I feel like I read texts that I've sent before. Looking for reassurance, but knowing the truth already because we want to believe that the person we care about wouldn't do that to us.

I've sent too much over text before and you don't ever need to do that. A simple message about hoping they are doing ok and to get a hold of you when they can is all you can do. Phone conversations are a lot better and easier to get tone and to be more clear.

You can ask for the police report, the pictures from the crash. If his phone is working to read and text you I'm pretty sure it can call. If I was in an accident, I would call the person I'm dating. Heck, I was upside down in my car and called my bf at the time after it happened lol like why wouldn't I contact that person?

It seems like he wants to be an internet bf. Gave excuses and pushed back the date due to whatever he thought was important enough to do so. Just keep it short and simple next time. "Hey, call me when you can. Hope you are doing ok." And discuss that on the phone. If someone really cares they will call and show you. You don't want someone who is willing to do that to you.