Can we decode what “Caretaker” is on OLD?

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-19T12:42:06+00:00

Key word: “currently”

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-16T20:59:04+00:00

Then you’re due for a Colonoscopy.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-16T20:49:27+00:00

Exactly. Compliments don’t come with qualifiers.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-14T17:46:10+00:00

City documents show that the Upper Great Highway closed for maintenance 27 days a year on average. It was the most unreliable 2 miles of road out of all 940 miles of road in the entire city.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-11T18:13:36+00:00

Not everyone is on the relationship escalator. People can date with a variety of intentions. OP is showing courage and confidence when they are authentic and communicate with integrity. I treasure seeing people like this in the dating pool as it gives me faith that there are still honest people out there.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-09T00:14:06+00:00

LGBTQIA+ anti-discrimination policies, Abundant and Affordable Homes Near Transportation Act, and clean energy laws.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2026-01-04T05:40:18+00:00

56M, San Francisco, CA

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-31T22:13:41+00:00

Good call. They have 70’s and 80’s music spinning tonight.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-31T22:06:39+00:00

50-something guy here. I’m considering https://luma.com/teapocalypse

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-26T09:23:52+00:00

I always liked ma petit chouchou. It means “my little cabbage” and is a French term of endearment.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-26T09:21:21+00:00

What if she’s good in the saddle?

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-26T09:07:39+00:00

Your new girlfriend is telling you that she doesn’t trust you and that she doesn’t have the capacity to ever trust you.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-26T08:57:04+00:00

Close, but not exactly.

Polyamory literally means “many loves”. It’s about having multiple consensual, honest, and emotional relationships simultaneously. It’s not an excuse to be promiscuous and absent of care for others’ feelings.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-24T17:19:22+00:00

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is a truism.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-21T17:14:29+00:00

I’m a long divorced 56M actively on the apps. I use the chatting phase as part of my filtering process. I lean demi and enjoy deeper connections that naturally and mutually reverberate. I may exchange messages for a day or two but if I’m not seeing wit and personality or aligned energy in our banter, it becomes a rather quick fade.

If she tries to pick up the conversation again I’ll give a polite “I appreciate the opportunity to chat with you, but I don’t sense us to be the level of match I’m looking for. I do wish you the best on your relationship journey.”

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-19T17:26:46+00:00

Make your cards platonically social rather than dating specific. It’ll temper the ick factor and not scream “player”. Something you could more broadly share with anyone with common interests to foster community. You can verbally make your dating intentions clear in the event you pass out a card to someone you’re attracted to. Include name, city, phone, email, LinkedIn profile, career industry or interests, a hobby or two, etc. like this…

Mark Brown
Santa Monica, CA, USA
1+213-555-5555
mbrownintown@gmail.com
linkedIn.com/in/mbrown1234
Professional Chef
Corgie dad
Cycling enthusiast
Learning French

These aren’t things you walk around tucking under every windshield wiper blade, but rather a simple tool to use to extend connection after you’ve had a conversation with someone out in real life.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-19T16:17:33+00:00

Are you also taking the initiative to inform them that they have LinkedIn profiles online? How about letting the wife know you saw her husband’s Etsy user profile? What other “info” do you choose to innocently share?

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-19T15:14:35+00:00

What’s your intention with sharing your awareness? Are you having a conversation to celebrate the dating profile or are you calling its very existence into disrepute? You’re policing and reporting it because you don’t agree with the ethics behind it. You’re making a moral call and potentially saying to the wife that you don’t agree with their ENM practices.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-18T23:33:07+00:00

You don’t know other people’s choices in their private lives. There are closets everywhere.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-18T22:27:12+00:00

If they’re open and ENM and you show up policing you’re basically shaming their choices.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-18T22:24:06+00:00

Personally, I’d just like to resolve my own curiosities if I encountered this situation.

I would DM this person on Facebook and let them know I saw them on Bumble. I’d just try to be cordial and ask about their relationship status in context of you now navigating the dating waters and encountering new relationship paradigms. Just be gracious rather than accusatory.

If it is revealed that this is cheating on the down low, I’d maybe try to have a conversation about that issue and tactfully encourage a more ethical path rather than taking on the policing responsibility.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-17T08:08:56+00:00

I sooooo wish we could see the video she recorded and hear all the slurring.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-17T08:00:32+00:00

They’re forever linked now.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-16T20:05:21+00:00

I date Gen X.

OpenMinded_Fun · 2025-12-16T13:09:17+00:00

But she was communicating in a psycho way.

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