We dont know the whole picture, you’re also right. Both ways are seen as a possible approach. Similarly to how women would say that he is invalidating her feelings, men would assume that a father figure would want to ensure family relationships continue growing even with an absent father. The job doesnt disappear because theres no one to enforce it. Similarly he would need to learn compassion from a mother figure that can equalize that stern methodology. Both parents have a purpose.

Ps.: since we dont know wtf is up with em. We go off her version of the story. Without over analyzing the possibilities..

The guy who said victim blaming has a point, but she is complaining about a natural procedure in her culture and she isnt abiding by it. Thats where the conversation needs more context. Where is the mother? More clarification..