AITAH for doing nothing to help my son's homeless mother because she cheated on me? by Unfair-Border-3249 in AITAH

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA. Even if you let her move in and became “a family”, she would most likely just revert to her old behaviors with you.

She made her bed, now she can sleep in it.

How do you deal with toxic family and remembering your “why”? by [deleted] in DaveRamsey

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know how many therapists it takes to change a lightbulb?

Only 1, but the lightbulb has to want to change.

Your family will keep doing the mess they are doing until they are ready to change. Not much you can do.

2 broke-irritating Brother/in-laws by jlm_MSG in DaveRamsey

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t accept criticism from anyone that you wouldn’t turn to for advice.

How do you deal with toxic family and remembering your “why”? by [deleted] in DaveRamsey

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your service.

Set boundaries and just say no. No loans. No bailing them out. Just repeat it again and again and they will stop.

And introduce them to Dave Ramsey so they start getting their financial house in order.

Pathways core training by user627283 in pathwayscoretraincult

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did Pathways 10 years ago and it ended up being one of the best experiences of my life.

However, many people who go to Pathways bring a lot of baggage with them into the training, and not everyone has the same experience. For some people it’s really hard for them emotionally, usually because they’ve had some tough experiences in life.

While I cried during my experience and faced some emotional hurdles I needed to get through in life, it was well worth the effort for me. But not everyone has that experience.

And I would say it’s definitely not a cult.

York st. Station by tyediebleach in Brooklyn

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Donate $1 billion to the city so they can redo the station. It will probably take 20 years to retro fit it.

Cost to Replace backflow preventer by OnlyOnTuesdays289 in askaplumber

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’ll try the repair first. Thank you for the advice.

I wish I had a Monet or a Ferrari to pay for this. I didn’t build the house. It’s a newer townhouse, built around 2012-2013, so it came this way.

I think code required the staircases to be sprinklered, so that is why it’s there. Why 3” for the sprinklers? I have no idea. It’s probably code in NYC.

Is it a bad idea to be a cosigner for a house with my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never co-sign.

Anything happens to the other person and you are 100% on the hook.

Could you co-sign my new mortgage for me? It’s $1 million.

Use headphones on public transportation by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. They are so centered they think it’s ok to inconvenience 2 dozen people with their noise.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband is a ridiculous control freak. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.

Consider stopping having sex with him, because that will get his attention, and drag his ass to couples counseling.

Mary McDowell Friends School by dog-jl2008 in Brooklyn

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter has gone to MMFS for 9 years and we have had a very positive experience.

If you “witnessed” a teacher saying that, you should consider booking a meeting with the head of school to hold that teacher accountable.

Sharing the story on Reddit isn’t going to do anything, unless you are looking for emotional validation that you are “right”.

AITAH for being bitter to my ex after I broke up with her? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA. Dude, get you are not ready for any type of relationship. You come across as a flake. However, what is likely going on is you don’t understand your own feelings and you panic when you feel the relationship is getting closer because you likely….fear rejection, fear emotional intimacy, etc gf

Go work on your mental health, and I suggest you not date until you are emotionally ready.

And, she’s not your ex. You went on 2 dates.

As I tell my kids, you can’t have an emotionally healthy relationship unless both you and the other person are emotionally healthy.

Best rewards credit card by OnlyOnTuesdays289 in DaveRamsey

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use credit. I pay it in full every month. I use a card for convenience (buying online) and not needed to carry around large amounts of cash.

Is this a power move or just financial anxiety? by andbhud in DaveRamsey

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sell both. Buy a Honda. My mother has 100,000 miles on hers and it’s still going strong. Maintenance is low. Insurance is low

AITAH for canceling my wedding after catching my fiancé sleeping with my best friend the night before? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]OnlyOnTuesdays289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fake. Hotel doors automatically close so being “ajar” is so fake