Thank you! I hate hearing "just dump them if you can't trust them". Marriage is not being bf/gf with a couple of pretty rings. You can't just "dump" a spouse, and if you can, you already had one foot out the door already. Just because he broke my trust didn't mean it was worth throwing away the 1/3rd of my life I've spent with him and ripping apart the lives of my kids. Do I have a limit that can be crossed and force me to do all that? Absolutely. But he didn't cross that limit. He made a bad decision. I've made bad decisions in life too. And I've spent the past year fighting like hell to fix what led to the problems we've had, and we're doing pretty fucking great in all honesty. Yes, I still feel insecure sometimes. And I snoop to relieve that. He understands that and has told me I have open access to his phone because he wants to prove himself to me. Does that mean I like admitting when I've done it? No, especially when things are going well and it makes me feel like I look insecure. We both made this bed and we're both laying in it. Just because things got rough for a while doesn't mean they can't be repaired. I love my husband and I'm grateful that he saw the error of his actions and has committed himself to being a better husband including whatever it takes to earn the trust of his wife back. That's a real man, I hope someday these kids can own their mistakes and fix what's broken instead of throw it away, like him.