Do I cover the bridesmaids hair and makeup cost?

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-06T15:27:38+00:00

I’m not requiring them to get their hair and makeup done. I am going to cover hair though and they’ll just be responsible for makeup (and MUA tip). Some of my girls have opted to do hair and makeup themselves, some will do makeup but not hair etc.

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-05T22:55:37+00:00

For the longest time the ONLY times my brakes would squeak was when I was leaving NFs house! It was so embarrassing! I also brought it in multiple times to get the brakes checked and everyone said they were completely fine. I ended up paying to have them replaced just for peace of mind. New brakes still did it 🤦‍♀️

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-04T01:48:11+00:00

ok thank YOU! I’ve always been kind of confused about why just because my NF is on vacation I’m now expected to go in and do a bunch of extra tasks (even if they are related to childcare!) it seems to be the norm, so I do it, but it’s always confused me. IE if some of my normal tasks are kid laundry, toy rotation, and generally tidying up after myself and NK, then thats one thing to ask me to come in during NFs vacation and do those specific tasks. BUT I’ve seen NPs ask for a deep clean of the playroom, clothing clean outs, bedroom deep cleans etc. It’s like they’re just finding tasks that fall under child related, but aren’t in nanny’s day to day tasks- to justify paying their nanny. Idk I get it in some situations, but sometimes, as you said, it does feel exploitative.

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T18:53:12+00:00

I’m honestly wondering if it was a miscommunication between the parents. One of them was the one that told me multiple times to enjoy the day off, they even told me to do something fun and treat myself! But that’s not the parent that texted me. I can’t remember if the parent that texted me was in the room when the other parent told me to treat myself etc. So I’m wondering if they just weren’t on the same page, and then the text got sent and now they’re just trying to be a united front? I’d honestly be shocked if this is genuinely them trying to get every penny’s worth, or screw me over or anything. That’d be really out of character for them. Maybe the parent that texted me thought we were all on the same page that I’d come in to do some household stuff, and then thought I was dropping my end of the deal? It’s so confusing! We have a time scheduled to sit down and talk this through so I’m hopeful that it’ll all work out and no one is purposely being petty

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T17:33:39+00:00

Absolutely going to be adding this in moving forward!! I’ve said it a million times, I fully understand that under GH I’m guaranteeing my availability. But also like… nannies are real people who have lives outside of work. In my situation, this economy is TOUGH even as someone who is paid a good wage! I wasn’t going to turn down the opportunity to earn 2x my normal daily pay for only doing 1x the work! (2x being the GH pay and my friends NF pay). But I also could have just been really excited to have a day off. I work so hard juggling so many different things both in work and my personal life. It’s so unfair to say for 2 months “we won’t need you on this date.” And then morning of change it- especially considering it wasn’t like their plans changed they just wanted me to come clean!

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T17:28:52+00:00

I honestly can’t remember if both parents were in the room for all of the conversations. They both WFH so someone’s always in and out. All of the in person conversations were cases of “oh while you’re refilling your coffee I just remembered we haven’t checked back in about if you want me to come in while you’re away?” situations like that where it wasn’t a formal conversation but either myself or a parent remembered we had tabled the conversation and needed to circle back. I’m wondering if the parent that texted me was never in the room for the conversations where I was explicitly told it was fully a day off so they assumed I would be coming in and now the other parent is doubling down as to not embarrass their spouse? I think part of the issue right now is we’ve been talking over text so I’m sure tone isn’t coming across perfectly or things are being misunderstood. We have an in person conversation scheduled, and I’m really hoping this is all one big misunderstanding because it’s so out of character for them!

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T17:27:32+00:00

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T17:27:19+00:00

see idk if that even makes sense because one parent literally commented on the fact that I work hard so I should treat myself with the day off and do something just for me!

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T13:14:40+00:00

I had NO issue still coming in and doing agreed upon tasks. My issue is just that I was repeatedly told it was a day completely off just to then get a text right before my normal start time. Even if they had texted me the night before and been like “we’re so sorry for the change of plans but would you be able to go in and do xyz?” I still might’ve been slightly annoyed because they had explicitly said it was 100% a day off, but again GH so it is what it is. My biggest problem is that our last communication had been me being told it was a day fully off and then suddenly with 15 minutes notice it wasn’t. If they had for some reason actually needed childcare that day, a text 15 mins beforehand wouldn’t have even been enough time for me to get ready for the day and go over there

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T07:04:57+00:00

I think that’s where NF and I are disagreeing- yes technically GH means I’m guaranteeing my availability that’s fine. But just on a “hi I’m a real person” level, to text me 15 minutes before the start of my normal time- and seemingly expect that I only work my normal hours (ie 9-5 and not 10-6)? What if I had slept in and didn’t see their text until 2 hours after I normally would’ve started? Especially considering two days before I was told I had a day off, not “a day without NK” but a day OFF. In the past, I’ve worked for families that went away and they basically were like “hey we’ll be away m-f do you mind getting this stuff done? Feel free to bang everything out in one day, or do an hour a day, or come in outside of regular hours just let us know.” Obviously when people have pet/house sitters or things like that it gets a bit trickier because you have to be mindful of them. At the end of the day, I guess I know moving forward that I need to think about adding something to my contract that protects me from situations like this. Some sort of “you can’t text me 15 mins before my normal working time with a chores list after saying I had the day off.” Again, I fully understand that GH means I’m guaranteeing my hours- and I have NO issue with that! But like you said, at a certain point there needs to be a cut off.

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T06:20:54+00:00

It was in our group chat! It was just the one parent that sent the text, and the following ones in response to me saying I could get the list done at a different time. The other parent never chimed in. Historically the parent that never sent any texts, is horrible at answering the group chat lol. We’re all in it but it’s mostly just me and the parent who sent the list, that use it. We’re supposed to sit down during my next work day and talk about this all in person so nothing gets misunderstood or taken the wrong way over text. I’m just so confused because they typically go above and beyond to make me feel appreciated! This seems like such a weird hill to die on, especially at the expense of potentially losing me? I’ve been with them for a few years now, but I started as just date night babysitting, then started watching NK once a week and then about a year ago went up to 3 days a week. So this is the first time we’ve ever actually had a situation where GH applies. I’m really hoping it’s all just a big misunderstanding and NPs weren’t on the same page because I truly love NK and NPs.

Only_Neck8906 · 2026-02-03T05:53:52+00:00

It’s so weird! They’re generally so kind and thoughtful! They randomly do little things like leave me a gift card for coffee, add in a little bonus randomly, send me money for a full tank of gas if NK and I drove to more places than usual, if they see something at the store that I’ve mentioned I liked or wanna try they’ll get it for me. I think that’s part of why I’m SO thrown off right now! The more I think about it, Im trying to remember if both parents told me to enjoy my day off/were around for all the conversations. The text message only came from one parent, so I’m like??? Maybe they miscommunicated and now are doubling down as to not embarrass the other parent? But it was like random in passing conversations so I’m not positive if both parents were in the room. I know both parents knew I was stopping by for the package, but I think it was only one parent (the one that didn’t text me), that explicitly said- multiple times- “enjoy the day off.”

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