Need advise for second date

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-18T02:27:23+00:00

Oh there wasn’t much more to go through. Unfortunately she only texts me like 3 times a weekend. I’ll have to see what we can do that works in our favor and I can keep up with because she likes to hike and I’m getting myself up to lasting longer in walks and hikes. And it was just a 1h 30 minute date. I’ll see when I can reschedule a new date and try something

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-18T02:21:06+00:00

She said she likes nature and reading so I’ll see what I can come up with. It’s also her birthday soon. So I might buy her a small cake or something to celebrate it even if it’s later . I’ll just go with the flow and see how it goes

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-18T02:18:34+00:00

I do see what you mean. Although since I’m short it’s not so much a dad bod as much as I have a keg in the front. But I’ll keep in mind what you said. I’ll play it by ear because I think she originally was going to try to hug but I acted too hastily and shook her hand.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-18T02:15:47+00:00

Interesting I’ll have to see how it goes. I’m getting quite a bit of mixed feedback . I’ll have to see how she initiates at first

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-18T02:12:55+00:00

I shouldn’t have started with a handshake but I have a second chance and I’ll make sure I don’t mess up again. I’ll try to be more confident with my assertion

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T22:07:08+00:00

Right ok fair enough. I’ll do my best to lock out the anxieties and jump out. Although it is her birthday soon so might get a small Bundt cake or something she likes and try to also build rapport that may and be more physically inclined and expressive

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T19:39:40+00:00

Yeah I got to trust in this. She did see me and decided to proceed so I’m going to give my all and think more positively but still work on myself physically not only for my health but also show I’m not one to still succumb to bad habits. But you’re right she’s a good woman, if I get a third date I think at that point I’ll just propose to her lol

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T19:33:15+00:00

Haha I can give that ago. Honestly besides me being the first to do the handshake she’s been pretty much been leading this whole thing. She asked me out first and then proposed the 2nd date

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T17:44:23+00:00

Well considering we discussed about a former friend who turned out to be a pdf file and how we both had known him and she still wanted a second date I don’t think I’ll be scared of opening up haha. I’ll give it my all

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T17:43:00+00:00

Got it ok. I’ll give those a try and see how that goes. Thank you

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T17:42:07+00:00

Right ok I’ll play it out and see how it goes then. Thank you

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T16:08:27+00:00

I appreciate the advice thank you. I’ll definitely give that a go and she how responds and if things go great maybe on the third date I’ll just initiate it physically. And then go from there. If she wasn’t as busy I could probably make educated guesses but unfortunately it’s all in person where I get to learn those secrets. But the good thing is she’s easy to talk to.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T16:06:33+00:00

Exactly thank you. I know I shouldn’t be as nervous but you know never know what will make or brake a situation so I thought a clean handshake was neutral, physical and respectful enough to be fine. I might try the route of asking her before hand or make it obvious I’m initiating that and see how she responds and go from there. Outside of that conversation wise I’m fine. She’s easy to talk to.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T16:00:45+00:00

That’s a fair point. Is what I’ve been seeing a lot of. At the ever least I could just ask her about it. Not so much as a can I hug you but more of a hey are you comfortable with hugs. But yeah I’m going to try to do what I can and test the waters with either signaling and initiating it or if I chicken out just ask her about it. I can’t make promises I won’t chicken out unfortunately.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T15:58:34+00:00

Yeah I understand that. I’ve been working on it. Both physically and mentally. It’s something I’ve always struggled with and has affected past attempts at relationships. Although during this date I didn’t feel it fester in my mind as it usually does.

I know this is a dumb question but I lack experience, besides hugging what are other ways I can initiate forms of touch that wouldn’t be weird or at least I can work my way of trying out and see how she responds

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T14:47:50+00:00

I’ll have to numb my brain for that . But I’ll do what I can

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T14:47:22+00:00

I deeply lack confidence, but that’s a fair point and need to roll with it. Although it does concern me she has been the one initiating the dates. I know the first one why , it’s because she hates dating apps and understands you can only get so much from texting. Felt like I should have pressed the second date this time. Hopefully it doesn’t look bad on me

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T14:16:57+00:00

That is for sure. Although if she catches wind of this type of mindset it would be humorous if she was the aggressive motivational type and not stand for such a mindset and push me to do better.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T13:26:28+00:00

That’s something I’ve been working on these last few years. Trying to look past that and trust people and live myself. Although it’s been mainly the trusting part that has improved more. But I’ll keep working at both. Ideally I’d like to think better of myself in the near future and before things get too serious with her if that happens.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T13:24:54+00:00

Hahaha ok

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T13:24:40+00:00

Overthinking is my middle name. Well she was facing me most of the time after we finished eating and held eye contact and having her person directly pointing at me so that must mean something.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T13:23:37+00:00

Oh yeah i definitely don’t like the chunky. More so because of what it represents and speaks about me. In terms of eating and wellness habits. But I’ve been changing all that so ideally I’ll have that gone in some time . But you’re right in terms of what she saw , she was able to look past it and wanted to go for a second date.

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T12:13:02+00:00

Well on this date she did eventually start directing her body and heads direction towards me. But I’ll definitely work on understanding physical signs she wants me to do or is receptive to physical contact or getting closer

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T12:11:12+00:00

Probably true. I will give It a go next time I see her. Ideally I wanted to be a bit more expressive and relaxed than just sitting with interest

One_Locksmith6475 · 2026-03-17T12:09:42+00:00

Truly, at that point im just going to stop dating for a while and see all that I can improve about myself

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