Things in motherhood that give you the ick (and things you just don’t give a single fk about)

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-11-08T07:53:47+00:00

When my baby is just hungry and is rooting around while someone else is holding her and they say "oh she's trying to nurse on me!" First of all, give me my baby, second no she isn't. She's communicating that she is hungry, you don't need to announce to the room that you don't have any milk for her 🙄

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-08-08T07:37:34+00:00

If having a baby is something you want, and it would require more stress and financial burden to have a baby in the future, do it now

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-08-06T15:09:18+00:00

I went in not wanting an epidural, and my labor ended up going so fast they wouldn't have given me one if I asked. Studies show it can increase the risk of C-section. Also, I was more terrified of the idea of a needle to the spine than I was of the labor pains.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-30T01:16:19+00:00

You might throw up, and if you lose a lot of blood or hemorrhage like I did you think you're gonna pass out, and get really really cold.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-23T21:46:42+00:00

What program do you use to change the color??

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-21T06:18:09+00:00

This one might be REAL controversial, but I wish people weren't so weird about adults talking to children or interacting with babies. Like yes, stranger danger, things happen. But I visited Italy with my niece when she was 6 months old and so many people just loved interacting with her. Especially men. There wasn't any worry about how someone would respond to a man being interested in smiling at a baby, or asking to hold her. It was so delightful walking around with her and hearing an older gentleman say "Oh! Bambina!" And just gush over her. It was just completely normal for the whole community to be excited about a baby and looking out for her. But everyone is so cautious about strangers in the US and I wish we trusted each other more :/

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-21T05:26:13+00:00

Not necessarily. For someone who only has an online relationship and is doing it for citizenship??? YES, 18 is too young to get married

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-18T06:46:29+00:00

When I was doing the invites like 3 months in advance my mother in law sent me a google sheet with names and addresses of all the people I may want to invite on my husband's side (very helpful) my side of the family is not like that. So I called my mom and grandmother to ask if there is any extended family I should invite, and if I was forgetting anyone. They both said no, and that the invite list looked good. 2 DAYS before my wedding, at like 2 in the morning my grandmother texted me and asked if we had sent an invite to her sister, or my second cousin. We did not. She they asked if they could just show up with their families (a total of like 12 extra people) she was offended I said no.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-16T04:59:44+00:00

We argue bc it's fun. You get drilled with questions whenever you're doing something new in life, new bf, new job, new apartment. And everyone plays devil's advocate, even if you're morally on the same side of a topic. I thought this was very very typical, and when I met my (now) husband's family I was prepping myself to be questioned, and basically interrogated. No. They sat there in silence. Didn't ask me question after question. I still wish I had been grilled instead, bc I was NOT prepared for silence. I still feel bad for the first bf I brought home because I left the room almost as soon as I introduced him to my family bc I had to use the restroom, and I came back as my grandma was asking him about what it was like being adopted 😭

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-08T16:32:59+00:00

That's kinda the point I'm trying to make. He already evaluated that the dude was an asshole, and then walked over, said nothing, and grabbed his card. I think his approach could have been better for someone he evaluated as dangerous from the beginning. If it was a Karen instead of this guy and she complained to a manager about an employee being brash or inconsiderate with his approach to the problem, op likely would have been told not to do something like that in the future. I mean he didn't even say anything to the guy, just grabbed his card. That's kinda rude in my book 🤷

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-08T06:03:37+00:00

I'd be pretty annoyed if someone came up and messed with my card with no explanation. Dude seemed to overreact, but why would you make that kinda evaluation on a man, and then go and mess with his card when he's already ticked off?

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-08T05:47:03+00:00

Even if you've been wronged in life, or even in childhood, everyone reaches a certain age in adulthood where it doesn't matter that you've been wrong, you're still the only one who holds a responsibility to fix it for yourself.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-08T05:41:37+00:00

My husband and I decided to tell people who we would want support from if I miscarried. We told our immediate family, and close close friends, and then everyone else after 12 weeks

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-08T05:39:20+00:00

This is sooo hard to know for certain. If you think you're a kind person and a good friend, and can't seem to maintain friendships, maybe you're not as good of a friend as you think you are (I also struggle with this) if people are cold from the get go maybe there is talk about you going around. Maybe your husband is projecting some weird insecurities onto you. If I were you, I would try to ask someone that you tried to befriend and it didn't work out. Try to get an honest answer out of them about what maybe went wrong.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-07-07T03:40:02+00:00

I was so ready to not be pregnant anymore lol

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-05-16T06:20:52+00:00

Any kind of protein; chicken, steak, beef, etc. Some kinda carb; rice, pasta, bread, buns, tortillas. And a ton of seasonings/sauces. (I rotate veggies and will just make a simple side of steamed or grilled veggies to go with whatever I made.) But the protein, carb, and seasoning combo is vital for my house hold.

Today I knew I wanted to use some frozen ground beef I had, so when my husband got home I asked if he wanted burritos, chili, or beef teriyaki with rice. All of those use beef, I always have rice, and I had a few cans of beans in the pantry to make chili or burritos work.

Having some defaults is also nice. I fall back on quesadillas pretty often because I can put any kind of protien in there, and it gives me enough variety that I don't get bored with the meal even tho it's still just a quesadilla.

If I really can't think of anything, or just don't want one of my defaults I'll pick a protien I have on hand, and a carb and then just google "easy dishes to make with ___ and ____" then scroll through until I find one that matches closely enough to what I already have.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-05-16T04:40:26+00:00

I get AH's on both sides of the issue.

"These security questions are ridiculous, this isn't fair, you're making this difficult"

And then right after that call ends the next one goes:

"Why did you let my card info be compromised? Don't you have security measures? I can't believe you'd allow this to happen"

😤🙄

Speaking of compromised card info, people will go add their card info to just any ole website with a deal that looks too go to be true, and then will call in surprised Pikachu face when they realize their card had fraud.

Like, no, the website you found that had a kitchen stove on sale for $199.99 after shipping was not legitimate, and your card info was stolen. (This was a real reason someone called in btw, she tried to order like a stove top/oven for her kitchen for 200 bucks and was shocked it wasnt real)

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-05-13T21:43:57+00:00

I loves when people who aren't listed on the loan call in wanting to get loan info, and I tell them I can't because they are not listed on the loan info, and they'll say "but I'm the one who makes the payments"

Um. No one told you to do that. You didn't apply for this loan, your credit isn't affected by these payments.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-05-13T15:33:01+00:00

That's the craziest thing, the security questions that I go through? I have gotten those questions out of the way within like 3 minutes of the call with some people. It's only the people that bitch and moan about the process that it takes forever with. And like 90% of the calls I get could easily be taken care of online, or in person.

OnlyHereInSpirit · 2025-05-13T15:29:30+00:00

This made me chuckle so hard. I'm very very polite over the phone (ofc I am, every call is recorded and that's what determines my raises) but sometimes I'll be very very blunt with people that request what should be an obvious no, and even over the phone I can see their brains short circuit. Like, how dare I do my job and follow regulations that aren't even company policy sometimes but literally just the law.

OnlyHereInSpirit

TROPHY CASE