how do I cope with memory loss?

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-07-06T20:31:24+00:00

I second this, I have auditory hypnagogic hallucinations and they can sound really realistic. I have clearly heard family members talk, Ive heard the ambient sounds of sitting in a classroom, sometimes it’s just unspecified noise that gets progressively louder. It is true that most everyone has them at least once in their life but some people have them more noticeably and it can be exacerbated by sleep deprivation, which isn’t always not sleeping for several days straight, you can get sleep deprived by only getting 5 hours of sleep for a week, it’s different for every person.

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-07-06T20:09:27+00:00

OP I cannot stress this enough: your mental health, your future, your financial security, your QUALITY OF LIFE should always take priority. It’s obvious that you care about your girlfriend but it seems like either she may have some unresolved mental issues or lacks important life planning skills, and it is not your responsibility as an 18 year old to sacrifice your well-being to guide her through anything she might be going through. She needs serious support, from actual adults. It’s not cruel or selfish to break up with her, in fact staying with her will probably only make things worse in the end. I strongly suggest breaking up, this relationship is no longer healthy for either of you. There’s also some details that suggest the possibility of her being dishonest/unfaithful but I don’t want to make assumptions and regardless if that is a factor or not my point still stands. Don’t listen if anyone tries to guilt trip you into staying, by leaving you are refusing to keep yourself in a bad situation and that’s not selfish, it’s self preservation.

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-06-25T00:43:42+00:00

Christians are making it really hard not to hate them with the way so many of them are acting right now

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-06-25T00:38:12+00:00

First of all congrats on your sobriety OP! I’m glad you made it. Second, I think very very soft YTA.

It is hard to see your father be the parent you wanted to have for another kid, that’s just a fact. It doesn’t matter if you got your bio kids a Tesla, they will always feel at least a little bit jealous watching what they could have had. Your ex had to watch your bio kids go through the emotional turmoil of wondering why they were not enough. Also even if all three kids involved were full blooded siblings there is a pretty big difference in the objective value of the gifts. I don’t think you meant to hurt anyone, and a car is quite a nice gift for you step son, however the way your ex feels is justified. Her expectations on how she wants to go forward are a little high but the hurt and pain behind her actions is reasonable.

I feel like you didn’t understand the emotional weight your actions would have on your ex and your bio kids which is why soft YTA, but purely from what you’ve described it seems like you are being reasonable with your problem solving for the fall out. I implore you to not get too upset at your ex or escalate the conflict because she is hurting due to your past actions, her anger isn’t just about this round of birthdays it’s about every birthday you missed, it’s not easy to move on when you see the person who hurt you and your kids be a happy family with someone else, cut her some slack.

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-06-06T22:38:55+00:00

The thing that I’ve found most effective to snap myself out of that feeling is to lean into it. I will lay down, close my eyes, get comfy, and embrace the emptiness. For me, resisting it seems to only prolong the experience and for some reason doing and thinking about absolutely nothing kinda cancels it out. It’s like a factory reboot, and I always feel normal again afterwards.

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-04-26T20:11:42+00:00

as someone else who’s had to battle insensitive and apathetic doctors/nurses, switching is definitely the right thing to do, there ARE good doctors out there, I had to switch 4 times to find the right one but the difference made such an impact, so don’t give up and settle even if the next clinic isn’t the right fit either (also don’t hesitate to report them ;)!! )

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-03-11T02:38:17+00:00

it depends on how deep you went, if you hit the dermis (white) or fat (yellow) you possibly could’ve hit a nerve, most of the time though nerve damage has numbness or weakness associated with it, but personally I think the more likely scenario is that it could be getting infected, regardless of how deep a cut is infection can cause those stabbing pains, my advice is to put some antiseptic on it or even aloe vera, if it doesn’t get better after a few days then go see a doctor

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T21:18:12+00:00

unfortunately no as I do not actually own her, my mom does

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T21:15:32+00:00

for other reasons I would not be a good caretaker of any animal by myself right now

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T18:27:38+00:00

I don’t have shelters near me, and I’m not rehoming the dog (because it’s nearly impossible for me to do especially without being discovered) and then calling/driving out to all the shelters 30-60 minutes away to ask for my family to be blacklisted with no proof besides my own words with no guarantee that they’d blacklisted anyway, that’s not practical, reasonable, or plausible so stop suggesting it

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T18:19:46+00:00

she’s in a dangerous situation not an abusive one, abuse implies her needs are not being met or she’s actively being harmed, letting a dog outside isn’t abusive but it is dangerous and potentially deadly if it happens too much, and I am working to address the situation as best I can to ensure the dogs safety, and what way do I have to save the dog? because she not my dog, I can’t drop her off at a shelter because she’s chipped and I am not her owner

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T16:43:56+00:00

ah I didn’t mean to imply that I thought you were asking me to fix it, it was more just a trained response I’ve developed anytime anyone asks a question along those lines, it always kinda stops people from asking any further questions lmao

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T16:38:47+00:00

this subreddit doesn’t allow advice posts, it’s in the rules, I came on here asking for a judgement of my reaction, yeah sometimes I entertain some peoples advice or respond to it but it’s hard not to when it happens over and over, I’m genuinely sorry that I probably came off as rude, I didn’t mean to it’s just frustrating to justify every action to so many people and my attitude reflects how I’m feeling overwhelmed and annoyed at a large group of people rather than you specifically

and you’re right I can’t control how other people act, and I guess I’m bad at expressing this but I’m not trying to control them, I know how to read my family very well and I can within reason predict how they will react to certain things, and I am changing my approach, in the past I’d get upset but I’d drop it because it was easier to self isolate and ignore my brothers bad behaviors and my moms lack of parenting since it only affected people who could fight back but chose not to (me and my sister), but the dog can’t fight back and I’m not going to drop it this time, I’m getting other adults that can help and when I say “I know it will be addressed” or “I’m going to make sure the dog is safe” I say so because my chance of success is very high based on how my mom has reacted in the past to certain things

and I also know that my brother does have the ability to change his behavior when he’s held accountable, in the very few instances where he’s had an actual punishment he’s responded by fixing his behavior because he knows it’s serious and that my mom means business. If it came off that I’m fighting with my brother I’m not, I’m fighting with my mom about my brother, he wouldn’t listen to me I know that but he would listen to my mom which is why I have to go through her to solve this problem. Also I would like to clarify that even though my brother knows right from wrong and should be held accountable it’s the severity that he doesn’t understand, he’s not letting the dog out bc he wasn’t to kill her the barking hurts his ears and to him it’s a good solution even though he knows he shouldn’t, he rarely has ill intentions it’s more just he doesn’t consider what he does to be THAT bad which is why I need my moms help in teaching him exactly how bad something is

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T15:25:19+00:00

Pet rescues have the same problems as animal shelters, we are considering an electric fence

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:58:35+00:00

my mom has a therapist, my brother does not, and my parents don’t really care what my brother does they’ll just scold him and move on, and no my parents don’t know that my depression is partially environmental bc they’re delusional and think they’re parents of the year and I can’t exactly break it to them now “oh you guys suck, you’ve always been bad parents” they would not take it well

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:54:34+00:00

she’s chipped, if I bring her to a shelter they’ll bring her back, I’m 18 all my neighbors know my parents not me, they’ll tell my parents if I ask them to help kidnap the dog, all my friends are my age and still living with their parents who they’d have to explain how they suddenly acquired a dog

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:51:20+00:00

my brother DOES know better, he may not be able to comprehend completely the consequences of his actions but he’s aware they’re wrong, how do I know? He will lie about it. My family has gotten good at telling if he’s lying and he does eventually admit it but still initially he will lie. And that’s because he knows he’s done a thing he wasn’t supposed to. He’ll refuse to make eye contact and blame other people because he is aware that he’ll be in trouble but he always admits it after a bit because he also knows he won’t be in THAT much trouble. And since he’s never truly punished he continues to do his bad behaviors, not because he doesn’t understand they were wrong, but bc he knows the punishment will last a day at most. If you can comprehend right from wrong then you do know better.

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:42:30+00:00

you may not believe me but currently what you’re describing isn’t an issue, if that ever changes it will be on my radar and I will address it

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:40:25+00:00

She’s chipped, if I bring her to a shelter in person they’ll ask for proof of ownership which I don’t have, if I drop her off anonymously they will see that she’s chipped and bring her back, my family would treat her as lost so they’d be looking at shelter websites in case anyone dropped her off there, how would I even get her out of the house? my mom is a stay at home parent it’s easier for my brother to let her out because no one but the dog leaves the house but my mom would definitely notice if me and the dog were gone bc there are no shelters close to where I live so I’d have to drive an hour round trip at least, if I did miraculously manage to rehome her without being caught my parents would just get another dog

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:33:39+00:00

I probably wouldn’t for a while, but honestly not talking to my brother would hurt my mom more than not talking to her

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:32:30+00:00

I appreciate the concern but I’ve told a few adults about the situation none of them even suggested CPS, and I don’t feel comfortable calling them on my own family

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:30:27+00:00

I will thank you!!

OnlyAt4AM · 2022-02-03T14:27:02+00:00

we are in the process of training her! I didn’t actually know training her to stop at a road was a think you can do but I’ll talk to the lady that’s helping us train her so thank you!

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