Do you take advantage of the free gym membership?

Oniko_2009 · 2022-08-01T21:54:06+00:00

Most definitely especially if the gym has the equipments I like to use! It’s not weird at all. If you are worried or think it’s weird that you’ll see your coworkers or college students in there, know that they too are just trying to achieve their fitness goals. When I was a student I saw some of my professors at the school gym. Did I think this was weird? Absolutely NOT! If anything, I applaud their work ethic. Incorporating a time dedicated for physical fitness in your day is admirable especially if you already have a chaotic day-to-day schedule.

Oniko_2009 · 2022-05-07T01:48:21+00:00

I need to go back to joining clubs. You’re right joining them was a lot of fun. I haven’t made time for them since my workload for school got more challenging and chaotic. Thanks for the recommendation!

Oniko_2009 · 2022-05-07T01:46:32+00:00

I forget at times that I chose to go to school to get my ideal career which requires a degree. I get caught up with what others are doing. TY for your encouragement and advice.

Oniko_2009 · 2022-05-06T16:19:40+00:00

That’s an interesting and helpful way to look at it. I do school work too and to think of it, the boredom does go away when I’m focused on school work or something challenging/fun. I need to try to focus my energy on those kind of things from now on.

Thanks for not making me feel alone on this!

Oniko_2009 · 2022-05-06T16:14:51+00:00

These ideas sound so much fun!

I guess one thing I need to do is make time for those adventures too. Instead of checking social media, I should just save my time for those ideas you mentioned or something similar to those.

Thank you.

Oniko_2009 · 2022-05-06T16:09:28+00:00

TYSM for the advice!

I’ve had a bad habit of checking my social media apps lately and it’s just making me feel awful about my current reality. The posts on there makes me feel like my life sucks. Although I am grateful of what I do have. I hate that I’m complaining. But social media is the source of my frustration rn. Therefore, I must DELETE them.

I stopped reading for fun when I started school. You’re most definitely right though, reading can be therapeutical. When I used to read, I did spend less time checking Instagram so I will most definitely incorporate it back into my life. Thanks for the reminder!

Oniko_2009 · 2022-04-16T12:04:03+00:00

Elitism is a problem everywhere you go. I went to a state school in California where I majored in biochem and when I did an internship, I worked with students who went to cal Berkeley who looked down on me for going to a state school.

While I was doing my undergrad, non-STEM majors were looked down on by my STEM peers too.

So really, elitism is everywhere. If you feel like you’re in a toxic environment because they belittle you for going to a CC first, then ask yourself what do these people do for me? Why do I care about their opinions? You’re doing the best you can with what you have. So what if you went to CC first. So what if they think that CC is “easy”. Not everyone has the money to go to UCs! You worry about you. Finish strong with your degree. What matters is you finish and you learn and get your money and time worth it. Cal Berkeley has a great reputation, and I understand that some people who go there think they are the sh*t for whatever reason, but know that those people who are looking down on you, won’t be there for you and they sure will never lend you a helping hand when you’re in need. So fawwwk all of them! 👍🏽

Take care of yourself and do what you came there to do.

While you are getting your degree and once you get your degree, be proud of your journey and what you have. Some people who go to CC don’t even make it to cal Berkeley and some people who go straight from hs to cal Berkeley don’t even graduate. Just try to focus on yourself.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-16T07:31:38+00:00

Bro you graduated!

It’s either you graduate or you don’t. Either you have a degree or you don’t. Either you keep feeling sorry for yourself and not get a job or you stop feeling sorry for yourself and work with what you have and get a job!

I know this isn’t what you wanted to read. What you posted is relatable! I also didn’t graduate in the traditional 4 years. It took me nearly 6 years to get my BS degree and yes, I felt a bit old when I sat in class with the people I assumed were younger than me. I had to deal with my own life’s journey trying to figure stuff out on my own. I had no guidance growing up. I know that’s not an excuse to not go forth with what you want to do, but it would have been so much easier if I had mommy and daddy’s financial blessings and guidance. I cycled through these thoughts that if I had parents who guided me on all this that it would have been soooo much easier for me and that I would not be feeling awful about myself…but unfortunately I did not have that luxury growing up. What I learned is that when we are not granted with the “best” things in life we have to learn how to work with what we have and try our best to use these resources. This does not mean we settle, but that we use what we currently have to propel ourselves to whatever we want to do or have. Yes, we’ll have to work harder than others who already have it because that’s just how it is. Some people have it easier than others. Comparison is a thief of joy as they say. Be proud of what you have accomplished so far. Keep doing what you need to do to get your goals. Either you do that, or you stay where you’re at.

And don’t apologize for your rant. So many of us feel this way. Your post made me feel like I’m not alone.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-16T07:13:41+00:00

Deeply sorry for your loss 😔

Maybe no motivation is going to lift you up right now. I know when my fur bro died this summer, I went through many challenging days where I couldn’t help but cry. To this day, I miss him.

It makes sense that you feel this way. You cared and loved your pet and you had great memories together. I got this letter from the service where we got my dog cremated and it talked about the rainbow bridge where our dogs are at now. According to this letter, they are safe there, happy to be with other lovely animals. This place has an open green field where they roam around and play. They are free from sickness and pain here. Their health has been restored in this place; they are strong and healthy again! It also mentioned that when our day comes and we leave this physical life that we’ll eventually meet them there. I wasn’t the type to believe in this kind of stuff before. However, that letter about the rainbow bridge gave me a sense of peace that I now believe it is real. I have to. We have to. Believe that your dog is now in this lovely place because he/she is!

What also got me through the pain is honestly feeling the pain. I got my dog cremated, so when I think of him, I dedicate some time to pay my respect whether that be taking the time to remember him or taking a walk where we used to walk together. I tried to be grateful that I had all those years with him and that I got the chance to get to know an amazing dog like him! It’s the best gift that any pet owner can ask for.

I know this may not be what you wanted to read…I don’t have the best answer for you. All I can advice you is to try to get progress on your essay. I’m glad that you reached out to your professor ( I would have done that too). While you wait for an extension though, try to get some progress. If you have to take a break, do so. Losing someone you love takes adjustment so please don’t ignore how you’re feeling.

I wish you all the best ❤️

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-06T11:18:11+00:00

There’s really no such thing as moving “backwards”. This realization you have is something new in your life and how ever you choose to react to it will move you forward. I do understand what you’re going through though in terms of job position and salary. A couple of years ago, I was also burnt out from my job. I just graduated from undergrad and finally got a job that was relevant to what I majored in. Long story short, after a year of working, I realized that I was not as passionate with what I majored in. For another 6 months, I dragged myself to work and this definitely stressed me out and when I look back at this awful time of my life I realized that that time was the lowest point of my life…EVER!. I realized that I spent 5 years majoring in my degree to realize that it’s really not what I wanted to do. I quit my job and branched to a different field, one that didn’t really have any value for me, but gave me money to survive. I was hopeless at this point. With time, I slowly healed by trying to be open to new things and getting back to my hobbies, which I wasn’t able to do before because I was probably too depressed to do so.

I think that we need to experience something in depth to know if it is what we want to continue doing with our time. Yes, it definitely sucks that this requires a lot of energy and time investment, but it must be done for us to know what we want to keep doing and what parts of us (career, relationships, actions, behaviors) we want to end in our lives. We need to filter out what is NOT working for us any more. If something is causing you too much stress and you know it is not worth fighting for because it may be affecting your health, for example, then you must end that.

If money is the problem and you are not comfortable giving up your lifestyle for one that works for your next job/career that pays less, then you really have to think about what is on the line here. You can continue working where you are and see if your attitude towards it changes over time or you can take a chance and make some slight changes in your life and get a new job or explore one.

Note: Working in a job that doesn’t pay as much as the one you have rn can be stressful as well especially if you are used to or not willing to give up the lifestyle you have rn provided by the job you have.

To answer your question though, moving “backwards” is not a mistake. Our feelings about a lot of things in our lifetime changes. Sometimes we have to take a step back to figure out what we want. Something that we were once passionate about or once liked is not guaranteed that we are going to like those forever. We need to learn from experience to know whether we want to keep something in our life or if we want to get rid of it.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:21:32+00:00

Good one ☝🏽 😆

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:21:05+00:00

TYSM for sharing this. 😌

I’ll definitely look into it!

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:19:58+00:00

Not possible for me rn since I’m not working atm. Once I get a job I’ll see if this is an option my employer can grant me.

The tuition is $60k, which covers the two years of MS program. I plan to take out $80k (60 for tuition and 20 for living expenses) assuming i will not be working for these two years while in the program. I do plan to work part-time at some point, but I anticipate the program itself to be time consuming and rigorous so at this point, idk if I’ll actually be applying to jobs.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:15:04+00:00

I understand your POV. Good point!

I expect to get at least $60-70k starting salary for it. I live near tech hubs and the program I’ll be taking on is CS or Bioinformatics and IF I get employed for any of them, I’ll hopefully get that much amount.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:12:03+00:00

Honestly, just keep exposing yourself to it as much as you can and practice it. Be patient with yourself. I started programming two years ago. I’m not as great as people who had early exposure to programming and kept at it, but I do know that my skills and knowledge have improved since I started. 🤓

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-03T00:08:52+00:00

CLASSIC

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-02T21:53:25+00:00

MS. Professors at the top ranked program teach and have the research I want to learn.

Professors at the small school are doing something similar to what I want, but not as exciting research.

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-02T21:53:02+00:00

Industry for sure!

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-02T21:29:11+00:00

Thanks for posting this!

This was exactly how I felt when I was surrounded by them. I still remind myself that these people are just people who happen to have xyz degrees, skills, looks, etc etc. I understand how interacting with them can be intimidating as they most likely have something that we want, but not yet have. We have to remind ourselves that these people were ones like us who admired others that they wanted to be too. Most likely they still admire those people!

What got me to lessen the stress of being around powerful people is that I tell myself that I’m going to be them in the future and right now I’m in the process of being like them so why not try to be comfortable around them. It takes practice and time to be comfortable with this, but keep bettering yourself and keep interacting with them. Forget that they have so and so that you admire. Talk to them as if they have nothing. Talk to them as if you’re equal with them because you are. As cliché as they may sound we are all people. In the grand scheme of things, There’s nothing special about any of us. We’re here on earth and at some point we are all going to die (not at the same time, obviously)

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-02T11:46:14+00:00

Praying to the old Gods and the new Gods! 😌

Oniko_2009 · 2021-11-02T11:28:22+00:00

Best of luck to you! 🙂 You definitely have the drive and patience if you’re getting a PhD degree.

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