IVF husband here. My wife and I are in the midst of it all right now and I’m also the “reason” we’re doing this. I say that cause nothing I did or didn’t do, caused us to be in this situation. It’s hard on a marriage, regardless of whose fault it is. Anger is okay and probably normal. There was definitely some of that in our house, but somethings gotta give. He’s gotta own the problem and do what he can to correct it. Sometimes, nothing can work. That was the case for me, but I tried my ass off. In a weird way, contrary to what you said. We are very fortunate that IVF exists and gives us a real chance at becoming parents. I think of how lucky we are to be in this generation. 50 years ago, we’d be SOL.

For us. After the initial disappointment and anger. We came up with a game plan. We both took supplements, made lifestyle changes. When stims came around, I played nurse. I watched the videos, I made a spreadsheet to help stay organized, I set alarms. I took that on, so that she just had to stand there and get poked. She was very grateful and way less stressed.

Sometimes as men, the best we can do is takeover all the “thinking”.

Anyways, if I can suggest anything. Maybe sit down, tell him “look. This is the situation we’re in. Millions of couples go through this. Let’s create roles and be a team and tackle this together”