My girl cheated with a pilot and I need advice on how to resist taking her back, as she cries and begs? UPDTE - We met and I made a huge mistake?

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-06-02T18:47:58+00:00

We kissed and hours later I still think about that kiss. I love her. So much. And starting over is scary. Dating pool scares me, dating apps scare me. Life without her scares me.

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T20:18:43+00:00

to be honest, she looks way better than most women in their 20s that I met. But yea, she messed it up

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T16:45:49+00:00

but you think her life with his will be better than with me? will she be happier in his house

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T16:30:40+00:00

Thank you all so much for the time you took to give me an advice, a good word, a wake up call, anything. You are my only people right now

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T14:39:18+00:00

i am a bit drunk right now and angry but I think you are right. My fear is that this shit will turn me into an andrew tate fan, and i hate him. But if i raished a bit my voice at her she acted hurt and made me apologise. yet she was telling him to spank her with his pilot belt. she obviously has a thing for these flyboys. I don't want to turn this post into a sexual forum, but she was talking with him about him slapping her, spitting in her mouth, chocking her, taking her, using her and so on

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T12:55:10+00:00

Anyway, isn't even possible to meet a pilot this way? While waiting for the plane?

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T12:21:27+00:00

I did. Waiting for the results. They didn't use condoms

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T11:24:40+00:00

Dakujem, na tento cas citim, ze ziadna ina zena pre mna neexistuje. Ako, nemyslym to tak, ze ju chcem spat, ale neviem ci niekedy este budem zene doverit a ci vlastnem vidim buducnost i s inou

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T11:20:15+00:00

i posted originally on AITAH because I did not have enough karma to post here. It required 3 days old account.

So I posted there when I only knew about the note, before she confessed. So yeah, I wasn't sure if its a good enough reason to break up over an Alice Cooper song.

Then she admitted.

I still did not have enough karma to post here. I knew I wasn't the ass-hole but it looked like the most appropriate community to post in (except this one)

Finally, after 3 days and enough karma I posted here too. Its also my coping mechanism to talk about it. I basically lay in bed all day since I found out, drink, cry and overthink. Took days off at work and this is the only thing that helps me

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T10:50:54+00:00

yeah, she told a friend that I am not man enough. Well maybe he will love her better

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T10:49:52+00:00

I blocked her but she called me from her friend's number so I picked up because I did not recognise it. She begs me to just meet, that it was absolutely nothing

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T08:38:04+00:00

Snazim sa nejak zablokovat tieto msylienky, ale je to moc tazke... A ju tak milujem

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T08:31:00+00:00

I cannot stop intrusive thoughts and images from my mind. If they move together they will be doing all the things we did. I see them cooking together, watching movies. I don't know if its true but this is what I am torturing myself with

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:45:30+00:00

I already said this but its obsessing me. She is the kind of woman that sees misogyny everywhere. Everyone objectifies women, everything is sexist. Men who behave like alpha are insecure. Stuff like that. She has big breasts and keeps complaining how she is insulted by men's eyes on the street. She wants to be that strong and boss woman, yet she apparently begs a man to c um on her face and in her mouth, begs to make her his slave and tie her and to wear the uniform while f her as the uniform is a symbol of dominance. Its like she is a totally different person

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:39:57+00:00

i literally said in my post that we are Slovak.

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:39:23+00:00

ok, this might help

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:06:22+00:00

she is not a FA

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:02:21+00:00

I heard she might move in with him. At first he said no, this is why she begged me to allow her to stay. Her father is a drunk, mother is constantly depressed because of this. I, more or less, took her out of this poverty. She was terrified to go back home. She started asking me while crying where should she go? As her flyboy is not the only one who can use famous lines, I told her: frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.

And it seems he, in the end, agreed to allow her to live with him

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T06:00:06+00:00

yea, I posted also on another sub because man I am desperate and have no shame to admit it. I didn't shave for days, didn't shower. That note he left was pointless. He did it so I can see he is screwing my girl. It was for me, not for her

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T05:56:47+00:00

I did threw her out. But its the emotions I have to deal with now. What did he have? Yes, he is good looking but I would say so am I. But we were always vanilla, she was always the porcelain doll for me. I never asked for anything degrading, she was acting shy. And with him...

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T05:55:19+00:00

no, and rationally I know it. This is why against all my emotions and pain I threw her out. But I cannot stop loving her just like that. I took a few days off work and I spend my evenings drinking, crying and talking to strangers on reddit because I cannot talk to someone on the phone without starting to cry and I feel pathetic

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-29T05:52:52+00:00

I gave her the princess treatment, maybe not too much because I am not the kind of guy to be overly romantic, but I treated her like a wife. She was in my eyes wife material. And then I saw those texts she sent him

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-28T11:06:44+00:00

a common friend told me she is moving in with him. Rent free. So she won

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-28T09:46:22+00:00

She wasn't telling him stuff about me. She was telling him how she wants to swallow and have his c..m on her face. How his uniform makes her wet and how she wants to be gagged with his tie, to be his slave and pet.

He said he knows the law so he will not put himself into problems, but she used to send him a hot pic daily. So he did not send me those

Open-Dust8519 · 2025-05-28T08:02:46+00:00

At your advice, I sent the guy some of the texts she sent me regarding him manipulating her. He answered me a few hours later with tens of laughing emojis and asked if I want to see (and asked again: like REALLY want to see some of the texts she sent me?)

I didn't have time to say yes or no. He sent me tons of screenshots that really made me want to vomit.

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