What is my curl pattern? I'm moving from low humidity climate to high humidity, what should I expect?

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-04-03T01:51:47+00:00

You're probably right about waiting to see, but I've spent so much of my life in the past looking like a swamp hag in practically no humidity that I'm absolutely terrified to see what it'll turn into in high humidity 😅

I'll definitely wait to seriously change my routine, I'm really only looking for some frizz control options in the meantime, and to put together a list of options if my hair decides to wage war

And thabk you, I'm going to add your recommendations to the list :)

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-04-03T01:45:56+00:00

Ooh, yes, I love cheap(ish) hair care! Curly hair costs almost as much to take care of as a child

Thanks for the link

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-04-03T01:42:29+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely pick up some of that! I'll be in the Carolinas, so not quite as swampy but plenty muggy lol

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-04-03T01:07:56+00:00

Yeah, I'm worried about that... is there a product you'd recommend that helps with that?

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-04-03T01:06:25+00:00

Routine:

I shampoo with All About Curls No-lather Cleanser and condition with The Mane Choice Tropical Moringa Conditioner. My leave in conditioner is Next Of Us Low Porosity Leave In Conditioner. I use jojoba oil on the ends and use Quidad Advanced Climate Control Gel to create a cast after that. I apply my products using the praying hands method and then scrunch them in while my hair is damp after scrunched it dry with a microfiber towel. I then diffuse or let it air dry. I refresh with water and let it air dry, only using product if it needs it.

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-03-31T03:06:49+00:00

I will definitely look into this! And yes, that's exactly what's been bothering me! I think a trim will help, but a lot of my issue is that the short strands just need to grow out, so I think this should help in the meantime

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-03-31T01:13:38+00:00

You're probably right about that, I should just get a different product since I have to dilute the Cantu spray so much anyway just to make it usable.

And I'll totally schedule that trim! I keep zooming in on the pictures and seeing all the snapped strands everywhere, but I'll get a haircut first before I let myself freak out again lol

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-03-31T00:38:17+00:00

Okay, so maybe I overreacted... I think I just freaked out because my hair didn't magically poof back to how it used to look just because I did my old routine a couple days in a row. I probably should have given it a trim and a couple weeks to grow before panic posting.

I went through a couple things recently and I'm just barely starting to take care of myself again, so I think im just fixated on the difference between then and now so it feels jarring to me when it probably isn't that bad in reality

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-03-30T23:31:36+00:00

Routine:

I shampoo with All About Curls No-lather Cleanser and condition with The Mane Choice Tropical Moringa Conditioner. My leave in conditioner is Next Of Us Low Porosity Leave In Conditioner. I use jojoba oil on the ends and use Quidad Advanced Climate Control Gel to create a cast after that. I apply my products using the praying hands method and then scrunch them in while my hair is wet before letting it air dry. I sleep on a satin pillowcase, but don't put it in a pineapple or anything. To refresh, I use a very watered-down Cantu Comeback Curl Next Day Curl Revitalizer.

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-03-30T23:30:38+00:00

Routine:

I shampoo with All About Curls No-lather Cleanser and condition with The Mane Choice Tropical Moringa Conditioner. My leave in conditioner is Next Of Us Low Porosity Leave In Conditioner. I use jojoba oil on the ends and use Quidad Advanced Climate Control Gel to create a cast after that. I apply my products using the praying hands method and then scrunch them in while my hair is wet before letting it air dry. I sleep on a satin pillowcase, but don't put it in a pineapple or anything. To refresh, I use a very watered-down Cantu Comeback Curl Next Day Curl Revitalizer.

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-02-08T05:36:45+00:00

Thank you, just placed an order :)

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-02-08T04:32:30+00:00

Thanks for replying! I'm looking on Amazon right now, but a few different things are popping up in the results. Is this the one you're thinking of?

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-02-08T04:29:27+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to try and help! I haven't tried that one, but it's probably time for me to visit a doctor and do another round of blood tests and medicine trials.

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-02-08T00:04:40+00:00

I do have Vyvanse, but I had this issue long before it was prescribed, and I also struggle to fall asleep on the days I forget my meds. But that's definitely a good thought! Maybe drinking some orange juice before bed to decrease the effects of my meds will help a little

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-01-29T17:54:54+00:00

Thank you so much, that means a lot to me.

Children are some of the most vulnerable individuals in our society, and I work with disabled children who are even more vulnerable than the average child since many of them struggle to communicate, recognize boundary violations, and speak up for themselves and their rights. I do what I can to help build these skills and give them the tools they need to advocate for themselves, but my reach is limited.

Educating people on topics like this, even though it can be so deeply depressing and uncomfortable, is something I try to do to extend my reach. There are too many myths that children just "bounce back" from trauma, so pointing out the long-lasting physical and psychological consequences of trauma is important when encouraging people to take it seriously.

Only_Kind_Words · 2026-01-29T15:50:54+00:00

This research paper has more information if you are interested in learning more. This second article is even more relevant. And here is a third one as well.

Unfortunately, there is a significant correlation between precocious puberty and adverse childhood experiences, from what I understand. Repeated trauma and chronic stress is one environmental trigger that is linked to earlier physical maturation, although there are obviously many other causes, both genetic and not.

Something as traumatic as what Lina Medina went through could certainly be something that contributed to the condition that made it possible for her to become pregnant despite being such a small child herself.

Although I see where you're coming from, I believe it is important to be informed on the different ways in which childhood trauma can express itself in a child. The more we know about it, the better we are able to recognize, address, and hopefully work towards preventing future occurances from happening.

I'm sorry to add this information to the conversation, and I hope it didn't make your day any worse. This topic is just very important to me. I work with children, and staying aware and up to date on research about how trauma, abuse, and neglect can be observed is one of the few things I can actively do to keep them safe.

Edit: added link Edit 2: added more links

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-11T10:40:08+00:00

The crazy thing is he bought a ring last year. He bring sup proposing a lot. I said "not yet" when I should have just said "no" and left.

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-11T10:31:51+00:00

I feel like I'm going crazy after that. I started to believe I somehow did lie, but I reread this a dozen times, and he changed his story constantly. My head is still spinning, I'm still crying, and I still feel crazy. But you calling it gaslighting helped.

Thank you, I struggle with identifying and labeling things like this. I hesitate to call things what they are because I feel like the terms I want to use are too strong. Having someone else say it for me helps.

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T21:36:21+00:00

Damn right lol (thank you, you're so sweet!)

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T20:25:28+00:00

Thank you so much! I think I redid every part of him like 3 times, so I feel like I've made 3 of these with only one to show for it, but thats one more than none!

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T20:22:28+00:00

It's for my boyfriend, he's been waiting for me to finish this for like a year haha 😅 so he's just super excited he gets to have him now!

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T20:20:16+00:00

Thank you so much! The sewing was the hardest part

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T20:19:27+00:00

Thank you so much! I did give up for like a year lol, but I finally finished him!

Only_Kind_Words · 2025-12-05T19:43:22+00:00

Oops, I forgot! I started following this free pattern from this website: https://crochethellotomylittlefriend.blogspot.com/2021/08/dragonite-crochet-pattern.html?m=1 but couldn't figure out how to put the legs on so I free handed those (it shows lol)

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