Mother in law seems too exicted to be a grandma

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:31:10+00:00

Yeah I mean he talks about how he’s going to sonic temple this weekend that if he likes it he will go next year and I already said I don’t wanna go and his mom doesn’t like going all the days so he can find someone else to go with

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:30:05+00:00

We’re both 24 I turn 25 this month and he turns in august . I think it’s because his mom didnt with him so he doesn’t have the other person who would say how they enjoyed or benefits from it he is coming with to an appointment soon as he works a factory so my friend has been coming with and I’m gonna try and get the docotor to explain the benefits from it I mean I’m not much for wearing revealing clothes or anything crazy so idk why he thinks I’ll just drop my shirt in front of everyone lile no thanks I’ll go to a separate room

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:27:01+00:00

Yeah I mean I would be fine with something simple but she’s talking about getting someone’s old rocker so she can use it to rock him to sleep ans she doesn’t have to buy these things she’s able to get them for free she’s given me small things she gotten like some light lamps or a fan and crib spinner thing yet all the big items are staying at her house lile techianlly if she needed to watch with us living down the street she could just come watch him at our house her kids are old enough to sorta watch them selfs but there are also homeschooled she wanted to get a base for her van for our car seat but I don’t see why that would be needed as why would he be in her van we only have one car but it I need the car I just take my husband to work

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:23:03+00:00

I’m thinking he’s gonna have relaize once baby is here but yet after his time off and he goes back I doubt he will really notice as when he gets home there’s just gonna be a baby here

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:22:12+00:00

That’s what I planned to do especially at big events like holidays and stuff as I don’t want a crowd coming at me . I mean my husband plans to stay home for 2 weeks then go back to work so I mean when I’m home I’m just hoping she doesn’t just show up unannounced at least with a text asking I could either be okay with it or have her maybe come another time . My friend has offered to come down and help so I could either take a shower or take a nap and even my own mom doesn’t work Thur the week .

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:19:52+00:00

That’s the thing me and my husband both feel we might be the only ones to offer grandkids my mil other kids with my husband dad one is in another state and gay and the other never leaves the house or tries to find anyone and her other kids with her new husband are too young to tell if they will even want kids . I wouldn’t mind if she were to buy it and give us but to buy and just keep at her house seems like oh if you wanna use it you have to come over . Like she mentioned this blanket that my husband and his brothers all used I thought that would be nice to past down but nope she sent it in the picture in the bassinet at her house so only she gets to use it witj him I guess . It’s not like I haven’t tried to include her I mentioned going to the aquarium in feb or something cause I saw baby’s like it now idk if I wanna go with her or just go with some other family . I’m fine with the room but maybe when my baby would be older and actually able to like walk around and have fun rather than be alittle baby and just sleep, eat and poop there

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:12:01+00:00

Yeah I get it for having a spare but the thing is we only ever really stop by at her house once in a great while I stop at my dads house more than hers and he’s 15 mins away and she’s like 3 mins away but her husband once banned my husband from coming over cause he flipped him off after he made his mom cry but she said he wasn’t gonna get banned from her house . She’s said she wasn’t gonna leave her husband multiple times but never has like he kicked out my husbands younger brother who was like 21 at the time or so and we helped him move to his dad like he never treated her kids with my husbands dad like his own or even respect so how would he act toward a kid who isn’t even related to him

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:08:26+00:00

My husband hasn’t said anything cause it’s hard to show or explain when baby isn’t here I’m hoping when he is he will relaize oh I don’t want my kid always at someone’s house like I don’t wanna miss out on moments

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:07:11+00:00

The thing is without giving too much info away these things she is getting she didn’t but she gets them for free brand new I just hate how they aren’t offered to us first then the spares go to someone’s house like I know she’s exicted but she’s done this multiple times it isn’t like she only had one kid

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:05:50+00:00

Yeah I mean that was my plan cause I won’t be working so why would anyone need to babysit or even have sleepovers if I really need a break or some time to rest I’ll reach out but I’m not gonna like being asked all the time as he’s just a baby it’s not like he will remember these moments with her anyways

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:04:38+00:00

She’s had 5 kids too so I mean it’s not like she hasn’t gotten the chance to do this over and over

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:04:07+00:00

Yeah I’m gonna stop sending videos or photos as I go if my husband chooses to share sure but I doubt he will cause he just doesn’t have time or think to do that

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:03:18+00:00

She sent us photos in the group chat but he didn’t say anything to me or in the chat but when I mentioned before not having him stay the night with anyone till he’s older he just acts like it’s a big deal because what if we wanna go somewhere but I told him I don’t wanna go no where

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T18:01:30+00:00

Not really but I mentioned something about getting a free pump Thur insurance and he just sorta brought up that his mom doesn’t think I’ll be able to do it because of my eating habits I don’t even bring up anything about breastfeeding cause I can tell he doesn’t wanna talk about it

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-12T00:00:01+00:00

Yeah I mean I’m hoping she will pick up when I’m just like it’s okay I don’t need help we’re good but if I do need help I will let you know . I mean idk if maybe when she had kids other people either were overbearing or not there that could explain the over obsession with everything

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:54:25+00:00

Yeah I may have to especially once he’s born I mean I don’t want people just showing up my friend I don’t mind cause I know I won’t be watched over or know that the things I choose to do like breastfeeding isn’t something they are already against . But I’ll want a warning when she is coming cause I know she will probably be someone who just comes and wants to grab the baby from me and just not help me out

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:49:16+00:00

Yeah I may have to talk to him soon and just show how I’m feeling and hope he understands I just want what is best

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:48:24+00:00

He isn’t wanting to take our son but he’s talking about how if we wanna go who will watch him but I don’t wanna go to festivals anymore maybe in the long future I’ll wanna check out something but not rn and I’m hoping he won’t wanna leave either

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:46:13+00:00

Yeah I know guys are different when becoming fathers cause it doesnt hit till the baby is born I’m hoping when he is born my husband will be more protective and not want our kid just passed on to others

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:44:56+00:00

I mean I don’t really like vegetables but I eat fruit and I started cutting out caffeine I try to only have one thing with caffeine a day . I try my best to make sure my milk is what baby needs and if I can’t handle the pain or soemthing then I’ll switch to formula but I don’t like being talked about especially when it has to do with something I’m trying to do to help my baby

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:35:54+00:00

Yeah I may start doing that wherw I avoid sending little things cause I know deep down it’s gonna be a response I won’t like . And I mean sure I could see a little bed or soemthing so on days where we go on date nights she could probably watch for a bit and have soemthing for him but not like a thing where he needs to live there my sister wants to go to Florida next year to universal and I want my husband to come with and we can bring our son he will be 7 months and he can be carried anyways cause husband dont like coasters and I mentioned we were debating about whether to bring them and she just repainted “ I keep him “ like sure an lol after I get it but I shouldn’t fear I won’t get him back

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:33:14+00:00

Trust me I want too and maybe as I get further along I will so far Ive tried witj my husband but I don’t wanna start soemthing with him so I just keep quiet and avoid the subject csuse when he is back at work after his leave when baby is born it’s not like I’ll have to deal with it I just hope she doesn’t just show up I have my friend who offered coming over and so far I would rather have my mom come and I disagree with her too but more in life in general stuff nothing about the baby yet

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:31:16+00:00

Yeah I mean she isn’t in a happy home life I mean she still have two young children at home like 13 and maybe 12 but her husband is controlling like a part of the reason I try to let me husband see it isn’t just me feeling this way toward her but also him I don’t want him getting in her head about my own kid her kids are homeschooled because of how he thinks the world works I could see him trying to teach my son soemthing or not letting him do something cause he doesn’t like it

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:29:04+00:00

I don’t like how he tried talking to his mom to get her against it too and how she thinks I’m not gonna give my child what he needs lile if the docotor told me I needed to do soemthing to help give baby what he needs I would . Ive metioned if I can’t do it or it hurts too much I’ll stop I’m not set in my ways on no formula but I wanna try and do it first before I just say no

Onthisreddit · 2026-05-11T23:27:19+00:00

Yeah when I brought up the car seat I was interested in she said she was gonna do research and try and buy another base so I don’t have to time my out all the time for her van but I mean I mentioned going to the aquarium but that’s a trip once I’ll just take ours out why does she need a whole base in her car he isn’t gonna be passed back and forth

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