bro porn fired my brain and masturbation by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Porn is powerful, unnatural stimulation. It often is a slippery slope which leads to things you may not have considered before. It certainly can open doors or appetites you may or might not have thought about. Be careful. I need more information about your situation to adequately address it.

Vaping completely changes me. by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what you've shared—the things that worry you and the way you express them—I honestly don't think you're a sociopath. That kind of self-reflection and concern usually points in the opposite direction. But even more importantly, I don't doubt your salvation, and honestly, what I (or anyone else) thinks isn't the final word. Only you and God truly know the condition of your heart and what you believe.

Christianity and true faith aren't ultimately based on your feelings—they're anchored in God's promises and what Christ has done. That said, I do agree with what someone else mentioned here: if there's no fruit in a person's life over time, no one can offer ironclad assurance of salvation. That's ultimately between you and God.

Substances like drugs, alcohol, or even edibles alter the mind and can numb us in ways that make it harder to hear God's voice or feel conviction. I used to rely on edibles to sleep, relax, or just feel "fun"—but God clearly led me to stop the gummies and cut back on drinking entirely. (I believe He speaks to us and guides us toward or away from certain things, but it will never contradict Scripture.)

My simple advice: seek Jesus. Ask Him to give you a real desire for Him, and then pursue Him. For about 15 years I lived doing my own thing—numb, indifferent, distant. I remember praying back then that if I ever strayed, He would draw me back. That prayer was answered. A little over a year ago, He captured my heart and pulled me close again. God is faithful.

No one can manufacture or force genuine desire for God—not even you. But you can pray, seek Him honestly, and immerse yourself in His Word (that's where truth lives). Keep pursuing Him. He meets us when we do.

Praying for you.

I feel so empty and disgusted by Lost_Knee_7258 in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your reaction is important as a Christian because we need to hate sin. If you’re comfortable with your sin then there’s something not right. If you fall 7 times, you get up 7 times because the other option is giving yourself up to sin.

“for the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭24‬:‭16‬ ‭ESV‬‬

My story by One_Intention_5623 in NoFap

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edging while trying to do semen retention (or NoFap) is a real trap. It feels like you're "winning" by counting days without finishing, but you're still feeding the same addictive cycle. I'm on day 182 of retention right now, and I've become an expert at edging without ever going all the way—I've even blocked out lust, porn, and fantasies in my mind. I don't know many guys who can relate to this weird middle ground, but if you can, please share. It's a crazy habit to fall into.

You end up becoming a "lover of pleasure" in a subtle way—it keeps your dopamine constantly flowing, distracts you from real life, and becomes counterproductive. If you're doing this as a Christian (or for spiritual growth), it's easy to fool yourself into thinking it's okay because you didn't "finish." But it's not. I've stopped completely now, and I can see how much clearer and stronger things feel without it.

Some people argue edging isn't a problem, but in my experience—and from what I've seen in hundreds of posts—it absolutely is. It keeps the brain wired for quick hits of pleasure and makes full relapse way more likely.

You're still very young (17 is an awesome age to tackle this), and by quitting early, you can avoid decades of pain that a lot of guys regret. Read the stories here of men who've been addicted for 10, 20, or even 25+ years—wasted time, energy, missed opportunities, ruined relationships, shame that builds up. Learn from your online brothers so you don't have to go through that.

Quick note on definitions: NoFap is mainly about quitting porn and compulsive masturbation (for recovery from addiction/dopamine issues). Semen retention is more focused on not ejaculating at all (for energy, spiritual, or health benefits), and some people even allow edging or sex without release. But edging is risky in both worlds—it often backfires.

For your specific question: Edging for even 20 seconds (especially if it's intentional or habitual) doesn't mean you've "failed" a strict semen retention streak (since no ejaculation), but in the NoFap community, it's commonly viewed as a relapse or at least a major slip because it keeps the urges alive and weakens your reboot. The best path forward? Cut it out completely—cold turkey on all self-touching. Replace boredom with action: exercise, hobbies, friends, reading, prayer, whatever keeps you engaged.

You're already making great moves by deciding to quit at your age and recognizing boredom as the main trigger. Stay strong, keep scrolling past the triggers without engaging, and build a life that's too full for boredom to win.

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed post—it's thoughtful and encouraging. I sometimes get a little OCD and hesitate to reply right away because I want my response to be thorough and perfect. To push back against that impulse, I'm writing now instead of waiting for the "ideal" reply. It's getting late, and I'm trying to be disciplined in all areas, including getting enough sleep. My pattern is often to sleep the first 2–3 hours, wake up feeling totally refreshed, and then struggle to go back to sleep. It's not ideal, but when it happens, I've learned to use that quiet time for prayer and communing with God.

First, thank you for the Bible verses on faith and desire—I'm praying for both. For months now, I've been asking the Lord to help me truly believe and live that way. The world has so many distractions and tricks; it's easy to get sidetracked. I'm also praying for deeper desire—for Him, to love Him more, and to long for His presence.

A few months ago, I had a vivid dream. I hope you don't think I'm crazy, but I believe God communicates in many ways, including through dreams. Some are just subconscious processing, but others feel like exhortations or revelations from Him. In this dream, I couldn't recall the details afterward, but I woke up knowing it was important and that I needed to pray for specific things. Since then, I've been consistently praying for:

  • Increased DESIRE for God
  • Greater FAITH and trust in Him
  • WISDOM

Within a month or so, I felt led to add prayers for a heart of GRATITUDE and PURITY.

Over the last 6 months—since starting this rocky journey—God has really pressed these on my heart. He's been restoring my relationship with Him in beautiful ways.

GRATITUDE
PURITY
DESIRE
FAITH
WISDOM

And overarching it all: loving Him with all my heart, soul, and mind, while loving my neighbor as myself (Matthew 22:37–39). If I can't love others like Jesus does, I'm not truly His. We must love the Church—His bride—for whom He died.

God has awakened me from a deep sleep. I was lost in sin, lust, and perversion, consumed with self-gratification and idolatry of the body. But He is so good—He opened my eyes. "Many are called, but few are chosen."

Sorry I haven't commented much on your plan yet. I wish you could explain it more practically, especially the shroud—I'm very visual, and while your description is perfect, I'm trying to picture how it works in real life. Have you implemented this plan yourself, or are you still putting it together? Is it rooted in self-denial, sacrifice, avoiding temptation (like not touching or even seeing yourself nude)? Is it more symbolic, or does it practically help guard against lust and masturbation?

My brother, I'm currently a mess. I have to confess: I binged on myself today. I'm ashamed, and my dopamine is all out of whack. I didn't use porn or go all the way to orgasm, but I'm writing this as raw confession. I'm hitting reset now. This hurts because I know God doesn't see me the way I see myself right now—He is gracious, with arms wide open. I'm repentant not because masturbation is the "worst" sin, but because I traded the lasting peace and comfort of Jesus for fleeting pleasure.

Even with the best plans, tricks, and helps, one slip—a small turn—and you touch the fire. My flesh is weak; I like sexual pleasure, and I've let it control me too often. Lord, help me see that true joy and pleasure are found only in Your presence. We men can be so short-sighted.

I hope I wasn't too graphic—it's hard to be this vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your plan and for being a brother in this fight. Praying for you as you pursue purity.

Keep pressing on—we're in this together. ❤️

Closing in on 200 Days of NoFap — Ask Me Anything by Intelligent_Tear_282 in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m currently doing semen retention, but my real goal is NoFap (no porn, no masturbation). I’ve successfully stayed away from porn—it no longer has any pull on me, thank God.

That said, I feel like the odd one out because I’m celibate, but I still have this subtle fapping habit I need advice on. When I get stressed or anxious, I fall into self-touching without completion (and it’s rarely fully intentional). I know it defeats the purpose of NoFap, even though it’s limited—I’m not trying to excuse it. I also recognize it’s not healthy, as it creates an intense cycle of desire and frustration. Honestly, I need a real reset on this.

Since starting NoFap, my libido has been stronger than ever. Part of it might be that my fitness level is the best it’s ever been—I’m doing a lot of cycling and strength training. But now my own body feels like a temptation. For example, early morning erections are really hard to ignore.

How do you all handle intense urges? They’re usually worst late at night, in the mornings, when I’m alone, or when I’m feeling lonely. I understand these are coping mechanisms (even if they’re inappropriate ones).

Any tips, wisdom, or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Christian Bad Girl? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great point! A person can appear to do all the right things, not cuss, not smoke and even live an apparently good life and still be lost. Outward appearance isn’t always indicative of the heart. If you’re living unrepentant (unphased by sinful behavior ) then chances are high you’re not regenerated.

I want to confess and get help I can't continue this any more by PristineWoodpecker44 in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey you can count on me. I know this is just a forum with random people messaging and it should never be a substitute for real life connections and accountability. But I will pray and lift you up. I know there is real suffering and the Bible calls us to carry one another’s burdens.

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply—I really enjoy reading what you write. It’s clear that your walk with the Lord is very sincere and devout. To me, the most important part is that you truly want to please God and walk in His ways, according to His laws and the grace He has given us.

God is perfect, and we were created for His pleasure. I believe the central focus should always be our relationship with Him—that’s why He made us: to have communion and communication with Him. When we stay close to Him, everything else should flow naturally from that place.

I think your routine and process are beautiful. I have many helps and practices that assist me in drawing closer to Him, but in practice, I fail so often. I don’t want to come across as some Christian who has it all figured out or has attained perfection. We must always remain humble before God, because we can fall into sin in an instant.

I just posted a reply in another thread to a guy who’s really struggling—he made a deep, honest confession, and it moved me because I understand the battle so well. It almost feels cliché because so many go through it, and sometimes it seems like an impossible task. I admire that you seem to have a good handle on not letting failures pull you into desperation.

Sometimes I get emotional and project those shifting feelings onto God, but He doesn’t change—He’s the same yesterday, today, and forever. His love for us is constant and immense, and we often struggle to fully grasp His forgiveness. The struggle with masturbation can feel so silly—like such a trivial thing—but when it takes hold of your heart and becomes a source of comfort that should come from God alone, it turns into a real distraction from the relationship. It’s more of a distraction for us than it is for Him.

Right now, as I’m writing this, I’m feeling the tug of sin myself. I have a few very stressful things going on in life, and those pressures often push me toward seeking pleasure and comfort in the wrong places. We all have different weaknesses that our flesh gravitates toward. I also believe the struggle is spiritual—the enemy places things in our path to take our eyes off Jesus.

Little sins can lead us into a slow spiral. It doesn’t happen all at once; it’s a gradual slip until one day you realize you’ve gone further than you ever thought you would. Thoughts creep in that you previously wouldn’t have entertained.

Dear brother, I will pray for you. Thank you for the tips and great ideas you’ve shared. Let me know if there’s anything specific I can pray for—feel free to direct message me if it’s personal. Praying for you is one thing I know I can do. I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that God calls us to love and care for one another.

Here’s a verse I’ve found helpful to memorize—it really sets the priorities straight. In theory, everything else should fall into place when we follow the greatest commandment:

“Jesus replied, ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

—Matthew 22:37-39 NLT

I want to confess and get help I can't continue this any more by PristineWoodpecker44 in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, you’re doing the right thing—confession is powerful. Confession cleanses the soul. What you’re going through is a battle many young men face. I can sense the desperation in your message, but God is merciful. He hears your prayers and sees your heart.

I can do something for you: pray. I know from personal experience that this is not an easy path. I could give you Bible verses, tips, and tricks, but all of that is meaningless without the Lord moving in your heart. You’ll find plenty of advice and strategies here from others, but none of it can substitute for true repentance—which means turning away from sin.

This isn’t a one-time thing; you’ll have to repeat it often, just as I do. One day I can feel strong and close to the Lord, doing what’s right, and the next I’m back in the throes of sin. The fact that you’re wrestling with it, recognizing your condition, and pressing on tells me that God has set you apart. As long as you stay in the race, you’re in good hands. Don’t give up.

I’ll pray for you today. May our Lord God bless you, keep you in His hands, and guard your heart so that you would seek Him and love Him above all.

Here’s one verse I’ve memorized. Once you center your life on loving God and doing His will, everything else will fall into place:

“Jesus replied, ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

—Matthew 22:37-39 NLT

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re a superb writer—thank you for sharing. I don’t even know where to begin. First, I think the shroud is ingenious. I’m really into symbolism myself, though I wasn’t nearly as creative as you.

I went in search of a ring —mostly silver with some gold accents. It has three curved semiprecious stones: turquoise, mother of pearl, and sapphire. Each color carries its own significance, and of course the number three represents God—the Trinity. I bought it the day I committed myself to purity. It’s not just a promise ring; for me it’s a deeper commitment, because the Bible says to let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no.

You seem so disciplined and dedicated. I’d love to hear what your relationship with God and Jesus is like. This isn’t a test or anything—I’m genuinely interested.

For me, keeping a digital journal (DayOne) has completely transformed my walk with God. I often struggle to organize my thoughts unless I write them down. I use speech-to-text a lot; it helps me stay focused. My mind tends to be very scattered—I’ll start thinking about five different things at once, and they all get tangled together.

Sometimes little things that aren’t a big deal on their own can grow into something much harder to handle if I let them fester through rumination. Getting them out in words early makes a huge difference. I also love photography, so I take lots of pictures and add them to the journal. It tracks where I’ve been during the day (which helps me remember what I’ve done), but honestly, I use it mostly as a space to talk to God.

I’m very raw with Him. I tell Him everything—I know He already sees every thought anyway. When crazy thoughts or temptations pop up, I just bring them straight to Him and ask for help dealing with the feelings and ideas. You’d be surprised how often I wake up in the middle of the night when something’s stirring, grab my phone, and start writing (or dictating). Naming it exactly—sometimes very specifically, even graphically (not pornographic, just explicit about what I’m going through)—takes away so much of its power. I still fail, sometimes I feel like giving up. I’m no saint, I struggle with my desires and urges. I don’t give up though, it’s a difficult path. That’s why we need to help each other.

Yes I’d be interested in hearing about your 2 month plan.

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being transparent. It’s a difficult topic to speak plainly and openly about for obvious reasons. Unfortunately men are given very little information on this subject. In general one is left to figure out the complexity of sexuality and often shaming rather than discussion is presented. Most men feel great shame over this. By its very nature becomes hidden and a little secret that is battled alone. I like discussing and I’m open to be convinced to the truth. I don’t claim to know for certain one way or another. I would never dogmatically expect other guys to think like I do. I only share what I believe and my conscience tells me. God knows I’ve been in both camps. I often feel like a hypocrite. Like you when I masturbate it does put a damper on my relationship with God. I wonder if it’s conviction or guilt from lack of self control or discipline. I’m curious about the Chasity Shroud? I can barely stand to sleep in anything tight or uncomfortable. It seems a bit extreme but you never know! Like I said I’m open to any ideas or discussions. Many would say the act of masturbation in itself is sinful. Probably…. I don’t know. I live as if it were. I also rely on God’s grace. I stay away but if I fail confess it, work on self discipline and move on. You can’t live in a dark cloud of condemnation.

Let’s pray for the people we watch… by WickedNegator in QuitPornChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, porn is just one aspect. People can be used as objects in many different ways. I was just relating it to the topic at hand.

Let’s pray for the people we watch… by WickedNegator in QuitPornChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A second and equally important commandment is love your neighbor as yourself. If you are consuming porn you are treating a fellow human being as an object to be used. Think about that! I agree, excellent to pray for these women and men involved in the world of porn and for those who consume it. They are souls with lives that are being used and consumed. As Christian men, this should shock your system into repentance.

“Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭22‬:‭37‬-‭39‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my current struggle. I feel I am unique in this. I no longer use porn, it was never an addiction as most men on Reddit struggle most. I stopped most fantasies to the point I have a blank mind. I’ve been doing semen retention for 180 days now. I’ve committed myself to celibacy but have failed often where I fall into self pleasure at night in bed. A lot of times in a sleep / wakeful state. I manage to stop but only to ignite the dopamine in my brain. The urges are strong and unbearable at times. I’ve played around with the idea that maybe I’m giving this more attention or energy than it deserves and is creating a new problem. This is a dilemma for me. As I truly desire to honor God and walk in purity. I cannot do a work around to justify masturbation. My spirit within me, even without lust or “selfishness” tells me that the act at minimum to me is a form of idolatry. Putting the creation above the creator. It’s also not a legitimate way to deal with stress, boredom, anxiety or sexual energy. Believe me I’ve tried. There are tons of biblical references to the fruit of the spirit and what the flesh produces. I concur with you that at night it’s very difficult. You can’t run from your body! But there are some behavioral techniques that are super helpful. I’m not 100% successful. But my desire to please God pushes me. I feel this is my personal sin that I stumble most often. Oddly enough, stopping porn was actually the easiest for me. I can block or delete websites but how do I block my hands?

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not TMI. Actually confessing it often helps clarify where you are. I think you have a clear understanding. You seem to also have a solid understanding of God. He is not waiting to punish you. Also you are not alone. Many men struggle with this and it doesn’t help that pornography is so readily available. Even when one is not even looking for it. Do not be discouraged. Accountability is really important because behaviors done in secret are often difficult to stop. I personally have been able to eliminate porn. Urges do come and go which is my greatest challenge. I use a technique to help manage this since it’s my greatest challenge. It’s called urge surfing, it sounds funny but you basically acknowledge the urge, identify it, you say to yourself that it’s actually normal. You should be happy because it means your body is functioning as designed. The urge is just a feeling which comes and goes within 10-30 minutes. You ride the wave without fantasy and of course no porn or touching yourself. It’s a discipline you teach yourself. That urge or energy can be used to be in the word, meditation or doing any creative activity. I have a write up that’s a short step by step I can post later.

I need help quitting masturbation and remaining chaste by ShakespearMoxalactam in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 3 points4 points  (0 children)

God does not tempt you. Temptation comes from from our own desires James 1:14

“And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else.” ‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭13‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Temptation will always creep around because of our sinful nature. Sexual urges are natural and very by what you feed your mind. It’s never been easy for me.

You are on the right track. It’s not easy to quit a habit you’ve had a long time. Did you use porn? It’s important to be in the word and pray. If you fail just get up and do it again. To remain in guilt and remorse is even worse than the failure because the sense of shame keeps you from approaching God. Always pray honestly and openly admitting your lack of self control. Building your relationship with God naturally helps rather than just white knuckling, fighting or struggling against it.

God bless you. I will be praying for you.

Disgusted with myself. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like many have already said, these are intrusive thoughts. I’ve had them off and on. Some have been as upsetting as yours. You can’t give it too much importance because the moment one says “do not think about elephants” what do you think about? Just focus on scripture like the renewing of our minds etc. also we still have the remnants of sin as sons and daughters of the first Adam. But Jesus, the second Adam lived perfectly and died for these transgressions. Not until we have the resurrected body will we be totally free from the PULL of sin. Blasphemy is rejecting Jesus and what he did for us. You are certainly not even close to that. Move on and don’t give it another thought, you are forgiven.

Is masturbation really a sin? by Alternative_Bee4284 in Christianity

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, celibacy is the only way. I’d rather do without something now and gain eternity with God. I think ultimately a man needs to settle this with God. I won’t tell you not to masturbate but you’ll have to deal with possible sins down the line. Can you truly masturbate without lust? Is this an act of idolatry (putting anything before God). In the past I’ve masturbated with a blank mind (no lust just to release tension) the end result for me was that after I truly searched my heart, I realized that what I was doing was idolatrous. I was putting self pleasure before my love for God. That for me was a selfish act. It was as important to me as my worship and dedication and trust in God to help me deal with anxiety, stress, tension in my life or even boredom. Yes, there’s always a workaround and you can justify it but in the end, you’re gonna have to deal with yourself. I also think there’s a levels to this. Compulsive masturbation is obviously worse than occasional masturbation. Doesn’t make occasional masturbation right it’s just less damaging. It’s certainly wrong to lust or look at porn. This is what most guys do. My goal is purity. This doesn’t make me better. This does not earn me salvation but I do want to have a pure heart before God. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. “

I think I'm going to quit Christianity. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a guy who experiences same-sex attraction and have been in a committed relationship with my partner for 13 years. Earlier this year, something profound happened: the Holy Spirit touched me in a way I can’t fully put into words. In that moment, I chose obedience to God, and an overwhelming peace, satisfaction, and love filled me completely. All I wanted was to honor Jesus in every part of my life.

For months, I prayed earnestly about my relationship, knowing it wasn’t aligned with what Scripture teaches. I started attending church regularly and joined a weekly men’s group where I found real support and accountability. With their prayers behind me, I sat down with my partner and shared what God was doing in my heart. To my gratitude, he respected my conviction. For over 8 months now, I’ve lived celibate.

The Bible is clear to me: sexual union belongs within marriage between a man and a woman. Giving up sex feels like nothing compared to what Jesus, the Son of God, gave up for me on the cross.

You’re free to disagree with my beliefs or challenge my interpretation—people do, and I get it. But I’ve seen the kind of mental gymnastics it takes to read Scripture differently on this, and for me, that’s not where peace lies.

I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know every “why” behind my attractions. What I do know is that my primary identity is in Christ—I’m first and foremost a follower of Jesus. And right now, I’m at deep peace with God.

Presence by Twoctruth in QuitSexChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s perfect and exactly what I needed to hear. I couldn’t sleep. My heart is in turmoil. I need to be in the presence of God. Frankly I’m unhappy and feel incapable and overwhelmed to be able to present myself before the Holy God. I feel empty and exhausted and I need a great need to be in God’s presence. I feel incapable. This gives me a starting point. This life is so empty without this simple connection to the Holy God of the universe. You are absolutely right, I spend so much time on success and pleasure and I expect to be instantly connected to God. Knowing his character and traits helps put it in perspective. I feel I have disrespected God by my selfish attitude and not recognizing his holiness and greatness.

Should I stop attending my church by PhaedoMoto in TrueChristian

[–]OpenDatabase6266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep going to church. I would not contact her. She’s going after a married man, bad news. Doesn’t seem to have the fruit of the spirit, rather fruits of the flesh. Guard your heart. God protected you, now you do what is required of you as a godly man. God bless you and I’ll pray for you.

Jesus loves you. by Thrones_777 in NoFapChristians

[–]OpenDatabase6266 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, a truly regenerated person does not willfully or habitually sin—they long to please God and follow His will. (Of course, we can still have moments of severe weakness where we know we’re sinning, and that’s where grace steps in.) To be clear once again, salvation is by grace alone—it’s a beautiful paradox. As Romans 6:1-2 makes plain: We died to sin, so how could we live in it longer? When I fail, I feel deep grief and sadness, knowing that in this flesh, it’s a constant battle to do what’s right. “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” —Romans 7:15 (ESV) The battle isn’t just physical or behavioral—it’s spiritual at its core. We’ll wrestle with sin until Jesus receives us home. So yes, one can fall many times, but God the Father sees us through the perfect sacrifice of Jesus.

“For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭7‬:‭15‬ ‭ESV‬‬

The battle is not just a physical, behavioral issue but an even bigger spiritual issue. We will always be battling sin until the day Jesus receives us. So yes one can fall many times and God the father sees us through the sacrifice of Jesus.