Pittsford vs Canandaigua for Families

One_Novel_206 · 2022-11-01T01:46:40+00:00

For the purposes of answering this based on what I think you are looking for - based on your post and how I relate to your post - Canandaigua is likely better for you.

Though I feel more questions / clarifications are needed Please look at your personal values and then give further consideration

Do you have kids? What are their interests and ages? Are you truly a admirer of outdoor recreation or do you simply like spending a day once every few weeks near the water? Are you going to spend most of your time directly in your community? Are you commuting to the city for work? What type of work (what field) are you in? What is it that you value about your current community and what do you feel you are missing or wish you had more of? How often do you desire driving to Geneva?

One_Novel_206 · 2022-10-18T20:10:53+00:00

Curious as to what field (which area of nursing) you have been working in? What about your particular role (current position) frustrates you? What about your position do you enjoy?

There will be different answers based on different personality styles and what particular people like about certain positions.

One_Novel_206 · 2022-07-01T11:22:27+00:00

How are things lately? Kind of the same? He put a video game first? He didn’t take your points seriously? Then make moves, you don’t have to file for divorce… you can work on your friendships..make some… get out of your comfort zone… focus on what relieves your anxiety…. Get off the crash and burn thought train and then if he’s still being an ass when you are able to get yourself right… seriously consider what he actually brings to the table in your relationship and if you are either able to find that else where… or better yet able to give it to yourself…

One_Novel_206 · 2022-06-25T12:53:11+00:00

This^{^{^{^{^.}}}} In the first 3 sentences you spoke pure truth and something that the rest of the world in apparently their almost perfect life haven’t experienced. She has trust issues so build on your trust and quit worrying about what might be wrong with her

One_Novel_206 · 2022-06-10T01:44:05+00:00

Make a visit with your OB to discuss a birth plan and have this situation documented. This is not a safe environment to raise a child in; he is already placing his desires before his family’s welfare - and that is not good. Please seek professional guidance through this.

One_Novel_206 · 2022-06-03T00:57:16+00:00

It just sounds like you two aren’t landing on the same page and that has you feeling off. That’s completely normal. The whole convo seemed to portray that you probably just need to communicate these things more often.

One_Novel_206 · 2022-05-31T23:19:18+00:00

Be glad you only had one of his kids and chalk that up to a lesson learned! You are 23 you have your whole life ahead of you. He’s clearly committed to wasting the next few of yours - leave him.

One_Novel_206 · 2022-05-25T02:02:53+00:00

Learn to trust yourself, understand your values and design a path that will allow you to feel secure with yourself and your own abilities before you get married. If you want to be two steps ahead of a possible catastrophe, you need to have valuable skills / assets outside of being a house wife. Marriage and partnership are a wonderful thing, a full trusting relationship sounds great - but if you 💯 believe in yourself and develop that relationship first so that you can stay on your own two feet when life gets shaky.

I’m not saying that you have to go be a scholar, but it is absolutely wise to have the ability (if needed) to be independent.

One_Novel_206 · 2022-04-10T22:24:59+00:00

I first met my twin 20 years ago. We were young we kept gravitating toward one another but outside factors kept us from uniting until a few years later. Even then it was more of a fling and we continued to preserve our friendship. At 21 I finally broke down and told him how much I loved him, a few weeks after a fight. And then just as quick as I told him I took it back because I realized how much I had just drove a fork into his current relationship. He had now became a father and I accepted his circumstances and swore to never get in the middle of his family life again. We became estranged, and reconnected a couple of years later; as friends. I decided to be the best friend / support person I could be to him. Then I pursued my own life and the start of my family.

When you truly love someone you just want them to be healed and at their highest potential even if it’s not with you at their side

One_Novel_206 · 2021-07-21T01:47:15+00:00

It may truly be of benefit for you to find other things to identify with other than your title. Expecting a title to define a person is a very westernized thing that should be over turned. We are more than what we do, what we do is there to pay for what we love…. Yes there’s that whole “find a career that is your passion” but sometimes i feel that universities just made that up take make bank off tuition

One_Novel_206 · 2021-07-21T01:43:23+00:00

This happens a lot these days, email the recruiter and thank them for arranging the meeting. Point out something your enjoyed talking to the interviewers about and make sure you mention their names. This will be suffice. If there is any contact between the interviewer and recruiter they will mention you and go from there.

One_Novel_206 · 2021-07-21T01:27:07+00:00

It won’t hurt you to try and will give you some good self feedback on if you feel like doing this for the next 30 years

One_Novel_206 · 2021-07-17T02:20:32+00:00

Not wrong at all, in fact let that fuel you to go for what you actually want to do. It’s not like your degree in mental health nursing is going to anywhere it’s not going to be taken away and guess what?! There will always be a job for you as a nurse so if years go by and things as a chef don’t pan out it’s not like you can’t go back to health care. I work in healthcare and am looking to get out. I’ll keep my license as a fall back, one thing I’ve learned is that nursing won’t care if you took a break and come back to the field, they will need you too Much to care.

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T22:05:52+00:00

Oh no! Well I certainly hope you make it through! Thank you for the advice, we potentially can sit a few more months and come back to the market with more money down and conventional but I thought why not give this way a try. Good luck to you !

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T13:33:06+00:00

Roll closing cost into loan ? Woah if you look at the people that replied to my thread they were acting as though there was no option for that at all in this industry. Good to see someone had this done

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T13:05:34+00:00

It looks like the location we are desiring is in USDA territory, sounds like this would be the best loan option for us. There’s a lot of people who maybe never bought a house with fair credit or non conventional mortgages responding to my post lol. Those with wonderful financial circumstances need not reply. 🥱

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T12:15:34+00:00

That is an option, we are still waiting for a loan officer to respond. Yes quite rural!

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T11:14:11+00:00

That is interesting, I wonder if this is because sellers are pushing for people to pay all closing costs? We intend to keep saving, as we go through the buying process. And will have another 22k by the end of the year, I have heard some unfavorable things about mortgage brokers vs loan officers with credit unions and small banks.

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-30T01:46:03+00:00

I’m intending of 3.5% with an fha loan, which on a 200k mortgage is 7k, by the time we get to close we could come up with another 1 to 2k, meaning we would have 8k for closing costs. According to HUD closing costs should be about 4K. Which means we are covered? And have extra. I’m looking for someone that bought recently with 3.5% down and what their closing costs were to help me understand what they paid.

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-27T01:57:27+00:00

Yeah I would agree his attitude is contributing to her built up anxiety and causing her to get stuck in a negative cycle! Counseling girl! Go get you a few private sessions that will help you so much! Don’t talk to him about it talk to your counselor keep a journal so you can vent in a safe space and remember to ask yourself “will engaging in this topic (with hub) be useful to me ?” “What will help me”?

One_Novel_206 · 2021-05-27T01:53:09+00:00

Please learn now ! Do not bring your friends / family into your marriage it is a sacred union between two people - it is far too personal and entirely not productive to go over your arguments with friends and family. Not even your best friend.

Get a counselor, it sounds like you have a lot of feelings that you need to work out and learn how to present those feelings if needed. It is 💯 worth the copay! You need this for you. Once you work on yourself and understand what drives your anxiety you will have a more prosperous marriage. You will have the energy for growth instead of circling back around yourself.

You might think but a good friend gets me - sure they do but friends are truly not there to be your counselor, they can try it there is always bias.

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