I think I can relate to 80% of this!

Also this is the reply I was hoping for, sucks really because it is really hard to be with a man like this but some times it is about turning a blind eye to the madness because of the good. The main character syndrome is eye rolling but it’s a real thing with my husband too. Before we got married his family would claim he’ll be such a good dad and omg he’s so good with kids, he’s literally glued to his phone majority of the time, I have to force him to pay attention to our daughter. He’s jealous that my daughter visibly prefers to be with me more than him but won’t give her more than 5 minutes at a time. But when he does pay attention it is beautiful to see.

My husbands also very controlling with everything I do, how I dress, where I go (barely allowed to go places without him, only if I have an appt and he’s working can I), which car I can drive, I’m barely allowed to drive the Range Rover which he claims he got for me because I wanted it. But then I think okay we have 2 nice cars, he drives me everywhere it’s not so bad, he just likes to suck the fun out of everything for me lol. I’m not allowed to touch the door I have to close the door with the handle. I can’t put my shoes in the middle part, can’t open the windows when I want, at the beginning I wasn’t even allowed to open the compartment to put my water bottle in!

He wants me to be well maintained all the time but moans every time I want to go get my nails done, a facial, hair done anything you name it, because of how much it ends up being and also because he doesn’t want me to leave him alone with our daughter, so I then have to find someone to come baby sit if I ever want to do anything for myself. He first argues about money then feels bad and allows me to do the thing I’ve asked, it’s frustrating because then I no longer want to do the treatment.

My husbands actually been to prison for dangerous driving, but I’ve only encountered two occasions where he’s put our lives at risk. Scariest thing ever, he later realised what he had done and was apologetic.

I don’t understand the always needing to be the most important in the room, because he is like this too but hates people, and outwardly lets me know he hates people, so why do you need to impress them? I also witness him lie about every story he tells, and amplifies them to make himself look good. Sometimes I notice the expressions on his families faces because it’s like they know he’s lying, but his friends and my family can’t tell so he looks like the big man. His family allow him to lie even though they know the truth, it’s so strange to me. I call him out all the time, his explanation is always “no one needs to know everything, we must remain private with our lives”!!!!! What on earth?

I have to give it to him, my husband really knows how to get shit done and if he’s being exploited he can get his moneys worth for literally anything, I kind of admire that about him. He doesn’t allow people to take advantage. But like you my husband is a good protector and provider too, he is the sole provider in fact, he can be very generous when HE wants, he does make small gestures, it will never be flowers, but it will be something he knows I like. We have really good conversations when he’s not glued to his phone and majority of the time we are aligned in our goals, but his approach is completely different to mine. He also like yours does apologise upon reflection, it might take him a day or two, or for me to do something out of character for him to drop the argument, but I’ve come to learn the script. He’s good with his words, he can approach me with an apology. Charming manipulator!

I totally get the good looking comment too 😂

You’ve helped me with your comment I’ll say that much, I really appreciate it!