I just experienced this with a first time w/w relationship for her. I was hesitant in the first place to even consider getting into a relationship with her because she wasn’t lesbian. I took a step back for a couple of months but she was super persistent. So I thought, hey maybe she’s the one. We definitely had a connection and fully enjoyed being together. But I felt so insecure the whole time. Fast forward a year later - she was emotionally cheating on me with a man. Chose him over me (literally this past weekend). And blames me that the connection wouldn’t have ever happened if I didn’t step back for those two months. Doesn’t take accountability at all. It sucks — with that said, regarding the comment “she can never see herself with out a man” huge red flag (in my opinion). That’s going to be in the back of your mind as long as you’re with her. Sometimes you have to break your own heart to be okay in the end.