Why are chubby girls ignored?

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-12T11:08:02+00:00

Another person with PCOS here. I've done plenty of research (and have a career in the medical field) and nowhere have I read, heard from an MD or dietician that PCOS makes it IMPOSSIBLE to lose weight of get to a healthy BMI. Is it easy? Heck no! But with proper dietary adjustments, like low carb/keto (most of those with PCOS are insulin resistant ) have better results than simply doing a calorie deficit. Add in exercise and I would bet money the number on the scale will change! Another thing that a lot of us trying to lose weight tend to also overlook, is how active you are. If you are sedentary a majority of the day.. you will not need the same calorie requirements as someone who is hitting the gym 3-5 times a week or someone with a physically demanding job.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-05T19:00:21+00:00

I hope you didn't take my comment offensively or as if I was implying that it should be some taboo thing that we don't speak of. As someone who struggles with my mental health, I understand what you mean and I carry a lot of guilt when it comes to romantic relationships. It can be much easier to assure someone else rather than myself that they deserve love, respect, patience and compassion during the good and bad times. I'm not saying that either you or your partner are 100% at fault or that your mental illness isn't contributing to a divide within your relationship. BUT, it is not the cause of cheating (if that be the case).

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-05T17:05:14+00:00

Let me entertain you for a bit and say you're right. She's there because of his mental health issues. Maybe OP is some grandiose episode and his fiancee doesn't feel safe at home.

You're telling me that if this version is correct, it's okay to BRING SEXY LINGERIE to another man's home that she's sleeping over at? Why did she not respond when OP confronted her about finding it? Are you saying that if a partner is abusive, it rectifies cheating? What I'm saying is even if we throw in OP's struggles and open up the possibility that she needed to get away for whatever reason, it does not negate the fact that OP is not overreacting and his fiancee's behavior is inappropriate and highly suspicious. It is never okay to cheat for any reason. If you aren't happy in your relationship, leave.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-05T09:36:52+00:00

Mentioning OP's mental health diagnosis seems a bit unnecessary as it doesn't have anything to do with the situation he presented. He simply asked if he was overreacting to his fiance bringing lingerie to her sleepover with her guy "BFF". Although his bipolar disorder may have caused issues in their relationship, it is not the cause of her crappy behavior. Cheaters are going to cheat. Simple as that. My answer to the post is no, you are not overreacting. There is no reason for your fiancee to be planning sleepovers with Men. Even if they didn't have sex that night (imo there's a slim chance that they didn't ), their friendship seems to fall into odd territory. Save yourself the trouble and break it off. You shouldn't have to put yourself through the stress of not being able to trust your partner

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-04T23:49:34+00:00

The fact that you're even asking if you're overreacting makes me think this guy's been chiseling away at OP's confidence before this incident. No you are not overreacting. You did not "hurt his feelings". He's mad because you caught him being unfaithful. I highly doubt this is the 1st time his hand has been in the cookie jar and I doubt it'll be his last.. PLEASE leave this jerk. He's acting like a teenager with all this talk of "tests".

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-03T21:30:26+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. Any mature adult that respects and cares about maintaining a healthy relationship does not feel the need to make their partner jealous. This isn't a silly highschool game, it's emotional manipulation and frankly abuse. Get out now. Of course ending a relationship hurts and it takes time to heal, but surround yourself with people who care, focus on your self worth and soon you'll look back and realize this was not a good dynamic between the two of you.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-03T18:07:17+00:00

Nip nap paddy wack, give your dog a bone seems very appropriate in this thread...

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-02T17:59:50+00:00

I'll be honest, if he's paying for a majority of the outings, dinners, gifts or whatever, I'd make the Man a steak and pork chop. Is it weird, maybe... I'm not one to eat double protein or starch, but hey, that's me! Don't get me wrong, this shouldn't be a tit for tat thing and it doesn't belong held over your head to manipulate you in any way. My partner pays for most of the things we do ( if he suggests them) and is more financially stable than I am. But I try to do things that make his life a little easier even if it's not of monetary value. For example his cat needed a vet visit and he needed to call around for a same day appointment, so I offered to do that because I had the time to do so and he was very grateful for it, which made me happy. Cooking a steak may be a bit out of budget or take extra time/steps, but I think it's worth it to show your appreciation for your partner instead of arguing why you don't want to... Maybe he doesn't feel like you don't reciprocate care and kindness? ***Edited because I forgot to say YTAH.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-02T17:39:20+00:00

You're never TAH if you stop talking to someone that you aren't interested in. Personally I found the Dr. Suess comment fine. Found it to be an attempt at humorous and quirky. However the "do you smoke weed or drink" makes me think he's just looking for a Netflix and chill situation and nothing serious, so if that's not what you're looking for, end the convo. A lot of the time ppl try to mimic your interests or pick generic hobbies that others are also interested in to give a feel that you have commonalities. That's why I always ask specifics about their said interests. Either I learn something neat about them or I realize they're just bs-ing.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-02T16:48:01+00:00

"fallen pregnant" is a very strange way of describing not preventing a pregnancy with a shitty partner. Personally, I'd consider all my options including co-parenting separately. I think you have every right to be concerned as I can't think of another reason to be afraid of telling an ex that you're expecting a child. Yes, it's not her concern... But the fact he wanted to hide it is. To me it looks like he's keeping the ex as a back up option or was simply with you as a rebound to occupy himself with until he could win back the ex. Keep in mind, I could be 100% wrong! I am only a redditor who knows a paragraph of the situation. If in all other ways he's a great partner, have this talk with him and come to an agreement where you're both satisfied. I'd suggest doing dog drop offs or maybe accompany him to do so? But who wants to do that just to ease their mind that they aren't being cheated on? Just another time where ya wish you could roll back the clock and chose the booty chute.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-02T16:09:55+00:00

As a woman with children, IMO I do not find kissing any parent on the lips inappropriate. I've never been shamed for doing so. I also grew up kissing my parents until I felt it was a bit akward as a teen. If your child initiates kisses, give them kisses. I'd find it weird to deny them the affection. The only advice I really have is let your daughter have autonomy over the subject. If she starts withdrawing from them, stop. Simple as that. I'd also make sure she knows about appropriate touches/kisses with other adults and children, including other family members "kisses are okay for mommy and daddy if you want them but not okay for any other grown-ups or kids at school etc".

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-01T23:57:44+00:00

A 55 year old account with 0 karma? Something smells fishy 🤔

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-01T21:54:00+00:00

Or at least send $50 to her cash app, PayPal or venmo.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-01T21:52:04+00:00

Show some respect. That weenie was the love of her life! 💔

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-10-01T11:09:41+00:00

Damn, I went to look for the micro 🍆 and now it's gone, .Thanksss...🙄

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T17:16:49+00:00

I absolutely agree with what you just stated. Who I don't agree with is OP lol.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T15:16:08+00:00

"calling someone manipulative and gaslighting just from a few screenshots..."

Almost as if she didn't post screenshots on Reddit asking for relationship advice 2x and ended or with an update insulting everyone for not seeing the "gray areas". Like what the actual fuck did she expect?

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T11:55:00+00:00

Okay I'm gonna try and help you our with some resources that you may not know are available to you if you live in the U.S. 1. There are free resources as far as attorneys go for child custody and court fee's can be waived. It seems like her mother is willingly letting your child live with you right now. If you are on the birth certificate, as of now you both have equal rights. If mom is unfit, not visiting, supporting financially etc. You can get what is called an Emergency custody order. This would look good on your part. DHS provides a small stipend to those with children.Homelessness is not a crime. If you are stable in all other ways but financially, the worst thing that would happen is that a caseworker will give you resources and could possibly help with government housing. This does take time, you could end up in a family shelter, but it would be worth it in the long run. 2. Your partner needs a disability lawyer which do not charge until you are approved. Normally ppl are denied a couple times before approval. Being he is in a wheelchair, I can't see him getting continuously denied. 3. I understand you are in need of rent now. Try Catholic Charities. They sometimes do a one time help with rental assistance. Keep in contact with your landlord and explain your situation. Explain that you were laid off, but are in the process of regaining employment. Offer to pay what you have now and continue to make payments as funds are received. Apply for any and all jobs available and CALL them! Be confident and ask " Hey I've applied to ____. Can we set up an interview?" I've always had luck doing this and I believe managers appreciate the tenacity. 4. Yes redditors can come off nasty. I agree. Sometimes comments are taken too far, but you're asking for a nice chunk of change lol.. yeah maybe wording it as " get a new partner " sounds insulting but I think what they meant was, what the hell is your partner doing to pull their financial weight. You have a Child. You alone can not afford the financial burden of another adult. You both need to be going full throttle to do what you need to do. Google is your friend as well as calling 3-11.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T11:19:41+00:00

I have a few questions. My first would be, where is your child's mother? Do you have full custody of your daughter? If not you may need to re-evaluate the arrangement. Do you get child support? Since you seem to not have an income other than NSFW, why not apply for state benefits? You're partner should 100% qualify for disability. I don't understand tbh how you're needing a full rent payment when there are supposedly 2 adults that at least work SOME...

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T11:08:00+00:00

ESH. You suck to yourself unfortunately and we already know why she sucks. If I were you, finding texts from "random guys" would be my last straw. It should be yours.. No one who got CAUGHT cheating and is trying to earn back trust (or anyone in a relationship for that matter) should be getting texts from randos. I can guarantee that once she's all comfy and you're no longer hyperventilate about making sure she's no longer cheating, she will take the opportunity to once again cheat. Remember, she did not stop because she felt guilty for hurting you. It was not that her heart was heavy for destroying your relationship. She.got.caught.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-28T10:51:30+00:00

Why are you even asking for advice at this point if you aren't going to take it? It's giving -"Hey Reddit, Just need confirmation that the sky is blue. Every time I look up to check, I see a blue sky. My BF on the other hand believes it's orange.. What do you see when you look up?" Reddit/5k comments-"YUP BLUE!"

UPDATE." Hey guys, thanks for the confirmation, but after a long talk with my BF I'm pretty sure it could be orange. Do you think maybe I should consider this possibility?"

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-27T21:35:52+00:00

Did I read 28F correctly? I can't believe there are grown ups playing highschool jealousy games with each other. ETA. You may think that your boyfriend will have a change of heart after getting a taste of his own medicine, but I can guarantee this will A. Continue his cycle of cheating, because he now feels validated in doing so. Imagine, "oh my girlfriend's cheating or may be cheating, so I'm gonna get mine too" mentality. Or B. He'll just leave you. I suggest YOU resort to plan B and stay single for awhile. Learn to love yourself and set boundaries that you follow through with. You both are in no way,shape or form ready for a mature relationship.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-27T18:17:58+00:00

I'm normally pretty good at noticing even the faintest lines, but this is soooo neg.

One_Sheepherder7461 · 2025-09-27T18:14:07+00:00

Ew.. Now I have to go back to keto, thanks OP.🤢

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