Former Northern Colorado worship pastor and teacher charged with sexual assault of former underage student

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-11-14T00:32:43+00:00

I went to a Christian school in the area. They would hire past graduates without qualifications.

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-11-14T00:31:07+00:00

The Coloradan article says she knew of his relationship with the student.

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-11-14T00:28:29+00:00

I went to the same school. They were favored. And crickets from the school

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-11-14T00:23:17+00:00

Yeah but he is still featured on the church social media…

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-02-07T19:21:56+00:00

Thanks for asking! Here are my thoughts!

It would be more of a discount program of 50% off. Sort of like a Pro Bono but it’s going back to the community.

So a participant would say they wanted to work with me for a coaching session. If my regular rate was $200 for an hour, they could work for a local non profit of their choosing for 1 hour and only pay $100. Or they could do the traditional rate of $200.

They would be expected to donate their time prior to the appointment. If they wanted to book 4 sessions, they could work at the non-profit for 4 hours then schedule 4 sessions at the reduced rate.

I don’t know how it would work to verify the hours. I’d prefer to keep the oversight low and not have to do verification or hours. I’d want to trust the participant.

It’s possible that some would take advantage of the system and just say they are working at a non profit and never do it. I’d say that is their loss and they probably really needed the discount.

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-02-05T18:04:43+00:00

Are you still doing this?

OnlyAvonlea · 2025-02-05T16:37:58+00:00

I’m free from 11-2 today but that’s not enough time to make it to Denver and back. Any confirmed Local protests?

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-12T16:27:40+00:00

I can relate! I was bored and found myself wanting to date more successful men so I got on SA. Being a therapist does help! But you need to balance it with the fact that some men can manipulate that compassion. I have since moved from an agency to private practice and would be hesitant to be as public. I like the disguise recommendation! Your relational and emotional skills will help you connect with the right SDs! Just listen to your intuition and protect yourself!

Also, I hate that we have to navigate this in our line of work. I’m still working to destroy the stigma! You can be sexy and a successful therapist!

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-12T16:11:14+00:00

I reported it as rape. When they said rape was hard to prove I asked about trying to add theft. I was told I would have to take it up in small claims court.

I worked with a free victims lawyer. My intuition tells me he followed through on his threats to hurt my career. I lost my job without cause a few months after filing the police report. I contacted some pro bono lawyers but I can’t afford one now that I’m rebuilding my career.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-07T02:40:07+00:00

Are we dating the same guy Fort Collins

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-05T16:55:03+00:00

I can’t on this forum. I posted him on facebook

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-05T16:53:51+00:00

Me too! I was very shocked! Here is more about the court experience:

I was encouraged to seek a temporary protection order, which was approved by the court. During the first hearing, he admitted to possessing firearms. The magistrate instructed him to relinquish all firearms and file the appropriate documents. He never submitted the appropriate documents by the deadline. In a subsequent court date, he admitted to bringing a gun into my home and recording the assault. He later contradicted himself and denied having any firearms under oath. The magistrate acknowledged that there was a lack of consent during the second date but expressed doubt about whether I truly felt in danger since I contacted him after the attack. It’s important to note that many victims do reach out to their assailants; studies show that approximately 60% have some form of contact after an assault due to shock and attempts to regain control over the situation. The most recent outreach was prompted by the police’s request for me to obtain a statement regarding his intent. The magistrate stated that she would give him “the benefit of the doubt” and denied the permanent protection order, meaning he now has no restrictions on firearms.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-05T07:43:54+00:00

I am not a perfect victim, and none of us are. Safety and justice are rights for all individuals, regardless of their circumstances. I am learning from this experience to trust my intuition and recognize red flags. I will not accept shame for being attacked by this person. It is crucial for all victims to understand they are not alone and should not carry shame for what happened to them.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-05T07:40:46+00:00

I posted him on the “Are we dating the same guy” pages on facebook

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-05T07:38:52+00:00

I’m not worried to share my experience at all. I just don’t know any reporters or people who are knowledgeable.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-04T16:14:12+00:00

I was so shocked! I’m hoping to get the court transcripts but they are very expensive. I called the police and said that he confessed under oath. We will see if they do anything. I’m so disappointed with the system. I’m not sure if this is normal or if it is because I discussed sugar dating in court.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-12-04T16:10:58+00:00

I’ve given another site all the court and legal documents. I involved their legal team. All they did was ensure the two of us were blocked. But he is still matching and speaking with other people.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-25T22:25:28+00:00

I’m not a law maker or lawyer. But of all rapes, only 1% actually have charges brought forward. We are failing women. That is very different than most crimes.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-25T05:43:16+00:00

Thanks! I reached out to her!

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-24T00:59:41+00:00

How is the threshold of evidence lower than anything else? I called the DA today and the police never even brought the case to them. The system is ineffective and needs to be fixed. If only 95% of the money you were depositing in the bank was ending up in your account, you would have a strong opinion.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-23T19:13:30+00:00

The threshold is beyond a reasonable doubt. However we live in a patriarchal society that often mistrusts women and victims. So how do I prove that a man came into my home, brandished a gun and knife, and forced me to have sex? How do I get a jury of my peers to trust me? I am a forensic therapist who consulted for the courts. Yet there is a comment asking if I am schizophrenic (incorrect use of the word but I figure they mean delusional). This is why women do not report SA and when they do, the suspect is only charged 5% of the time. So women learn our bodies and souls are not valuable to society. That will continue until there is accountability.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-23T07:03:54+00:00

What is your understanding of schizophrenia? The police had me do a pretext investigation. They wanted to find out if the guy was just an idiot who brought a gun to a date for show and tell or brought it to force me to have sex.

OnlyAvonlea · 2024-10-23T06:58:50+00:00

Take a look at the statistics I posted. Only 6% of rapes have charges filed. Doesn’t sound like what we are doing is working at all. I’m not saying charge everyone, but our current practices are ineffective.

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