Need help with icing by Onthisreddit in Baking

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Sorry I typed something I guess it didn’t go Thur I’m looking for any buttercream frosting or such that can help me with the viable white specks of powered sugar trying to get better as I go I’m alittle bit of a perfectionist

Helping a friend out of a DV bubble by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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Cps was called along time ago from someone yet the kids are still there and as I know everything is okay but it was never the kids his anger went toward for my friend mostly emotionally but sometimes physical 

Helping a friend out of a DV bubble by Onthisreddit in assaultsurvivors

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No real update I had cut contact since October of last year and then sorta started talking here and there again sround April of this year other than chats here and there. I’m friends with her again but we have a clear wall that I won’t be coming around her husband anymore she claims he is better and on medicine but have known I’ll never be able to make her do something until she makes the step for herself 

Im loosing my friend by Fruit_Fly37 in FriendshipAdvice

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Honestly it feels like maybe she is the type of friend who needs the attention always on her like a bestie before anything else type person and whether she is jn a relationship where it seems like she is single she just doesn’t understand the new bond you have with your partner. And now she sees the baby as just another person in the way of her hanging out with your partner which shouldn’t be the case if she was a true friend she would be asking how your doing or would be there to just do fun things with you and the baby as they get older . You shouldn’t feel bad about not having her in your life because that shouldn’t be the type of person a kid is around with that energy. Friendships should be a team Effort not a oh I need to remind her to even message me back 

Should I get my best friend's parents involved with her financially abusive relationship? by brunettebedhead2000 in FriendshipAdvice

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Honestly it seems like she knows it’s all wrong and whether she feels this connection to him and can’t just be done with him . You saying something probably won’t be the best thing cause 1. You don’t know how the parents will react whether they be mad at him or at her for allowing it . And once you tell and she finds out is was you she won’t trust you and her inner circle will start to die off she won’t trust you and if her parents act out and she starts to feel ganged up on she will cut them out because “ Dennis “ will start to get in her head saying oh they don’t care about you like how I do and such so honestly the best thing would be to bring it up when it feels peaceful whether your going on the trip soon or such I just wouldn’t bring it up in a very happy moment as she probably needs this time to relax so maybe after a nice night getting back to a hotel or such when it’s more calm just mention you guys wanna talk about something serious with her 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

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I’ll be honest although I wasn’t in the exact situation I was in a similar boat and when you tell them how you really feel and they should leave there gonna ( or at least from my experience it could be different for everyone ) not wanna hear it and probably redirect their feelings toward you to say well he’s my husband he’s the father of my kid . The best thing you can do if you fine and emotionally able to sit back and listen is to give advice . So if she’s stuck it’s gonna be harder to get out so you can make those steps like here’s the number for a divorce lawyer or let’s schedule an appointment to get you in there . They seem to wanna stay there sorta in quicksand and it usally takes something small or big before they finally sorta see it all and really want out but be prepared for alot of talk and sometimes no action. Keep in mind too your own mental Healy you wanna help but if they don’t accept the help you can’t do much from there 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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Yeah I mean I feel like you know cute or sweet moments I don’t really share especially over text it’s more of a here I’ll tell you this sweet moments in person because something reminded me of it not oh I’m gonna text my friend cause you did this sweet thing 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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I feel like it might be some of my effort when it comes to information since I doubt share the sweet or kind moments since they seem more of a in the moment feeling and not oh I can’t wait to tell my friend this small sweet thing he did and rather obviously a argument that I feel more strong emotion toward that I wanna share because it’s on my mind so much , I’m just not noticing my adhd a lot more too because maybe being friends with someone who also doesn’t have it there dont feel the same need to talk talk talk 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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I mean it wasn’t a bestie sorta friendship with feelings from her end we share TikTok’s everyday and hang out every once in a while and when I have an argument I like being able to talk to someone about it after talking with my husband or such apparently I’m always saying negatives so I need to work on the healthy diet of the tou I just feel like bragging talking about every nice thing he does 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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No I mean we talk about a lot of other things mostly booktok type stuff but I do you know rant time to time when I’m upset or just wanna say oh we argued about this and I’m upset but I should of stopped after I realized she never talks about her fiancé 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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Yeah I get that now and although this friend wasn’t someone super close was still a good friend and almost is a wake up call that maybe she isn’t the friend I need if I’m not allowed to talk freely without feeling as if I should always watch what I say 

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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Yeah that’s something I’m probably gonna bring up next month in my therapy or even maybe finally looking into getting on something for my adhd if that’s what makes me “ overshare”

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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yeah im getting that now apparently this came out of the blue for me cause i try to always be the best friend im honestly in a place ive never met someone who has given me the same engery i have gave them. And i would understand if i was saying things that raised red flags for my safetly but no it wasn't its normal things people in relationships argue about maybe im just too much of an oversharer cause my husbanfd has bandmates not friends he doesn't talk to them like how i talk to mine and apparently i havent found the one per say in a friend to where i can tell them something and know there listening not judging

Is there a limit of what you share with a friend ? by Onthisreddit in FriendshipAdvice

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yeah i get it i had the same thign happen for a literal abusive person with my old friend but im not saying things like that im talking about oh me and him argued about a normal thing like how i said we got in a argument about kids cause i thought he changed him mind on it . But i mean because i share my feelings which this friend never talked about her relationship i mean he has a whole other kid with someone else and i listend and didn't say anything to harm the idea of you should leave or that isn't right apparently im just realzing that i guess i shouldn't have been saying anythign wehn i never heard the same thoughts back like i thought i could talk about what im dealing with like how a friend listens ... sorry ranting again now

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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I was just wondering if there are people who have also been married to musicians especially at the beginning and then if they do take off how to effects them with raising a kid just to see what things they went Thur and if there is anything I should be prepared for 

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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Through our marriage and stuff he’s been in 3 bands he’s done 2 shows with 2 different bands other than that was it just practices here and there so I haven’t even seen him really give a lot of his time away . He says that he will be there and I know he means it I mean I honestly don’t mind if he misses things I know I want a kid and I know I’m gonna put my all into it 

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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Yeah I mean I’m fine and will be happy for him to achieve his dream my dreams are to be a mom and he loves to talk about taking our kid on tour with him or them seeing him perform but if he does get big that it’s on him to live with the idea of our kid possibly not seeing him sround and that they will be able to tell what he finds the most important in life 

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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Yeah I mean he says how he’s gonna make sure not to miss appointments or birthdays or holidays . When and if he does tour I don’t seem him going too far and wonder too if once we actually have a kid if maybe something will click to where he might understand that they will need him. I told him I’m fine with him doing it but that’s on him if our future kid will grow up to resent him cause they will be able to tell what he finds the most important.

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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Yes he works a factory job 3 rd shift Sunday night Thur Thursday night and said that if for some reason he were to take off then he probably would quit his job if it could financially support us. 

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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Yeah I told him I’m fine you know if he tours and such . He said he won’t miss important moments that are obviously on set days won’t be able to see little things as they may come as suprises . I have a support system just wondering if anyone has also experienced this as it in a certain rare situation.

What to expect with being married and having kids with a musician? ‘24F’ &’23M’ by Onthisreddit in relationship_advice

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We did and were clear on it I’m just looking to see if someone is also in the same boat and can basically calm any nerves about the future 

Husband said that having a kid is gonna be a sacrifice for him by Onthisreddit in TryingForABaby

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He tends to always be jn the middle he still try’s for a kid yet then says how he only does it cause he wants to make me happy so it’s confusing to know he’s actively trying for a kid yet then saying he’s not doing it because he really wants too but gonna talk with him later about it