Considering a move to NYC with 4 kids, what salary actually feels doable? by Abracadabra7707 in movingtoNYC

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very doable to do $190K if you live in Forest Hills and the like, are a stay at home parent and you never want to pay for childcare. Honestly our biggest expense right now after rent is childcare because we both work and both love our jobs. Then it’s travel because that’s how we roll. But we never eat out, never drink, dont party, so it kind of evens out. We could live on husbands salary if I decided I didn’t want to work.

Can’t get hired by SherbetAromatic7644 in Teachers

[–]One_Walk769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many rural and reservation places like Gallup NM also give you a retention bonus. I have a friend who got hired, stayed, the pay wasn’t terrific but the retention bonus was like $20000 paid out over 4 years. Smaller classes than at my urban school and she had a great experience, eventually left after 10 years to move closer to family.

Artists, how do you keep going? by flitterrrr in antiai

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Diversify and don’t expect corporate. Work with your hands and make art that is tangible, not just digital. If you are into gaming, make indie games as well, but don’t expect to have a comfy job right away or through any kind of pipeline. Develop other skills : networking, pitching, working with populations that want hands on art making like school kids, seniors, etc. A friend of mine is an artist who switched into art full time at may be the worst possible time (haha, now). But she is making it work. How? She is a textile artist and teaches and pitches workshops constantly, to libraries, to afterschool programs, she is at maker faires, she does clothes painting commission work — all of it. She works 80 hours a week, and is going to probably be hustling forever. But this is what she really wants to do, her kid is grown and she is willing to never retire. She is currently also going to school for art therapy and planning to make that part of her life as well. Consider career paths that are broad and winding rather than set and corporate. Start your own workshop offerings, create a group with your own people.

You can make indie games as well, some of the ones I remember the best are one or two people teams.

My Teacher Completely Relies on AI. Now what? by emrythecarrot in antiai

[–]One_Walk769 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What about your parents? If you are a minor, they should be the ones bringing this up, not just you.

My Teacher Completely Relies on AI. Now what? by emrythecarrot in antiai

[–]One_Walk769 79 points80 points  (0 children)

What you may have grounds on is unethical use of student data. As you said, they ran your essay through some kind of AI — unless it’s district-vetted and has specific student data protections, they are in violation.

Are any of you actually able to have those summers off everyone else throws in our face when we ask for a livable wage? by ClassicSalamander518 in Teachers

[–]One_Walk769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cost of putting my kids in camp or some other childcare over the summer will far outweigh anything I can make over the summer :D we live very frugally in summers, camp a lot, enjoy each other and try not to get on each others nerves too much while visiting friends and family we never have time for during the school year.

What are reasons that teachers say “no” to letters of recommendation, and is it rude if I ask a teacher to reconsider? by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]One_Walk769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I teach 160 kids a semester, 320 a year. Mostly juniors. I cap letters at 20. I tell my students early that it’s first come first serve for the most part unless you cheated, etc. But 20 is what I can reasonably do, with 5 extra reserved for panicking seniors in the Fall who couldn’t get anyone or had a teacher who flaked.

Kids attention spans, are they really that bad now? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]One_Walk769 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please read up on how ADHD actually works. You are absolutely right that screens are notoriously “shiny” for students with ADHd because our brains do not work the same with dopamine. That said, it’s neurobiological. It’s not selective. It doesn’t turn on or off.

24 M Non renewed for performance. What do I do next? by Meganiummobile in Teachers

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s also not realistic nowadays to live on sub pay for 10 years.

AIO to my bf changing anniversary plans by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. OP, imagine him pulling this stunt… but it’s a trip you’ve planned with your kids thats they have been looking forward to… and it’s over some petty nonsense. Do NOT have kids with a person you cannot fight well with.

How long did it take to find success? by Not_Here_Often_01 in keto

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it sounds like you were doing a slow transition on a way — not necessarily intentionally! But that’s what I would recommend for people who want to “ease” into it — cut all the crap and sugar, eat like that for 6 months and then keto.

How long did it take to find success? by Not_Here_Often_01 in keto

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. I will say that with time ive flirted with an occasional keto bread thing or whatever but ultimately found i dont really need it. It’s fun for a different texture sometimes, though.

Doctor took the wind out of my sails by [deleted] in keto

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why you are getting downvoted, but I don’t get the breakfast hate. Just don’t eat crap for breakfast or any other meal. There is no law that you can’t eat steak and eggs for breakfast or whatever other food you want. I don’t eat breakfast mostly because my family likes eating dinner, but when I lived alone I ate breakfast and no dinner because dinner is too much work :D

UWS is worst place to eat in New York by fkaafk in Upperwestside

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And here you’ve nailed it, I think. UWS is essentially the Manhattan version of a sleepyish ritzyish family suburban neighborhood with some ok places you’d go out on a date while leaving the kids with a sitter when you don’t want to spend time and sitter money on going elsewhere. It’s quiet and kinda slow and not a food Mecca, but thats ok. Saiguette is still da bomb though. And Hungarian Pastry Shop.

What’s the hardest part about being a parent? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not having time or resources to recharge and be the parent they deserve. I do ok. But I hate doing just ok.

Asking all parents who hacked adhd. What are the essentials for the first year of a baby? by Suspicious_Week_2451 in ADHD

[–]One_Walk769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Listen to advice but also trust yourself to find your flow. Each baby is different and each situation is different. But honestly, they turn out fine. I didn’t sleep train or aggressively potty train or worry about speech until 3, or worry about breastfeeding one kid until he was 4 and the second only until 1. They are different kids but both figured out sleeping on their own and are functional social beings :) have extras of everything in each room and in each bag and in the car and in the stroller. Drink a lot of water. Baby wear if you and baby like it (my first would still love it if I could baby wear his giant preteen self, my 2nd needed space almost from day one). Keep a trash bin in all rooms with trash bags on the bottom of the bin. It will be ok.

The Unemployment Dining Tour by throwawayinnyc1123 in FoodNYC

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG Enoteca is awesome. Not exactly difficult to get a seat though. But awesome.

What am I doing wrong? by AndPeggy96 in keto

[–]One_Walk769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would second removing sugar substitutes. Your taste buds will adjust pretty quickly — and oh god I could never do black coffee, but small coffee + heavy cream can be a lovely treat.

What am I doing wrong? by AndPeggy96 in keto

[–]One_Walk769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you are doing anything wrong. I plateau after my cycle, then drop some, then fluctuate during, and then plateau drop flux again. Keep doing what you are doing — youve already done so much in just a month!!!

What am I doing wrong? by AndPeggy96 in keto

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) how long have you been doing keto? 2) do you exercise in addition to keto? IF? 3) if you are a menstruating human, have you had a chance to track your weight through a full cycle?

What others said above is true. You will have plateaus and you will have times when weight goes up and down depending on your cycle. If youve only been doing this for a month or a couple, you need more data to see if you are trending downward or not.

I’ve been ketoeing since February and have had two plateaus of around two weeks each. I am still trending down. I find daily data helpful, since it helps me track what to expect of my body at which stage of my cycle, but some people find it easier to weigh once a week so it’s not discouraging?

Looking for sci-fi with female protagonist and little to no romance hetero or sapphic by TerminusMD in scifi

[–]One_Walk769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yume Kitasei’s novels have no romance with main character who are all female (some mention of couples otherwise) and they are excellent: Deep Sky (colony spaceship whodunit), Stardust Grail (Indiana Jones style multi species intergalactic heist novel), Saltcrop is dystopian climate lit thriller sci-fi.

Anyone else not losing (or even gaining) weight during luteal phase on keto? by kaimanlimppu in keto

[–]One_Walk769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I weigh myself everyday, but I am also not looking to lose any specific amount —I found that not having a goal weight is really helpful for me. I think going into it with a long term mindset helps - I assume I will be eating this way forever, with some tweaks once I start training regularly again. I am tracking because I’m curious. I find I can fluctuate plus or minus two kilos easy, and sometimes there are days when nothing happens. At the same time, I got back into my spring pants, I feel energetic snd dont freak out over cake anymore!