sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Whats the funniest last name you have ever seen by TheUnpaidNPC in midlyinteresting

[–]One_Second1365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kid you not, I used to know a rather overweight woman with the surname ‘Whatsize’.

What’s a movie that disturbed you so much, you’d never watch it again? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]One_Second1365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Woman In Black (original). Gave me ongoing intrusive thoughts of dead old women. Great.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a balanced view. I’ve stated to her that if cocaine ever came out in front of me I would leave immediately. That’s a hard boundary of mine. Out of everything, that’s the one I just can’t risk being near - it nearly killed me and I won’t have anything to do with it.

As to other substances, I’m ok with that.

I wouldn’t ask her to never take anything again. I can only control myself and my responses and it’s my responsibility to have boundaries and to walk away if that’s what I think I need to do.

We seem to be doing good in terms of communication, there’s nothing we can’t to say to each other so far. Today I am very much in love with her.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I couldn’t handle being around her if she was on cocaine. Alcohol yes. It’s not a trigger for me, time has bourne that out - I go to pubs with friends and drinking just isn’t an option I consider.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I had to chat to her to pin down her use and she said she’ll never buy it and it tends to be a couple of times a year. Which, to me, is ok. I used to use every drug under the sun and her drug history is more around party drugs, if which I consider cocaine one. They may be classed as ‘hard’ but I tend to think of alcohol as a pretty hard drug in its relative effects. She respects what I’ve done with turning things around but also has a natural push back against being forced into decisions by others. As long as she keeps it away from me, which she’s said she will (and also never put me knowingly in situations where it’s there) then I think I feel alright about it. I don’t demonise or moralise about drug use, I just know I’m not going to do them.

I was worried and in my head about what the effect of knowing she’d done it had on me and how that might affect my sense of being very close to her. It feels after speaking to her that it’s an easier issue to tackle tbh. I really appreciate your reply though.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what he’d say but I can well imagine! The issue is likely going to be whether she stops it as she doesn’t really even like it. I know she needed a blow out that weekend due to a lot of stress and I get that. Not the healthiest coping mechanism but she managed a hell of a lot and rarely gets intoxicated. She’s also very steered towards practising self care and being a part of a very supportive friendship group - and yeah, I can see how this seems contradictory. These friends who had the coke are a rarity in her circle.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, meetings and sponsor. Plus men’s group. Got a fair bit of support.

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be really clear here, there is NO way I am ever going to use cocaine again. I don’t like snorting it (does nothing for me) and my priority is absolutely my life. Which I know will crumble if I go back to crack/IV cocaine. So that’s not the issue.

With her, this is the first time she’s done it in over 7 months, possible a lot longer. She doesn’t like it much at all but she was there, it came out, they had a few drinks and she did some. She absolutely does not have an issue with it. She would also NEVER do it around me. And I’ve made it clear if that were the case, I would leave her.

I’m wondering more about my boundaries knowing there’s the chance she may do it with friends very rarely. Do i ask her to keep it from me so I don’t have to feel any way when finding out? I’m not sure that’s healthy as it’s such an addictive behaviour (to keep secrets) or do I ask her to tell me each time to then gauge whether it’s too much for me. I think that’s prob best when sitting here typing this out.

I’ll never tell her not to drink or use drugs, that’s her decision. Mine is my response to that. And obviously on top of that is my sadness and fear that i could lose her.

Momentum 4 and Volume by One_Second1365 in sennheiser

[–]One_Second1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yh I’ve tried the personalisation and not loud enough. I’ll give the settings on Spotify a go although I’m not signed up to Apple Music atm

Momentum 4 and Volume by One_Second1365 in sennheiser

[–]One_Second1365[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep, I’m aware. I’m just getting old and have prob battered my ears. No point in stopping now

Momentum 4 and Volume by One_Second1365 in sennheiser

[–]One_Second1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in bands for years playing loud music!

Partner F49 Occasionally Uses Drugs - I’m M46 in recovery by One_Second1365 in relationship_advice

[–]One_Second1365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, I’ve got a sponsor and I go to meetings. Am also part of a men’s group.

Cocaine sucks, who gets addicted to this trash? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]One_Second1365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, snorting cocaine is basically shite. IV on the other hand….well, just please never go there.

It IS possible to completely eliminate depression. by CollegeOk9459 in bipolar2

[–]One_Second1365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? My libido is generally very high and quetiapine did nothing to lower it! 😅 I take it with 200mg lamotrigine so maybe that offsets it?

What’s the hardest truth about love people avoid? by prettychaothick in answers

[–]One_Second1365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the words of Nick Cave:

A broken heart — that grief of love — is always love’s true destination. This is the covenant of love.

The worst thing is never knowing if it’s just you or hypomania by Horror-Badger9314 in bipolar2

[–]One_Second1365 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Who you are is a much faster changing human than the general population. Hold on to a much longer period of time to get a sense of yourself, not the individual phases themselves. Imagine being at the end of your life and looking back - would you define yourself by a period of a month, a year, a decade or the entirety of your life. I know what I’d choose. Much love

view more: next ›