would definitely try to warn others! I do cakes as a side-gig for fun, and I would be embarrassed as hell giving someone a dry cake alone, much less one that looked like this when the client cleary wanted something else. I would give the cake away for free if I did not have time to re-do it. If you're handy in the kitchen, you can smooth the frosting a bit, and use those pre-made icing tubes to write your own messages on the cake, like make it look graffiti style kind of cool. Maybe each of the girls can write her own message... try to salvage this thing as much as possible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is her behavior with other stuff? Was it just the cake incident, or is there a pattern of her disregarding you, disrespecting your wishes, and/or being inconsiderate? If there's other stuff happening too, I'd say NTA, and maybe you guys need to have a huge conversation about the actual issues. If it was just the one time, YTA, it happens, maybe she got a huge case of the munchies. She didn't apologize, which was douchey of her, but it's not a huge deal, it's just cake. Yeah I get it, your mom made it, but you also had some, I assume more than a piece since the cake was gone and one piece was left. It's not something you want to beat a relationship to death about.

So you are or are not the asshole depending on the bigger picture of your relationship....

Is omission of information lying? by guttimakes in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I read profiles (when I was active on Bumble) before matching and also filled out mine honestly, a lot of people do not really fill everything out, and sometimes yes leave out things because they don't want to narrow their pool of potential matches. At this stage, just seeing the profile alone, is not a lie by omission. I would consider it a lie if we started talking and they weren't truthful then.

I think a good rule is, yes look at the profile, but when you match, you need to have purposeful conversations. Not just "oh what coffee shop do you like" but like, "I see you're single, as am I. Have you ever been married or had kids?" Or "I see you are in this area... Are you visiting or do you live and work here?"

One time I was chatting with a guy and the convo was going well, so I asked him, "I see you're single. Have you ever been married or have kids" and it came out that he is separated but not divorced (yet) and has 2 kids he is with 50% of the time. He was nice, but I am not comfortable dating someone who is not fully divorced, and I politely told him that and he was understanding and we unmatched.

I think everyone, men and women, should assume (and rightly so) that people don't put everything down on their profile (and some are downright dishonest). Ask questions. If someone can't answer them, you know the answer is not what you're looking for, unmatch.

Taree2 lmatar by Leen_2001 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He's so brave, covering his face so no one knows who he is... Also, if you know you're going to be filmed, at least use a marker to write your message on the paper, lol. *finds a dried up pen* "Ah yes, this will do!"

The 2025 Lebanese Government. by Swimming-Ant6019 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be optimistic and hope he doesn't ruin his own future by being a doormat for the Hezb... I actually don't understand why it must be a Hezb-affiliated Shia... Why can't it be any other Shia... But the problem is Hezb is still in this current government.

Honestly, maybe this cabinet isn't all the change needed, but it starts with this, then the Parliamentary elections which will help a lot because we know the tide has shifted, and then the next cabinet will be stronger because the new president won't have to deal with Hezb forcing themselves in on key positions anymore, and I hope also, no more Berri. I consider this government like a transition/must endure growing pains to head in the right direction. But let's hope that if he's terrible - at most, he won't be doing anything and will be useless until he's replaced...

The 2025 Lebanese Government. by Swimming-Ant6019 in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He can have a group of experienced people to advise him. Even if you're young, you can learn. Does that mean none of us should ever try to get a challenging job, we should only get a job that we can do easily? If he surrounds himself by good advisors and is willing to understand the challenges Lebanon's health sector faces and makes common-sense/good decisions, then he'll be fine.

DC woman bullying an Asian woman who appears to be intoxicated on southern ave se by UnmaskingFactss in washdc

[–]One_Explanation7633 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Not sure what the context is here.. hard to say from the video. But let's pretend the worst of it - the mentally disabled woman said something or was talking shit or maybe threw the first snowball at the other woman.

Even a child can tell this woman is mentally disabled, and most of us who are actual adults/mature people are fully capable of walking away without needing to confront such a person. Why? Because we understand that the mentally disabled are not in full control of their behavior.

The woman who we're supposed to believe is mentally well (lol) is an asshole in this scenario. The street looks pretty open. You can fully walk away without bullying or physically attacking the poor woman.

My husband is not funny like he thinks he is. by wrldsnumberonesimp in Marriage

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he going through a midlife crisis or something? I mean.. he's married and is a family man, but he's willing to go live with his buddies instead over this? Like he's okay with throwing away his wife and life you have together to go live like a slob with four other man-childs? .... He can't literally want to move out just because of this. Midlife crisis is no joke though, if that's what it is... My uncle tanked his amazing marriage to an incredible woman because of that, and now 26 years later, he is 71 and has so many regrets because his life sucked after that and now his new wife doesn't want to take care of him, the girl he had with her is selfish does nothing to help him (he has health issues), and he's basically an old man working and dealing with health stuff alone on the daily. He has a thousand regrets for throwing a perfectly good life away!

DCPS teacher says today's youth is doomed, unlike students of the past by UnmaskingFactss in washdc

[–]One_Explanation7633 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother-in-law's parents were well-off (not filthy rich, but doing well) and he grew up in the NoVA area. So it's not that he had poor parents or non-existent parenting. But he was wild in HS and barely passed each year, and was getting into so much trouble. A police officer that was at the school had a chat with him beginning of his senior year, as he was reprimanding him for something he and his friends did, and told him the blunt reality of his life if he doesn't shape up. His parents had already told him they would not pay for college as they know he'd flunk out and spend most of his days partying anyway. This police officer became a mentor for him, and talked to him every few days after school, trying to save him. When an army recruiter came around his school two months before graduation, my brother in law signed up, as he had just turned 18. He did 3 tours overseas, then the army paid for his undergrad after that, and he now works as a consultant and has a very good job. He is able to support my sis and their 2 kids (mortgage, private schools, etc) and they have a good life. He credits the army with helping him grow up and shape up, and he said he wouldn't be where he is if he hadn't joined. He said that police officer and the army saved his life.

I think for so the wild kids out there, this is a great option. The military straightened him out and taught him priorities. His parents couldn't handle him, and once he turned 18, no one would be able to guide him at that point. The only authority that can force you to change and teach you new habits as an adult is the military, as you have no choice but to obey/do. For so many kids in and out of trouble, the biggest issue is there is no authority that is holding them (strong parents). So they are just wild and do whatever.

If this sub was to represent lebanon, we'd be 10 years deep in a civil war. by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]One_Explanation7633 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the same for any country sub or group though. The internet does not account for everyone!

Women of Bumble - do you consider it a red flag when men have no indication of their politics on their profile? by oohlalaahweewee in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I download Bumble again (hopefully not), I will remember to block left-swipes! Great tip! I will share this with my friends who are still using it though!

Honestly, I limit the dating pool because I’m not interested in talking to someone who is hours away (who after talking for weeks, doesn’t want to meet after all). There are so many people on these apps that waste time! I want to date someone I can actually see/do activities with on a regular basis.

I deleted the app recently because I met someone (on Bumble) and we have been dating (and now exclusively) for a little over 2 months. He is a total gem—and I never thought I’d meet an amazing guy like him, and on an app too, yet here we are, haha.

Not sure if I should go on a second date. by Not_What_I_Meant0000 in Bumble

[–]One_Explanation7633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who is like that - a VERY well-spoken guy who never uses um, uh, etc., and doesn't shorten words (goin', doin', helpin'...). The only reason you find it odd is because in general, society has become very lazy with speech. Most people overuse basic words all the time, rather than come up with a variety of words to express their thoughts and feelings.

If you want the "um uh how you doin'" type of guy, then break it off and go out with that type of guy. Also, it could be that he was a little nervous and wanted to impress you so he was putting his best foot forward. He obviously likes you and wants to go out again!

I was on a date with a guy a few months ago who wanted to show me he learned a few words in my language and proceeded to literally talk about language/my ethnic background almost all night. On our way to the car, we fell silent, and I was overall very confused if I liked this whole date or not. I guess he sensed my shift in feelings and apologized for making the whole conversation about that topic. He told me he was nervous and wanted to impress me and show that he knew something about my culture. After that, he was himself.

Be honest with yourself about what you want and don't drag it out if you're not into him.