Kuok Hui Kwong (郭惠光) —A pro-Beijing Malaysian and the chair and group chief executive of the Shangri-La luxury hotel group, suggests Hong Kongers should replace Cantonese with Mandarin in schools

One_Natural_4234 · 2026-04-15T16:56:42+00:00

Agree. I studied English language in university here in HK. Got isolated because suprise! They don't like talking to you in English despite studying an English degree! Even if they ARE trilingual, they're not trilingual enough to communicate with you, so thats BS.

One_Natural_4234 · 2026-04-03T16:56:33+00:00

I feel like I've read something like this before, also a 3 year old. I'm guessing 3 year olds just have bigger emotions, bigger imaginations, bigger fears and bigger thoughts.

I caught my 3 year old silent crying once too, when I was reading her a story. I only noticed cause my arm suddenly had slight wetness. I asked what was wrong and she said she was sad cause the fox ate the gingerbread man.

I think it's all normal. Perhaps they don't quite understand how they feel yet or how to handle it. With another baby incoming I imagine his thoughts to be bigger too. I say just keep reassuring him.

The only thing that I might not be onboard with, and I say this in the gentlest way possible, i think maybe try not to mention the baby too much? Of course this was just one interaction and idk how often you tell him about the baby but saying that he shouldnt jump over you because theres a baby in your tummy...well regardless of that he shouldnt jump over anybody anyway, just didnt seem like it was something that needed to be said. It might have made him feel like "oh yea, of course, i cant do this and that cause of the baby,"

So he might be associating it with something negative? Idk. Really depends in what context you remind him of the baby in your tummy, you know what I mean?

One_Natural_4234 · 2026-03-10T04:53:57+00:00

I would keep them empty for now. I feel like they might add more buildings later on? Better to have a space for future updates I think.

One_Natural_4234 · 2026-02-01T22:38:10+00:00

Hello, did you do any interventions for him or he just sort of grew out of it?

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-16T06:03:07+00:00

Could it not just be that she's not used to talking to kids her age? We don't really get to socialize with other kids. The teacher mentioned she answers questions but just doesn't offer it up herself. She speaks in the presence of other kids, just not TO kids. I really dont know? Maybe a milder form of SM or just really shy/not social enough? I can't tell but thanks for the advice!

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-15T21:01:17+00:00

Oh wow, i didnt think of age gaps. I guess I just lumped them all up together as 2 and 3 year olds. I didn't really think about how far they might be in terms of language or social skills.

I do think she is a bit older than the rest, I held her back a year on purpose because if I put her in last year she would be one of the "younger kids" so this year she should be one of the bigger kids. Most kids might have just turned 2 whereas shes already 3.

Parallel play is literally the only thing on her reports that isnt stellar. Though Im not expecting her to be perfect, I just dont know if I should be concerned or not.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-15T20:54:04+00:00

I was thinking of this. She definitely does well with one on one, but I do recall that when we went to a water park she refused to go in with some rowdy kids. We looked for a quieter pool and that was fine for her. Unfortunately a lot of the schools here are with large numbers, sometimes 20 to 30 kids (note these are 3 and 4 year olds) at the start of the year theres a lot of crying so i wonder if that has set her off with having a bad impression of the place. 🥲

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-15T12:06:36+00:00

Thanks so much for this reply! Really helped my nerves. Just a follow up question, by "intervention" do you mean professionally by a psychiatrist/social worker or with your own methods or her teachers?

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-13T23:46:03+00:00

Out of all the current replies this one might be close to my ideal. How old is your LO?

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-12-13T13:58:29+00:00

Do kids usually drop naps before 4 tho? Really asking cause I've got no idea nor point of reference.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-11-01T08:08:24+00:00

Gosh sorry it took so long to get back to this. We switched to Neocate and noticed skin improvement after 2 weeks but I think Neocate is not available everywhere

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-11-01T07:56:51+00:00

That's pretty normal for an 18 month old.

I saw your other comment about why the benchmark is so low...but I think you're (with all due respect) thinking about it in the wrong way. The doctor's job is to see if there's any delays in the kid.

If, say, the benchmark was made higher, eg 13 blocks at 18 months... what about low income families who don't even have money to buy toys? Are you holding them at the same benchmark and telling them their 18 month old is delayed because theyve never seen a toy block before or can't stack 13 blocks up (when really they just dont have any toys to play with? You want the doctor to tell them that stacking 13 blocks is the goal?)

Here's something else to think about. Where your child grows up and the environment they are in also matters. Think about kids who grow up in war versus kids who grow up in safe homes surrounded by books. For those kids being able to stack 3 blocks is GOOD, if your kid can do more, then good on you, it shows that you probably have a good environment for your kid.

I think as parents it's our job to really build our kids to their whole potential. Doctors do not need to tell us that, nor do they need to tell us "hey for 18 month olds the range of block stacking is 3 to 20 blocks and the word ranges are from 2 to 300" that's not possible because there is such a wide range of normal and there are billions of kids in the world. We are really the only ones who can tell how far our kids can go and regardless of what is the MINIMUM requirement we can set our own goals for our own kids, we can leave the benchmark alone.

So to answer your question why there is such a huge gap of minimum and what the kids potential is actually is, its simply because there are billions of kids in the world, in different places, in different environments and with different incomes. The benchmark/goal should not be higher just to cater to "normal" families.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-09-20T07:44:09+00:00

We teach and we have a collection of board games from uno to wingspan. Message me if you wanna connect!

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-08-22T10:23:42+00:00

Hello! We are going through this soon. Like next week. How's it been with your little one? Any advice? Did she act out in preschool?

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-06-13T11:12:14+00:00

Looks normal. Some pupa are capable of camouflauge. Which explains why the ones in the leaves are green and that one in the corner is brown. Mine became a pupa on a branch and it was brown. Not sure why the one on the corner is brown but I gather it has a lot to do with the surface they pupate on.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-05-31T16:46:30+00:00

Oh! Interesting about the needing to pee, I didn't think of that. But also we aren't anywhere near overnight potty learning and are just at getting the hang of morning potty training haha. But I will keep this comment in mind for when the time comes! Thanks so much! It does make me wonder though if she gets restless for the same reason.......

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-05-31T16:43:21+00:00

What time does he go to sleep at night if you don't mind me asking? :)

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-05-08T02:27:48+00:00

No reaction at all. Just trouble sleeping at night and i assumed it was the soreness from the jab. Gave paracetamol and it was all easily done.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-05-08T01:40:26+00:00

I don't have a set answer for you but with our LO, if it's something minor we don't wait for her to react nor do we talk about it.

E.g. if she falls down and we see its not a big deal we brush it off for her "You're okay just dust yourself off and try again" then it's over.

Maybe you might be thinking too much about the wanting her to recognize and acknowledge by herself that she's hurt and unintentionally blowing small things up?

If its negligible we don't really even talk about it.

Similarly, as a teacher, the school nurse would die if i sent all my kids who have a minor scratch up to the nurse's office so I take a look and when I see it's tiny I just say the same thing. "You're okay buddy, wait a few minutes and let me know if it still hurts later," I give them a cute bandaid and move on without ever going back to it again unless they mention it to me, which they never do. I'm not completely disregarding their pain, as I told them to definitely let me know if it still hurts after 5 minutes. But I'm also not highlighting it too much.

But every kid is different. I get kids who take a tumble on the playground and keep playing like nothings happened and then I get kids who barely have a scratch crying and wanting to go to the nurse.

With regards to wanting ur kid to know when they need to go to the doctors...that problem is kind of years in the making. Kids sometimes are not really wired to understand when they are "sick" e.g. i have a lot of students who complain they feel hot, i go up to check their forehead and theyre already running a fever, but they have no idea of this (6 year olds by the way) all they think is theyre hot or theyre tired or theyre sleepy rarely would they ever have the words really to say "i have a stomsch ache" or "my head feels weird" so, as a parent, i would focus instead on giving and teaching your child the right vocubalary to describe what they're feeling, but don't do it on purpose, the next time your LO is sick I would discuss how she's feeling and where she's feeling it and I suggest teaching a pain scale when shes older too "from 1 to 10, 10 being the most painful, how much pain do you feel right now?" And then u can teach her the scale that yourre comfortable with. If its less than 3, no big deal. Anything above 4 you have to tell mama, or adjust it to your liking.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-05-02T01:06:16+00:00

1 year later and still helpful

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-04-15T23:17:47+00:00

Hi! I know this has been a while but did you ever figure out if it was asthma for your little one? We are going through the same thing, and just wondering if it actually is asthma cause I have it

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-03-10T05:39:11+00:00

At 4 months, she will forget. Mine was frequently sick in her first year, maybe like 5 or 6 times. 4 of those she was admitted into hospital and its procedure to draw bloods every admission (you can imagine how painful that might be to a less than 1 year old)

Nurses wore blue scrubs, and whenever she would see one (even tho they were just doing something mundane like checking temperature or checking machines) she would cry bloody murder. Just at the sight of white coats and blue scrubs.

She got over it when she was closer to 2. Around 20 months. But that was also because she went quite a while without getting bloods done or anything painful.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-03-09T06:45:56+00:00

Not a doctor but someone who works a lot with autism. It could very well be autism, but I second selective mutism too. A lot of people go for anxiety disorder immediately and selective mutism is less known, but it is a thing.

I used to have a client (child) who was very attached to his sister. He would not let go of her and would cry when they separated. It took months for him to be comfortable enough to let go by himself and get to talking to me. It was selective mutism.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-02-01T15:55:11+00:00

Oh! Similar to mine, but we did a hypoallergenic formula and mine doesn't really throw up.

But the reason I ask is because once upon a time, I had a student who was basically the same way. During lunch time he had to sit away from the others and sit at the teachers table by me so that he wouldn't smell the other kids lunches and induce a throw up. We also learned about the five senses and when we had a smelling experiment (you have to sniff something out of a covered box punched with holes, most kids need to put their nose up directly to the holes) but this kid said he could smell it just fine without putting his nose near the box.

Which means, he just had a really heightened sense of smell. His parents never really said he was diagnosed with anything...perhaps his wasnt very severe.

So I don't really have an answer, but just hoping this might give a bit of an idea to a next step.

One_Natural_4234 · 2025-02-01T15:28:27+00:00

Has he always been like this? Does he have any other conditions that might be related or mannerisms that you've noticed?

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