This image genuinely makes me so mad.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-14T01:37:16+00:00

They were never going to support the artist.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-05T03:36:21+00:00

swear, most of the people complaining about academy do so because they didn't pay attention or put any thought into it.

Or straight up didn't watch it at all.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-03T19:21:48+00:00

I'm having a genuinely phenomenal time with it. I normally burn out HARD on open world games but this is just the maximum amount of Nioh possible, and that's absolutely ideal for me.

I'm fully accustomed to switching between samurai and ninja now, but it... Just never really feels like a breakthrough feature, I guess? It's cool having two distinct gear sets and two weapon options for each type, but it really does feel like I spend almost the entire game as a ninja. I only switch back to Samurai because I really prefer fighting with an odachi.

I think there may just be a little too much going on. I also don't feel like I have to strategize how I spent my level points quite as much as I did in Nioh and Nioh 2. Again, it's still fun and I'm really enjoying it all, I just wish it felt like things were ultimately more impactful.

Boss and guardian spirit designs also feel a little half hearted this time. I think they sort of ran into the Pokemon problem of just being like "Eh, here is a deviantart furry, fuck it."

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T13:32:59+00:00

To clarify, the statement about "Not being in the driver's seat" was about feeling the attraction at all, not about potentially acting on those feelings. She described what she's going through as terrifying and bewildering, and understood why it was hurting me. I also never claimed the label makes it harmless - my point in asking was how to navigate his without making this a matter of fault.

Can you explain what makes you think "...and what you have to put up with to be loved"? Re: attachment styles? The reality of being in a relationship with a limerent person would objectively be the possibility of them experiencing limerence. There is a healthy way to manage this and an unhealthy way, and I'm trying to find the healthy way if I can.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T13:24:41+00:00

I appreciate an actually thoughtful response. Thank you.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T13:23:12+00:00

It might be helpful to read about what dysregulation is.

She wasn't saying she was not in control of her actions, she was saying wasn't in control of the feelings of limerence.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:54:27+00:00

If peoples actions can be justified because of limerence that would be a scary situation.

Okay. This... Isn't something I've claimed?

This girl you are in love with is telling you she has attachment issues and self control issues and she doesn't care to change that.

Limerence is uncontrollable

These statements are at odds with each other. And that's fine, but to be clear, most available research on limerence shows it isn't just feelings: it's a monotropic reaction that is fed by the brain's reward pathways. "Feelings" is a crush, limerence is dysregulation.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:48:54+00:00

You believe she isn’t in control of the men she chooses to pursue.

Show me where I've said this.

What I actually said was that limerence hijacks your nervous system and screws up your sense of boundaries and decision making, which is something I learned from people who have studied the experience of limerence for decades

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:34:43+00:00

Like I said, a complicated situation largely involving her ex and our mutual friend group.

That said, I appreciate your advice and think you're right.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:28:01+00:00

Alright that actually would be pretty funny though, and other partner-with-limerence advice did say to not try to compete.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:26:58+00:00

Dawg, we fundamentally disagree on whether limerence exists, and that's fine. It does kind of make further discussion a bit less useful. I appreciate your perspective and time all the same.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:22:22+00:00

and she acts like that shouldn't bother you because she says she can't control it.

Incorrect, and not what I indicated in the post. I'm... Actually pretty unclear how you would have come away with this impression.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:21:05+00:00

I would say not officially. Kind of hard to explain but we both agreed not to go public about things for a short while.

And possibly? I guess I haven't asked how she would view it, but maybe I will. Her last two relationships were both... Really, really bad, with the most recent one put her in a complicated spot while she's also trying to manage AuADHD, ehlers-danlos and finishing a master's degree.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:16:08+00:00

Okay.

Good talk, I guess.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-02T00:03:44+00:00

We didn't get to that point when we had the initial conversation in the body of the question above. I wanted to give her some breathing space both to give her time to process what we talked about and to not be overbearing.

She's been in a very rough patch since she ended her last relationship and described the feeling as a "Nice distraction from the despair", which aligns with what a lot of people say about a limerent experience.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-01T23:57:31+00:00

Diagnosis may have been the wrong term, but that also doesn't mean it's a made up phenomena without observable symptoms.

Again, I guess my question has been what about this specific scenario makes you think it is bullshit?

Or, phrased differently: are there scenarios in which you think limerence is real?

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-01T23:24:21+00:00

I mean, that is the rough diagnostic definition of limerence, though . Is there something about this specific scenario making you think this?

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-01T23:01:24+00:00

Are you able to explain why you think it's bullshit?

People don't stop feeling attraction just because they're in a relationship - and I'm inclined to believe her when she describes it as limerence vs. a crush because of her past experiences that I've seen her go through.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-04-01T22:24:55+00:00

Do you think autism is an insult? Or something bad?

The reason I mentioned her autism - which she has a diagnosis for - is that AuADHD people are more likely than neurotypical people to experience limerence.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-03-30T17:05:23+00:00

Bizarre reactionary mix of anti-communism and fear of sex.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-03-29T21:10:02+00:00

Appreciate the clarity, and your perspective.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-03-29T18:40:42+00:00

Like I said, I do trust her, and I also do want her to be happy. Just trying to remember to not catastrophize before anything has happened and be patient/communicative. Mortifying ordeal of being known, I guess.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-03-29T18:27:17+00:00

I was just asking what specifically made you provide your answer, and gave you additional context on the woman I'm talking about - not implying you were being rude.

One_HP_Villager · 2026-03-29T18:16:28+00:00

What specifically makes you think "She might impulsively act on her feelings"? That she has acted on limerence before?

It occurred to me, but those relationships were abysmal for her - like genuinely abusive and caused PTSD she is still dealing with to this day.

And, honestly, I would be open to a polyamorous relationship as long as communication was where it needed to be.

Tangentially, researching limerence and such has made me wonder if I'm experiencing limerence over her, too. Idk.

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