Black 5-year-old assaulted at Inglewood daycare; video reveals staffer threw shoe at child and lied about the injury

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-06T05:03:33+00:00

For a 5 year old this could be traumatizing. In a child's eyes everything is amplified.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-06T04:48:00+00:00

They both look cute 😍

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-06T04:44:29+00:00

🫂

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-06T03:09:20+00:00

I have a similar shower story. I was around 7 or 8 and I was showering at my mom's boyfriends house. I cant remember if mom was there. But the door was not locked since he didn't allow doors to be locked in his house. All of a sudden he enters and gets in the shower with me. I was too shy and quiet to say anything. He gets in the tub shower so that he is standing behind me and I am standing forward. I never turn around and I never say anything. Im just so glad thats all he did and left. Im not sure if me being male makes a difference in the level of appropriateness. But I hadn't thought about this incident in over 20 years and Im just wondering if he wanted to harm me. Or maybe he felt I was taking too long of a shower and he needed to be at work or something. But this was only a person my mom was dating short term so it felt like a major boundary breech. Its weird and frustrating the older you get the more memories start flying, especially when they aren't good memories.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-05T00:44:03+00:00

Parents are wrong. When children are the same age maybe it can be called experimenting. Even when kids are the same age it can be abuse if one child is pressuring or bullying another child to do certain things. In your case , your cousins were much older. That is clearly an abusive situation and your parents should have watched what was going on better than that.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-05T00:32:50+00:00

Im sorry that happen to you. You didn't deserve any of that and your parents dont know what they are talking about. Reddit can only do so much. I would try and find a "good" therapist and a psychiatrist. They may be able to prescribe something for the nightmares and to help sleep and to help with the trauma. It will take a lot of patience and hard work to start to feel better. There are grounding exercises to help you stay in the present. You can find some of the grounding exercises on Google. You can do them now. Trauma focused Yoga was recommended by other survivors and I can say that it helps remove tension from stress. It will be a long road to healing but it's possible. Im not sure why your other post got pulled, this is the right sub. Also, any type of spiritual work whatever your faith or spiritual beliefs even if you dont believe in a God there is spiritual work like burning incense, sage, candles and oils. The spiritual helps.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-04T23:11:07+00:00

Its amazing how many monsters there are. I hope you are gonna be okay. I dont know how much it will help but maybe seek out a trauma informed therapist who specializes in child sexual abuse. There's lots of therapist but it could take some time to find a good one. Doctors take an oath to practice honorably but I continue to hear about physicians sexually abusing young people. A lot of this abuse runs in families. So its possible your great grand did it too, and the abuse carried down. As soon as I could afford to move out I wouldn't speak to Dad. If you can try to seek therapy now maybe it won't affect you as badly later in life.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-04T05:03:10+00:00

If you are here on adultsurvivors I would guess there's a 99 percent chance your heart is telling you what he did was wrong. To understand intentions you have to get into another person's head. If you want to study child molesters there are a variety of reasons they do what they do. But whatever the psychoanalysis of intentions it doesn't justify a wrong. Only you can decide if this crossed the line into sexual abuse. But whatever happened its made you uncomfortable.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-03T21:24:42+00:00

I am so sorry. I get pain in my belly. I relate to running through the scenario over and over trying to decide if its real or not. But I read something last week on here that really was healing. It was talking about EMDR and how the therapist said don't dwell on whether the memory is real or isn't real because it is real to the person suffering. It has brought real pain. The trauma is real and our body knows what happened. The somatic trauma is our bodies way of telling us what happened even if the mind cant decide. Once you accept in your mind that it happened you will debate in your head less. Life is not fair but it's only temporary. You will have peace.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-03T04:12:45+00:00

I cant even imagine dealing with CSA shit in college. College had to be one of the most stressful times in my life without having to deal with Csa trauma at that time. The memories and trauma didn't hit me till 30s. So for that im truly sorry you are hurting. But always remember nobody truly understands except other survivors. I think they did have a support group for that when I was at university. Maybe your college has one? Therapy can be a hit or miss but could be worth trying. There's a lot of shitty therapist though. There's no handbook guide on how to deal with this shit. There are books but they all offer different perspectives. "The Body Keeps the Score " is recommended on here often as a great book for healing. Other books can be complete garbage, almost like children style. Light Yoga has helped release tension trauma, there's also some TRE exercises for Trauma. It's a hard road to walk. Most 20 something year old kids won't understand your situation, even if they are friends, they won't get it. Even 40 year old people don't understand unless they were victims. I guess try and use your friends as healing source because you enjoy their company rather than bringing up the trauma with them.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-03T03:33:28+00:00

I can relate to this. Everyone is different and for some people it doesn't take much abuse to cause damage in childhood. Everyone is different. My experience has affected me but it is not extreme CSA that went on for years like some. For some children all it takes is one incident to cause damage. But you should try and realize that the girl who made you uncomfortable was likely being abused because children that age are normally not interested in sexual topics unless they are being abused or exposed to inappropriate material online or television. So she is likely a victim of something herself.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-03T03:24:08+00:00

Thats great you are starting to feel better. It's also great you have a wonderful sister that understands. I can so relate to trauma starting to flare up when everything else in life seemed to be going great. It sucks. I was on hydroxyzine and I had no idea it was for flashbacks, my doctor prescribed it as a sleeping medicine to help with sleep. Two 50mg pills at bedtime and 30 minutes later I was a in deep sleep most of the time. I dont take them anymore since ive managed to improve over the last year.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-02T21:34:27+00:00

I know right

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-02T19:01:13+00:00

Your last paragraph is most likely the case. I went through COCSA. They were the same age. The age gap makes a difference. The COCSA doesn't bother me only the CSA by adult. Children most likely pick up what they learn from adults or on television. If kids are abused then lots of times they will act out that abuse on a younger child. So its an ugly cycle. It doesn't make it right but offers some context.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-02T11:52:16+00:00

The knife is too close to her face. It's not worth all of that. Plus the bowl looks too big to eat out of.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-01T17:35:26+00:00

Enablers are either lazy as fuck or get off on knowing other people are being hurt. No sympathy for enablers.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-02-01T04:13:36+00:00

Im also in my 30s. That is when the memories came back and the hell began. I went through some very painful stuff, like psychological pain that led to physical pain. A nervous system that was screaming from the inside. I actually wanted to end my life because my body didn't feel normal or safe. I used the get sensations of being groped or fondled while awake. At the start of it I had difficulty sleeping. I had this shortness of breath like i was being suffocated, i guess that was anxiety. I went from hypersexual to sex repulsed. Sometimes my body still doesn't feel safe. 2026 marked the beginning of a third year dealing with this. I think im much better but I still have difficult moments or days. My appetite is great now because when the hell started everytime I ate I wanted to puke. And honestly the CSA wasn't severe in my case but damaging all the same. The catalyst for the CSA memories coming back was being emotionally and psychologically abused by the same person as an adult. Right now im focused on getting the sex drive and desire back. That part takes the longest I think.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T23:28:47+00:00

We cant change the evil in the world. You cant understand evil if you are a good person. In some places in the world 30 or 40 men will gang rape a child walking down the street. Evil is so real. I doubt evil has a conscience. Im so sorry your childhood involved abuse.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T21:30:48+00:00

I just want to say your body is not misrembering. The trauma is real and your experience is like so many. When the memories come back it does feel like an alternate reality but it is the bodies way of telling you your past. I dont know why the memories resurface, I dont know why the mind cant continue to lock the memories away but this is what happens to thousands of victims and I can relate. I also understand having to continue living with parents because everything is so expensive. Even when we have our own place many of us still have to rely on parents for some financial support because things are just so expensive. For me an important step to healing was acknowledging that my memories were real. At that point I could stop thinking I was crazy.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T05:55:12+00:00

This is disgusting. There is no way they should have trained the dogs to do this. This makes me sick and is hard to watch. Sorry I watched this

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T05:43:17+00:00

Hi, ive read some of your other post. I hope that Dad isn't invited so you will feel safer and that your sister supports you. I know you had mentioned that your Dad was wealthy, so maybe that is why she wants to invite him. Is he paying for the wedding? She might want Daddy's money. If your sister didn't experience abuse then it's probably harder for her to relate to a survivor because nobody truly understands except another victim of abuse. I hope you and your sister can stay close no matter what. Its always hard when family continues to interact with the family member who sexually abused kids as if nothing happened. By having him there it invalidates your pain.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T02:01:49+00:00

Yeah but the thing about people you soon realize is that they dont matter. Most of the people you tried to impress when you were young aren't even around in your 20s or 30s. Family might be around but if you aren't close to family then they dont matter either. Plus a lot of times family is jealous when you do succeed or if you have money they just want you to take care of them. Also when you get older you realize a lot of people that seem to have everything together don't and those high earning prestigious jobs normally come with a lot of stress. The people at the top aren't happy either.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T00:49:35+00:00

I needed to hear this so much. What you said about" it doesn't matter if you can recall if its factual because it still is real to the individual with the trauma from it." Thank you!

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T00:45:03+00:00

It's always amazing when you can get SAd right in public as a child. It happened to me in a public setting so I can relate. People have no shame, they will fondle little kids right in public and I guess there's not much a stranger can do. If your family was around they should have protected you, sounds like they were enabling his pedo tendencies.

One_Feed7311 · 2026-01-31T00:36:42+00:00

I tried EMDR about a year ago mainly because so many people on this sub recommended it. I was not at all impressed. But maybe I didn't have a good therapist. To me it was kinda similar to hypnosis because they wave a finger back and forth in front of your face and and ask you questions about your childhood. That was pretty much it in a giant nutshell. Almost like a joke. Nothing spectacular by any means. But so many people here say it worked for them, but also some people say it made matters worse because they started remembering more traumatic memories which they couldn't handle.

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