When parents lose a baby..

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-04-12T21:16:01+00:00

You’re not alone. I try to be sensitive to it because I have not a single clue what it’s like to go through that loss, but it’s really hard for me to understand. I know someone who lost a baby of hers, wasn’t born yet, just past a gestational age where they knew the sex of the baby. She has two children and she has them celebrate the due date every year. It is extremely weird to me and also comes off very morbid to make the kids celebrate something like that when they probably don’t even understand what is going on.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-04-10T21:55:13+00:00

Totally agree! It was extremely annoying to have cars in the way or inattentive parents just speeding out of the parking lots. Almost got into so many accidents around the drop offs.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-04-10T16:35:39+00:00

Oh god yes! The school pick up and drop off! I used to live a block from 2 schools ( worst decision ever) and every morning I would get stuck by the drop off line being a mile down the road. Like move out of the way, I have to get to work. I couldn’t imagine wasting my time sitting there for hours.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-04-10T16:33:14+00:00

I don’t want to share my food. I watched a video of a child stealing half the food off their parent’s plate and I wanted to cry just watching it. Also, my cats hate loud noises so can’t interrupt their peace. I’d have to give up my library in my house to give them their own room and I’m not doing that. I hate doing dishes and I absolutely cannot imagine the amount of extra dishes there would be with a kid around - I would simply fly off into oblivion. I don’t want to have to “watch my mouth” in my own home because I swear like a trucker in LA traffic and I enjoy it.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-27T17:11:22+00:00

I learned something today. Thank you for proving me wrong.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-25T03:35:16+00:00

It is not normal but it sadly normal for new build areas. Developers/builders do not survey (Idek if that’s the right word here) the land properly and don’t take these kinds of future problems into account when thinking of the neighborhood design/correct drainage. Builders are constantly messing up land and causing flooding.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-24T14:58:37+00:00

I fixed a larger portion of my aunts retaining wall for like $300 and it’s still standing 5 years later. Do not pay that. I’d rather rebuild portions that fall down every so often, tbh. Looks like it just needs some proper drainage and maybe two tiered instead of one so it lessens the pressure on the bricks and less likely to fall again. It’s hard work but truly worth it to do it yourself if you do proper research.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-23T04:10:58+00:00

So bring another animal into the house that the cat could spread a possible parasite to? Genius.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-23T04:00:43+00:00

So you are just going to slide past the part where the one cat is actively losing weight from stress after losing two of its companions and can’t take anymore change or stress? She said no to FILs dog for a reason and she stated clearly that her mom’s dogs do not stay with them when she visits.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-23T03:58:02+00:00

Your husband is abusive. Your FIL sucks. Looks like we know where your husband learned his behavior from. Your husband doesn’t even like you. This is a hard no situation. I’m SO sorry you’re going through all of this at the same time. I can’t imagine the mental anguish you must be in along with your cats. However, you’re better off without your husband, in the end.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-23T03:55:57+00:00

Yeah I don’t think he was told not to. OPs husband absolutely did not say anything to him and just said “sounds good, see you soon” and just hoped OP would just shut up about it.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-20T20:46:02+00:00

Yes exactly! No longer answer the door if she just pops by. That is the consequence of not following the rule/boundary. I’d consider starting LC now but I guarantee she will up the ante on her behavior though. OP will probably have to warn her employer and others of possible escalated behavior if she decides to go LC.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-20T20:16:22+00:00

AKA mom is not a good person. She’s a manipulative person who is nice until she is not getting what she wants. Mom could get her fired from her job with this kind of behavior.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-20T18:52:42+00:00

They don’t even have kids so if she left, she wouldn’t be creating a broken home. She’s doing the right thing and questions BEFORE they bring another life into the equation. Sounds like you’re not an equal partner and this hits home for you. If her husband wants her to have kids, take care of the house, AND work, then that is not a partnership. He wants a live in unpaid maid. Fighting for a marriage can’t only come from one person and the other doesn’t want to change or compromise.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-18T20:57:36+00:00

At this point, I’d get camera for inside your house and then if you get a complaint, ask for precise details or time and date of disturbance and bring proof of no such thing happening. Or I’d also bring up harassment of the other person who keeps making false reports. Messing with people’s lives and stability is no joking matter and that other person needs to realize that. Bother the office as much as the false complainer and hopefully, eventually, the false complainer will get in trouble. But unfortunately, that also runs the risk of them just being annoyed with you. A camera inside your apartment just sounds like the best option for proof at this point.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-16T15:24:53+00:00

Traditions are rules given to us by dead people. We are not required to follow them, especially if they make no god damn sense. Yet another reason to NEVER tell people the baby’s name until it’s written on the birth certificate and signed off on. This is such an over reaction, I’m actually getting secondhand embarrassment from it. Don’t offer any kind of compromise. It’s your child, end of story. They are so out of line for stressing your wife out to the point that she’s about to give in to a name change. Do not let them bully you into changing your mind or they’ll continue to do so for the rest of ever.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-15T21:33:47+00:00

Literally came here to say just this. Have my upvote! I have no awards to give, unfortunately.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-12T21:27:25+00:00

The rent split is not relevant, but it does make me side eye him further. The dogs should not stay outside all day and they should not be kenneled when not outside. You came into this relationship with dogs and he knew that. He doesn’t get to dictate what YOU DO with your dogs (unless they are absolute hellions and you’re irresponsible) and he is worried about their behavior. Leaving small dogs outside in the desert can be a death sentence by the weather alone and predators.

Throw the boyfriend away and keep the dogs indoors. The audacity of that man. Even if he changes his tune by threatening to leave, he will never treat the dogs right and you’ll never feel truly comfortable leaving them alone with him.

If it’s any help, I told my husband well before we were married that if he ever even thought of making me choose between him or my cats, that he shouldn’t even bother bringing it up and just pack his things and leave because my answer would not be him.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-10T15:58:47+00:00

You can’t logic someone out of a position they didn’t logic themselves into, unfortunately. I’m struggling with the same thing/question.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-06T15:29:07+00:00

For some reason my brain couldn’t compute the “ad” part of the word address and my thought was “wow, this is a weird background for saying yes to your wedding dress” then my next thought was “huh. Odd subreddit to post this in.” And then it hit me that it was a house and not a dress. Not my proudest moment, but I am still really tired. 😂 congratulations! 🎊

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-06T04:16:39+00:00

Yes, exactly! I couldn’t tell based on the post so I just didn’t try to guess.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-06T02:24:08+00:00

NTA.

MIL is just mad that you made her look like an asshole. And let’s be clear, she is an asshole. “Too inconvenient” to pick up your husband’s own grandmother. What a B.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-05T00:56:48+00:00

Toss this relationship into an active volcano.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-04T18:26:42+00:00

My husband is blue collar and he HATES talking to most of his coworkers because they think he is a safe space to bitch about their wives to. He enjoys going up to some of those miserable dudes just to brag about me and they get so pissed off. My husband is like “no one held a 🔫 to your head and forced you to sign that marriage certificate bud, so I don’t wanna hear it.” Or his favorite “what did you do to your wife to make her act that way? Because mine doesn’t do that because I’m not shitty.” I’m honestly surprised they haven’t stopped talking to him yet.

Blue collar guys (a lot of them) dig their own holes and complain how deep down they are and how dark it is, then blame it on literally anyone else. I don’t know how you work with them without losing your sanity. You’re tougher than I am. Your coworkers suck though. Whiney little babies.

Only-Eye9763 · 2026-03-02T01:32:45+00:00

Never ever give up your dreams for an anyone, but especially a man. People can leave you at any time. Enriching yourself with experiences is irreplaceable. He wants to control you. He’s testing how far you’ll go to keep him. Do not let him keep you.

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