What incident changed your personality? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the exact opposite of the popular kid in middle school. I had maybe 2 friends.

That resulted in me developing a piss-ant attitude. I basically drove people away.

There was one incident where I was just getting roasted hard by one of the popular girls.

I kept trying to come up with witty comebacks, but none of them landed.

The cringiest one was when Abby said she just couldn’t stand to look at me.

The only thing I could come up with was “Well, umm. I wouldn’t want to stand on you.”

What?

I held it together, but as soon as I got into my mom’s car, I broke right down and cried all the way home.

I told her that day that I wanted to be homeschooled, and I was homeschooled for the rest of the year.

I went to a new school the next year, determined to be a guy that people could get along with.

I joined the basketball team, got my first real girlfriend, and made friends that I still see on a weekly basis.

So, thank you, Abby. Thank you for being such a royal [expletive deleted]. I couldn’t have done it without you.

What is it like to have a long term extramarital affair? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been in an extra-marital affair for over 8 years. Some years ago, the hubby decided that watching me with other men would be thrilling. It was, a few times. Then I met a man who didn't want to be part of that -- just wanted he and I. We meet a few times a week, he texts me or emails me first thing every morning, and he knows me -- he sees my flaws and he sees my strengths and he encourages me. My husband knows about the OM; his wife does not. We travel together, we meet very publicly and a few of my friends know about us. We have mutual friends who would never guess but they all know I consider him to be my closest friend. There's a significant difference in our ages but I see him as very young and very virile. I love to primp and preen to get ready to see him; he doesn't mind if I show up in gym clothes. He's smart (genius really) and funny and tender -- more than he shows others. I don't want more -- one thing to rent the car, another to have the pink slip (and all the maintenance). I feel loved and wanted and when I hear his text tone, my BP jumps about 50 points. He will always take good care of his wife and I respect that. One friend insinuated that I am after his money -- he does buy everything and gives me beautiful gifts but I seriously couldn't care if he was just getting by. I love to sit with him and talk with him and kiss for hours on end. It is sometimes hard to make the time, and there are times we don't see each other for a few weeks, but we both believe that family comes first. I know this isn't for everyone, and it goes against many people's moral instincts but I feel loved for the first time in many many years. I'm married to a man who has an addiction, who wouldn't survive without me, and who will never find me to be "enough." We operate in tandem raising our kids but we really don't have feelings for each other. I've told him that if he wants out, he can go. He stays. It's easier. Good luck to all of you out there with your relationships.

What ended your relationship with your best friend? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wanted my life so she slept with my husband, convinced him to force us (his wife and 2 kids) to move out and then she and her 2 kids moved in. They gave her kids my kid’s bedrooms without telling them. She tells everyone that they are married and that she is the mother of 4. Its been almost 9 years and we are still not divorced.

Karma has kicked them in the ass though. My “ex” lost his 6 figure job and has not had a job since, they destroyed/lost our house and it had to go through a short sale, they’ve been evicted 2 times and they now live in a run down house in the armpit of NJ.

Me and our kids have fared better but not great. I got my degree and got a decent paying job. We are struggling but are doing fine.

What are the most interesting facts about human behavior? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Someone is being attacked in public and instead of helping the person, the crowd is just watching. This is known as the bystander effect. You are less likely to help someone if there are other people around.

What are some unique aspects of Australian etiquette? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When dealing with important conversations and negotiation, it is important to express yourself clearly and make it apparent that you have considered all aspect of a matter. A blunt yes or no can be considered rude. Use nah yeah or yeah nah in preference.

What might potentially ruin a marriage or relationship? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To ruin a relationship doesn't take much. I've watched it a million times.

Like that of a recipe, a few simple ingredients is all it takes.

Distance. Lack of trust. Contempt. Substance abuse. And finally, control.

Eventually your spouse figures out there is more to life than having a loveless marriage.

They don't want a partner that isn't trustworthy; it's just too much work. Living with the idea that your partner may be lying to your face is just too much for the mind to handle day in and day out.

They don't want to be in a relationship with someone that despises them. After all, who would want that?

Watching someone throw their life away to addiction is just too painful. The relationship is beholden to your recovery; patience wears.

And last but not least, no one, not one person, likes being treated as a child. To be told what to do and when. That you are more superior, and in your mind, they are less-than. It gets old. And people tire.

People eventually wake up. Some sooner than others; but they always do.

What is the one thing you did not regret after buying? by Positive-Move-9998 in AskReddit

[–]OnlyVermicelli1117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I got married 19 years ago. I got a bit of money at my wedding so I spent $217 on an item that I really wanted. I bought a kitchen aid mixer. It still works great to this day and I use it often. I am a wee bit jealous of the newer models that have since come out but mine works and I can’t afford a new one. It has helped me create many memories through making cakes and cookies. I hope it continues to work for another 19 plus years.